Heartbroken... No, really...

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12-09-2006, 10:33 PM
velvet

Heartbroken... No, really...

Please read this as it'd mean a lot to me...
I've been ill weeks and havn't been at school so I went to the doctors today and I got diagnosed with depression. I've only been able to eat two grapes in six days and i've completely lost my apatite.
Now for the relationships part,
A couple of weeks back my boyfriends (Who I have been with three years and I trusted him with my life..) friend added me on msn so we got talking before and decided to have a chat.
Anyway, Johnny (Boyfriend) went on holiday to Egypt for three weeks and he's still away now so he's not aware of all this. His friend told me a lot of things about him.
Like he eats meat, he's always told me he's a vegaterian like I am.
He fancys another girl, I always had supicions of this...
And some other stuff which I don't want to talk about which really upset me.
You guys may not think this is a big deal, but I cared so much about him, and he'd lied in the past and i'd forgiven him....
I loved him more than anything and I really thought it was forever, now i've found out all this stuff and it's totally broken my heart. I'm not well at the moment anyway, and this has just set me off, I can't stop crying and thinking about it, I havn't left my room in days and I just don't know how to forget him... Please help :'l
Oh and, i've seen screenshots to proove all the points above.
13-09-2006, 02:01 AM
Memmish

are you able to speak to him at all while he is in egypt or do you have to wait till he gets back?

i really think you should try and keep calm untill you can ask him about all these lies and see what he says, he must have some sort of reasons for lying to you and prehaps his friend has been exxagerating some of them.

Everyone has been heartbroken at some point and its really hard but you will get over it. You are probably extra upset because its all quite a shock and you can't get answers for any of the things he has done, wait to speak to him and see how what he says makes you feel.

ps. did your doctor prescribe anything for your depression? my friend went on anti-depressants for a while and it really helped her.

hope i've helped in anyway <3
13-09-2006, 08:38 AM
Nightrose

keep Calm Bbz, Um okay so you found all this out from a mate and are you sure that this mate isnt lying to break you to apart, Guys can be so evil sometimes, so i would stay calm and wait for his return and ask him, dont be afaird of it, he may deny but see how things are between you and him.

The screenshots could have beenn edited

I have depression to :( but i havnt seen anyone about it

And remember Forever is a long time to be wrong
13-09-2006, 12:59 PM
velvet

Yes, i've seen screenshots, and they arn't edited and i've seen chatlogs, all the proof I can have really. I don't see why he'd do this though, as he said the night before he went away (we had a row) They he didn't want anyone else but me... So yeah, that's obviously lies.
And yes, i'm on antidepressants.

And I should be able to speak to him sometime this week as he said he'd call me today/this week.
Edit: The row we had before he went awa we sorted out and were fine.
13-09-2006, 01:05 PM
Charlie

Wow, sorry to hear all that, but maybe, your boyfriends friend could of gone a bit over the top with some of the stuff he said, so it might not be 100% truth. You could of saw/heard only half of the stuff, and theres a reason for why some of the stuff happened.

I would just suggest, either, trying to contact him while he's on holiday & ask him about all this, or wait till he is back, and confront him about it, if he denies it, then i would just give it a day or two, then try again maybe?

I hope everything turns out okays.
13-09-2006, 01:14 PM
velvet

Quote:

Originally Posted by Please

Wow, sorry to hear all that, but maybe, your boyfriends friend could of gone a bit over the top with some of the stuff he said, so it might not be 100% truth. You could of saw/heard only half of the stuff, and theres a reason for why some of the stuff happened.

I would just suggest, either, trying to contact him while he's on holiday & ask him about all this, or wait till he is back, and confront him about it, if he denies it, then i would just give it a day or two, then try again maybe?

I hope everything turns out okays.

It is the truth as i've seen proof >-< He sent me the whole months chatlog with him, one of those msn ones, not the notepad ones. (Can't be edited)
He said he'll ring me today/come to a cyber cafe,
And he comes back in three weeks, it's driving me mad. And I know he'll deny it or turn around and tell me to 'get lost' in a nastier way.
As he gets angry when I find out something like that :l
I know it's true also because in the start of the chatlog, Johnny (My boyfriend) tells Anthony (friend) to delete me. So he wouldn't tell me all this I guess...

