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okay.. here goes...
my mum knows my brother knows ..
but my dad .. how do i ever BEGIN to tell him ?
i mean i really need to tell him because i dont want it to be
"hi did this is john.." on the first night of him finding out..
i would like him to know i am in relationships with men.
my dad is a bit of a... i dont know... i really dont care what he thinks.. but i just worry about him over reacting or something.. :S i dont know any advice ?
Well, my mum found out, I never told her. Then she told my dad about 3 weeks on. Why don't you ask your mum to tell your dad? It will be alot easier.
Youll feel alot better if you just get it off your chest yourserlf
Sit him down and explain or try writing a note to him ?
... my mum and dad.. my mum doesent think its a good idea that i tell him nor my brother.. but i think its important that he knows.
Yeah, I get where your coming from.
Georgia's idea is good, my friend is telling his mum this week and he is writing her a note, and leaving it in her room just before he goes to his exam.
why is 50% of the forum "gay"
most of you are like 13, surely you cant know when ur that age.
EternalMasque (Forum Moderator) Please stay on topic.
Shows how much you know, that has nothing to do with this topic. But yeah, how would you know if your not gay or bisexual yourself?Quote:
Originally Posted by Dawson
Hes about 17....Quote:
Originally Posted by Dawson
You can't help who you are, Just tell him he should understand :)
It has to be hard if you have exams too, worry of the exams and what people/parents will say
LOL AT BARKSEH GIVING ADVICE FOR ONCE.Quote:
Originally Posted by Barkseh
Yeah, do what he said though.
maybe try writing him a letter or summit, that way you can think about what you want to tell him and not get caught up in the moment ect..Quote:
Originally Posted by iBenji
right okay i am older than 13 ..Quote:
Originally Posted by Dawson
also .. i could change.. i wish i would change back.. but for now i am gay .. so i will deal with that for the time being and if i have feelings for girls again... then yeh sure.. i will be str8 ? people change alot but more than 90 percent of the time it sticks.
Btw, I've known that I was gay all my life.. just never addmitted it to myself, but as far back as I can remeber, I always looked at the guys walking down the street, so Dawson, SHUT UP :)
No you shut up, i was just saying most people fake it.
Yes, millions of people have made threads about people faking it, and no you never you basically said he cant be gay because hes too young
anyway, back on topic.
i know where your coming from, alot of teenagers say they're and it turns out they are just saying it as bisexual/gay is like a fashion now. i'd tell your dad tbh :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Dawson
Ok. You are still growing up. I think I am right in saying you used to be attracted to girls and had relationships with them, so that just proves you are at least partially straight. During puberty, you have a lot of stuff going on in your body and your hormones are crazy, sometimes causing people to become 'confused' with their sexuality. A huge majority of boys in their teenage y ears, grow up thinking their gay or having thoughts and feelings for boys, but it ends up only a phase, and once they are done with puberty realise they still infact like girls.Quote:
Originally Posted by bi!!y
I think as you did like girls before, and asliking boys has only become recent, you don't necessarily have to tell him, as it might just end up it's only a phase your bodies going through, and therefore might just save a hole lot of hassle and problems.
Good luck with whatever you do though! :]
[And the fact that someone said almost 90% of this forum think they are gay, just proves my fact that a huge majority of teenage boys go through this phase and feel as though they are gay, but it doesn't always turn out like that in the end!]
Yerh, same.Quote:
Originally Posted by EternalMasque
have nothing against gays.
well years ago when i was 13 i was atracted to men and went out with girls.. and when i was doing stuff with them i was thinking of boys.. and nouthing really worked with girls i faught it off
but in the end its men i am atracted to i cant remember being atracted to girls.. but as you say i am open to change but i wouldent know what it would be like to be atracted to girls soo.. i think i am gay..
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Originally Posted by Ostinato
I told my mum, she was very understanding - Then she told my dad, he never spoke to me for like two days, then we started speaking..
We don't speak about my sexuality anymore, which is the way I want to keep it :P
I thought that I was bisexual, but now I know I am definetly gay! Bill darlin, your dad doesen't exactly need to know right now, if you know what I mean, nor does Jamie.
No matter what your parents think Bill, they'll always love you - That's what I found out ;)
How about you try and find out how your dad feels about gay's.
It might help to know.
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EternalMasque (Forum Moderator) Please don't make posts which are likely to create arguements.
Just the thought of you doing it is brave.
We all get this crazy sterotypes that our dads want us to be perfect. Probably just wants you to be happy.
Let it out, or you can keep it to yourself and try effortlessly to hide it from him.
Well this is coming from a straight point of view so take my advice or not if you want. Benji has a good point about getting your mum to tell your dad but I feel that your dad would 'appreciate' it more and have more respect for you if you told him yourself. However if you got your mum to say it if she included something like 'he didnt know how you'd react and was worried' that could mean your dad would feel guilty about it no matter what his feelings are. But at the end of the day no matter how bad your Dad's reaction is your not going to change because you can't help being Gay[you might be bi I'm not sure] and it's what you want to be. If he gets angry at the end of the day you will realise that if he can't accept you for who you are then he can't really love you that much. I also thought the note idea was a good idea by leaving a note for your Dad to read when you go out or something. But I personally find it's always best to get something off your chest in person. If you do tell your Dad make sure he's in a good mood first in-case it's quite a shock. You don't want your Dad to have a rubbish day at work and then get a shock from his son when he gets home. Again this advice is from someone straight so you might not want to use it but I feel comfortable giving advice for either genders so it doesn't really bother me.
Good luck anyway!
If hes your dad, dont be scared of him.
Im not gay so it must be hard to tell jaa.
People, sorry for going off topic, but youre not gay/bi by loving someone. At this age, the teenagers aren't really sure with their sexuality, so they once fall inlove with men, and once with women. And only people who 'do it' and 100% sure they love their gender - are gays...
P.s;: I'm straight :p lol
Hi mate, Persoanlly me, My dad is like youres, you should sit him down on youre own, or write him a little note.