im stuck in a love crime

kk here's my problem.
I like this guy Matt, he likes me, he's always taken but still we flirt and say we love eachother. But ive heard of mates he cheats. And whenever im with someone he gets jealous, but i never get jealous of his relationships. Im dating Adam, but he doesnt believe one of the most deepest secrets i've told him and he ignores me, this is my second time with him but im not sure whether it's just to get back at his ex who's a total *naughty word* she's horrid.
Then theirs another guy, Jordan. who's kinda really nice
we have so much in common, we spend time together, we go on games together, and i suppose dates. He adores me and says he wants to be with me, but he goes and dates ppl for company because he's lonely he knows my secrets, he knows about my modelling and acting and he believes every word i say , and i wanna be with him, but im worried..
But i think this guy on this forum likes me, im not sure though ;[
Cos i'll probably end up regretting dumping Adam for Jordan Or Matt, when Adam did believe me, but the conversations are always the same, dull and boring, but with the other 3 it's different. And now he appears to be stopping coming on the computer FULL STOP saying he has nothing to stay for and he's not got a life. Im worried!
Im not a **** if thats what your thinking from reading this, im just liked i suppose, not being big-headed there by the way :P
Pls help.

Many thanks,
VICTORIAAAAA x

Ostinato (Forum Moderator) - Please don't avoid the filter.

Are all these online relationships and friendships :S?

real life

ah k im sorry just th ecomputer bit didnt make sense as why would u worry if he doienst come on the pc if u know him in real life all i can say is follow you heart just make sure u dont set it up to be shattered

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Originally Posted by Vicks!

kk here's my problem.
I like this guy Matt, he likes me, he's always taken but still we flirt and say we love eachother. But ive heard of mates he cheats. And whenever im with someone he gets jealous, but i never get jealous of his relationships. Im dating Adam, but he doesnt believe one of the most deepest secrets i've told him and he ignores me, this is my second time with him but im not sure whether it's just to get back at his ex who's a total *naughty word* she's horrid.
Then theirs another guy, Jordan. who's kinda really nice
we have so much in common, we spend time together, we go on games together, and i suppose dates. He adores me and says he wants to be with me, but he goes and dates ppl for company because he's lonely he knows my secrets, he knows about my modelling and acting and he believes every word i say , and i wanna be with him, but im worried..
But i think this guy on this forum likes me, im not sure though ;[
Cos i'll probably end up regretting dumping Adam for Jordan Or Matt, when Adam did believe me, but the conversations are always the same, dull and boring, but with the other 3 it's different. And now he appears to be stopping coming on the computer FULL STOP saying he has nothing to stay for and he's not got a life. Im worried!
Im not a **** if thats what your thinking from reading this, im just liked i suppose, not being big-headed there by the way :P
Pls help.

Many thanks,
VICTORIAAAAA x

Ostinato (Forum Moderator) - Please don't avoid the filter.

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Okay. Well first of all I definetly don't think your in a good relationship at the moment, and it seems your with him for all the wrong reasons. You know you have feelings for other people, and would like to be with other people so it is completely unfair to stay with him. You also feel he isn't giving you adequate attention, and it's obvious you two arn't really communicating effectively, which is basically vital in a relationship. Therefore, the first thing I think you should do is split up with this guy.

Now you have the choice of going with one of the other 3 boys. To me, it seems this Matt is a bit of a player. He's already with someone and he's telling you he loves you, so he could easily just do this again. If your friends, the people you should trust most, are basically trying to warn you off and tell you that he doesn' treat girls very well, then I think you really need to take heed of this advice, and perhaps he won't be the right one, because now your friends have told you that, you will always be worried he's going to end up playing away...

Now, you say there's someone online who you like... I don't really think this would work. For a relationship to be perfect as it should be, I feel you need to know the person before hand slightly, and know what their like. I feel you can't get to know someone properly and fully online, as you can basically only get to know them based on whay they tell you, and for the relationship to get serious etc. you would need to eventually meet up with them which is extremely unsafe, and I definetly don't recommend it.

