Originally Posted by
Ostinato
First of all, from your posts I'd like to say I definetley do not think your ready to be having a sexual relationship with your girlfriend.
It is great you have been together for 3 years like you say, and you must trust each other greatly by now etc. However, why must you have sex? If your relationship is fine as it is and has been succesful for 3 years, then why must sex all of a sudden be a big issue and be part of it? :S
If you are having sex with your girlfriend or plan to, I suggest you both talk about. You need to both discuss any consequences which could arise, as you are obviously so scared of, and talk about how you would deal with each situation if they ever came about. For instance, what would both of you do if she fell pregnant? There's no use panicking about it afterwards, as if you are in a serious relationship and are contimplating intercouese you should have discussed it and agreed on a plan before hand.
Also, I don't really understand why you are worried the "condom would have a hole". Unless you are buying a really cheap make from someone off the market or something, lol, I doubt very much there would be a hole. There is government legislations which ensure condoms are all produced to a certain safety standard - therefore you would never purchase one with a hole in it. However, there is a slight chance that it could before or during intercourse and therefore your girlfriend could become pregnant. This is an issue I suggest you both discuss.
I also strongly suggest, as it is your first time you don't do it somewhere like you have mentioned. Having sex in the cinema, or in the park is clearly not a very romantic, hygenic or simply safe place to have sex. I suggest you try and simply find a moment where you can be in a safe and warm house away from any dangers, where things can happen naturally - rather than it being some rushed fumble in a park.
If your girlfriend is saying she wants to do all this with you in the pictures, then I'm sorry but if you are willing to - and her - then you obviously don't have very high standards of yourself - in my opinion. It is simply obscene and generally uncalled for to have sex in the cinema, and as it is your first time I don't understand why you would want to? Most people want their first time to be somewhere special.
Also, if your worried about hurting your girlfriend then you should discuss this with her. Some girls feel pain, others don't. For some the pain is too much and they need to stop, whereas other's it's only to begin with. Some girls infact actually bleed. You should discuss all this before hand and decide what you would do. For instance, agree that you will take it slowly and gently to begin with so she can get used to the feeling, and if it is too painful then you simply stop.
I am quite shocked that you felt the need to post here asking such questions if your considering having intercourse with someone. These are the sort of simple questions and issues I discussed with my girlfriend straight away when we were thinking of become sexually active with each other.
I strongly recommend you hold off for a few months and take some time to research the problems that could occur and the issues involved, and discuss them with your girlfriend. :)
