Needing Help.....

Normally I Give Advice But I Need Help On this One.

You see my friends and I arent that close anymore. I do like them as people but I feel I dont fit in. Im not used to holding back feelings and talking proper, having to be smart and doing the sleepover thing. I miss being my old self and being able to talk without thinking. It doesnt help that my ex-best friend totally ditched me, went all 'emodepressed' and blamed it on me.

I know i've changed and I'm a different person. Inside I want to move on but can I just leave them? Will they change soon or notice this? Or should I Just pretend everything is fine like usual?

Please help me answer this and sort it out before School goes back

You shouldnt pretend everythings fine, because its not, and soon they will find out anyway. So you should tell them whats wrong, so they know, and they could help yah get thru this. Besides, talking without thinking is a tad dangerous because you could say something bad and then would be like, omg cant believe i jst said that. But dont leave them, tell them, better too tell them now, before they find out.

If you're not comfortable with doing the things that your friends do, then you probably need to move on and get some new chums. If you have any friends who aren't part of the main group, try getting to know them a bit better, get introduced to their group. Shop around, see who's most like you, and most importantly who likes you for being someone who is happy to speak their mind "without thinking" as you said.

If you're wanting to stick with the people you're friends with now, you're just going to have to bite the bullet and see how they react when you do act like you want to. Who knows? They might enjoy it and see a new funny side of you, or it might remind them of how things used to be... like I said, who knows? You can't tell how people will react without testing it. If they don't like you for acting yourself then they aren't worth staying around, and at least you'll know that.

Oh! I thought you were on about being depressed and everything lol. Yeah take Flyings advice..

You never want to change yourself for other people. Be yourself... I know it sounds stupid but when it comes down to the thin blue line, you will know people love you for you and not someone you pretend to be! :)
Best of luck!

Thanks, I guess when school goes back i'll say something.
I dont want to hurt them but if I lie its just going to get worse.

If your friend is an emo, ditch him, and tell him he's turned into an emo, and will probably come out as bi within a year (Emos tend to, it's the new hip thing, you see ;)).

PMSL my friend is/was a chick shes not awfully emo or bi.

Well sound as if you have grown out of them but maybe keep them as friends
and make new ones as well when you go back. That way it will happen gradually and hopefully no-one will feel hurt:)

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Originally Posted by foxyfox00

PMSL my friend is/was a chick shes not awfully emo or bi.

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K then, she. If she's not that much of an emo, she probably won't come out as bi. I've never met an emo guy who didn't claim to be bi though. I know that's a bit of a stereotype, but I don't care :p

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Originally Posted by Catzsy

Well sound as if you have grown out of them but maybe keep them as friends
and make new ones as well when you go back. That way it will happen gradually and hopefully no-one will feel hurt:)

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Just what I was thinking. When you grow up, you often grow out of the friends you hang around with and ultimately make a lot of different set groups of friends as time goes on, and I think this is just you growing out of this group of friends.

You should say something, as they will only pick up on it and it'll all come out worse, but you need to be selective with your words so as not to end up offending them and causing a big argument.

Good luck!

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Originally Posted by Ostinato

Just what I was thinking. When you grow up, you often grow out of the friends you hang around with and ultimately make a lot of different set groups of friends as time goes on, and I think this is just you growing out of this group of friends.

You should say something, as they will only pick up on it and it'll all come out worse, but you need to be selective with your words so as not to end up offending them and causing a big argument.

Good luck!

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What a wise person you are:) <33