However, you've said there's this boy Jordan. From what you say, he seems to respect you and you seem to get along well. I say just take a wee break from relationships at the moment and completely decide and be certain you know what you want.

Good luck!

ty and sorry for avoiding the filter, i just didnt want ppl thinking that. ;[
Well im sure to get my application [when i send it] for forum moderator declined..
Ah well. Thanks for the advice

To be honest dearie, you don't seem to have the right mindset for any of these chaps. However, I still think you should probably try it on with all of them, that way you get to see who can satisfy you best.

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To be honest dearie, you don't seem to have the right mindset for any of these chaps. However, I still think you should probably try it on with all of them, that way you get to see who can satisfy you best.

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Lol I completely disagree. That way she will just get herself a bad reputation, and people will think the worst of her. Aswell as this, by doing that she will end up ruining her chances with at least one of the guys, and he could be the one who she should be with...!

Bad rep perhaps, but she's probably what? 13? 14? In a couple of years she'll be moving on to college with a new start, so she can spend her time now deciding how she wants to be. It seems pretty clear that all involved are there only when it's convenient (the other guys date other people and she seems to be getting around them quite well), so I'd say they're all pretty good at keeping a lid on things and not letting each other know about the others, so she could probably get away with sleeping around if she really wanted to. What she really needs to do though, is realise that you don't have to like everyone who likes you.

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Originally Posted by FlyingJesus

Bad rep perhaps, but she's probably what? 13? 14? In a couple of years she'll be moving on to college with a new start, so she can spend her time now deciding how she wants to be. It seems pretty clear that all involved are there only when it's convenient (the other guys date other people and she seems to be getting around them quite well), so I'd say they're all pretty good at keeping a lid on things and not letting each other know about the others, so she could probably get away with sleeping around if she really wanted to. What she really needs to do though, is realise that you don't have to like everyone who likes you.

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Bad rep? =S - I never bad rep'd anyone... lol.

Anyway, yeh, I agree she does have the whole of her life ahead of her and she doesn't need to date veryone she likes, but I don't think she should see them all. It'll just teach her bad habits for the future, ;p, and I just don't agree with it really... lol ;p

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Originally Posted by Ostinato

Lol I completely disagree. That way she will just get herself a bad reputation

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That's what I meant by bad rep, sorry ^_^

I don't in any way encourage bigamous behaviour, it's just that as you said at the beginning of the thread, she's with her boyfriend for all the wrong reasons and the others are players. She knows this herself (whether she takes it in or not is another matter completely) and still wants to be with them all. I'd say it's a case of "love addiction", where she needs to feel loved at all times. When she's not with/talking to her boyfriend, she seeks it elsewhere.

Well, not all players.
Jordan's not for sure.

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She's probably 13, 14 ?

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no, im 16, and i've not dated quite a bit lately, im not a player k ? i dont have a bad reputation, im not being big headed or nothing, im just liked at my school, so i just shrug it off.
I dont really feel like datin all that much, just needed help

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Originally Posted by Vicks!

Well, not all players.
Jordan's not for sure.
no, im 16, and i've not dated quite a bit lately, im not a player k ? i dont have a bad reputation, im not being big headed or nothing, im just liked at my school, so i just shrug it off.
I dont really feel like datin all that much, just needed help

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Awww i honestly feel sorry for u im going thro the same thing with gals :eusa_wall

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Originally Posted by Vicks!

I dont really feel like datin all that much

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So you just want to shop around, like I said. I'm not being judgmental, I'm not saying it's a bad thing, just stating how it seems. My advice would be that if you're going to be "trying them all out" as it were, let them know that they aren't alone in being with you, otherwise you'll break some hearts and potentially cause a lot of trouble.

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Originally Posted by FlyingJesus

So you just want to shop around, like I said. I'm not being judgmental, I'm not saying it's a bad thing, just stating how it seems. My advice would be that if you're going to be "trying them all out" as it were, let them know that they aren't alone in being with you, otherwise you'll break some hearts and potentially cause a lot of trouble.

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Fights :P