Thanks for the help everyone +rep to you all.
13-09-2006, 01:15 PM
KHK

You can edit msn chatlogs
13-09-2006, 01:21 PM
velvet

Quote:

Originally Posted by GlitteringGold

You can edit msn chatlogs

Never been able to =S
Let me try...
You can delete stuff, but not add =S
So either way, he said it.
13-09-2006, 01:22 PM
KHK

I can add, delete, modify, whatever to msn chat logs :S
13-09-2006, 01:27 PM
velvet

Quote:

Originally Posted by GlitteringGold

I can add, delete, modify, whatever to msn chat logs :S

Weird... I can't...
Mh, I still think he said it, as I remember his friend slagging me off and he just put 'lol'. But then his friend slagged off this other girl and he stuck up for her :l

It's just fustraiting because I really do love him. Even after all this and I don't know what to do at all...
13-09-2006, 01:29 PM
KHK

Mhmmm it's tricky

sounds as if you love him more than he loves you...
13-09-2006, 01:31 PM
velvet

Mh yeah.
Though, we've had a lot of problems lately.
Last year he was just so perfect :l
He bought me this nice diamond ring, drove four hours to come and stay a week with me.
Now it's like he's a different person :l
13-09-2006, 01:34 PM
KHK

ask him for more diamonds :)
13-09-2006, 01:38 PM
velvet

Lmao,
I just know he'll try and get back with me though :l
We always argue, and I always take him back.
But I think this time it's too much -.-
13-09-2006, 01:39 PM
KHK

Tell that to him ^
13-09-2006, 01:40 PM
lust

i think you just gotta talk to him, as your cant talk to him right now you just gotta wait til you can.
13-09-2006, 01:41 PM
velvet

Lmao, worth a try.
His mom will kill him when she finds out about all this.
She did last time he lied to me, I get along well with her.
13-09-2006, 01:42 PM
KHK

dont tell his mum about diamonds, he probs never got her any ;x
13-09-2006, 01:43 PM
velvet

Quote:

Originally Posted by clazzeh.

i think you just gotta talk to him, as your cant talk to him right now you just gotta wait til you can.

Yeah, i'll make sure to do that.
It's just really fustraiting because I have all this going throug my head and I can't get it out :l

And no, I won't tell his mom about them :]
He's nasty to her :l She trys to help him and he tells her to shut up and f off. -.-
13-09-2006, 01:48 PM
lust

Quote:

Originally Posted by Romance

Yeah, i'll make sure to do that.
It's just really fustraiting because I have all this going throug my head and I can't get it out :l

And no, I won't tell his mom about them :]
He's nasty to her :l She trys to help him and he tells her to shut up and f off. -.-

about the vegetarian thing, wouldnt his mum tell you if he eats meat or not. at least if you find out the truth about that, thats one thing off your mind?
13-09-2006, 01:51 PM
velvet

Quote:

Originally Posted by clazzeh.

about the vegetarian thing, wouldnt his mum tell you if he eats meat or not. at least if you find out the truth about that, thats one thing off your mind?

Never really asked about it. And his moms on holiday with him so I can't talk to her either, but i'll be phoning her the day they get back to ask about sending his stuff up. He lives in Yorkshire so he has clothes and stuff down here too. So yeah, I can't realy talk to anyone at the moment >-<
13-09-2006, 01:53 PM
lust

Quote:

Originally Posted by Romance

Never really asked about it. And his moms on holiday with him so I can't talk to her either, but i'll be phoning her the day they get back to ask about sending his stuff up. He lives in Yorkshire so he has clothes and stuff down here too. So yeah, I can't realy talk to anyone at the moment >-<

aww ok, well i really hope everything works out for you two x
13-09-2006, 01:54 PM
velvet

Quote:

Originally Posted by clazzeh.

aww ok, well i really hope everything works out for you two x

Thank you. :]
Though, I think the whole, liking another girl thing was the end of the line for me.
But after three years it's hard to let someone go. :l