I have issues.

Ever since I could remember, my parents have been hard on me. When my parents were together, my Dad used to tell me off SO much and it was SO loud it used to shock me. Thats when I used to tuck the anger deep down inside me and not let it out.
In 2000, my parents split and it was my Mums turn. My Dad turned really nice and I'm really good friends with him now, even though I get pressured about school a lot for him and he's two-faced; he's cool.
However, my Mum has changed. I no longer love her anymore, and I mean it. She has nagged, shouted and called me so much stuff that its got to a point where I just don't love her anymore.

She cannot trust me, at all. She moans at me for the smallest things; like a sock on my bedroom floor. She thinks its the end of the world when I miss a night of revision. She exaggurates every situation. She makes things up. She twists what she says. She tries to manipulate me, and when I catch her out; she goes mental on me. She shouts at me so loud now that I end up just being silent and I just cry.

Whenever we argue now, all I want to do is be quiet, because she repeats herself over and over again and even though I understand what shes talking about and where shes coming from - I simply don't care about her anymore. I cannot wait till I move out.

But, because me and my Mum have argued so much over the years and I haven't been able to let anger out (only through crying) I've just tucked it all away and its resulted me to have random mood swings and get irritated by the smallest things. Sometimes my sleep is disrupted because I feel annoyed with her. I have to walk on eggshells around her because she wants me to do chores and all that rubbish crap (I do chores every night for her and shes still disrespectful!)

I have spoken to her about all this problem stuff, and she just calls me stupid and ridiculous and depressed, and tells me that if I hate living with her and my stepdad then I might aswell live with my Dad. But then later on, she doesn't want me to go. She makes me feel guilty all the time, on purpose so I will do something for her and I've just become cold around her now.

Its also got to the point where I just cry, hysterically in my room because I am that annoyed by her. I also get the urge to kill something (literally) when she goes on at me.
I said to her once, "If I don't get 5 GCSE's to get into Sixth Form then I'll go to College."
SHE WENT MENTAL. She is a full on snob now, and I can't stand it anymore.

My head also feels like a huge knot and I have split personality problems, I also seem to get too intelligent on my Mum and it ends up hurting her feelings - then she tells Paul (my stepdad) who has the most intimidating voice on this planet. I get moody with him and he's like, "OH WHEN I WAS YOUNG I WOULDN'T DO THIS!" - I get angry because he is not my real Dad and he has NEVER been a father, so he doesn't understand teenagers.

There is never a day, now, that my Mum doesn't nag at me. I want her to stop being so strict on me. Only last week, my Grandma (Mums mum) had argued with Paul and Mum about me because she thinks I've had a crap childhood (damn straight) and they're too strict on me. I had to deny all of it and pretended I liked doing the chores for Mum so it didn't cause any more problems.

I just don't know what to do anymore.

Same problems with me almost EXACT.

when she shouts you just feel like punching her but you cant because you dont want to hurt her? EVRY single day. ill try and talk and be nice, she screams and shouts.

i try my hardest to make her happy but no, SHE SCREAMS AND SHOUTS.

im sorry but people like them just cant be reasoned with. you just gotta tell her to **** off and leave or sit there and deal with it.

i saved my mums life twice. and i get no respect for it. i know how you feel, and i hoped it was only me. but these people do exist. if you need to know how to cope with any situation just PM me.

Move in with your grandmother. Or tell your mom that she is ruining your life.

tell her what you just wrote here.

That's pathetic. My friends mum is like that. It's sad. She didn't care when he broke his arm, which is shocking. In the end he hit her after so many years of being pushed to the limit. Now, his mum does everything for him.

Just tell her your sick with the way they act to you.

you got to say something

I found this really emotional to read. ;[

I can't suggest the best of answers. You need to show her exactly what you have written on here. Get her to read it, if she calls you pathetic or depressed. Then you need to make her realise that she is the one being pathetic.

If this is effecting you, which it is, you need to move in with your father, or grandmother. Over stress can lead to many more problems that can be extremely dangerous.

If she then doesn't wan't you to leave. Tell her straight;
"You've made me move out, not me."

Hopefully she will understand, over time. Have you spoken to you dad about this? He might be able to help.
I think right now, you need support from the most people possible. You also need to remove the guilt from yourself. You shouldn't be guilty for opening up.

I know this isn't really the best advice in the whole world, but i wish you the most luck.

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I am of the opinion your mother is only taking her anger at on you because she is hurt inside. Is she the sort of woman who would hit you if you shout back? Because what I would do is shout back and tell her to "grow up" or "get real," because shouting at you for a sock on the floor doesn't seem normal... Weaken this wall of anger, by shouting at her, make her understand your feelings, and she may understand hers.

Or you could as Crimson says, move out. But I would go with what I said if you want to save your dying relationship with your mother.

You need to tell someone about this & how you feel. If you feel it gets to the point where you can no longer live with your Mum then can you ot move in with your Dad if you get on well with him?

What a terrible shame :(

I hope everything works out

Really sorry to hear this. If this is the case, I suggest you move out, its not worth destroying your life living with her like this anymore. Talk to your grandparents, or you can call a helpline [like childline], just google it for its hotline. I know that you feel sad for your mom, hurting her by leaving her, but it is really coming to a point that there is no other choice, only by leaving her, she will see how important you are to her, and not treat you like dirt. So by doing so, you are actually helping her be a better person. At this point, I would like to ask: Is her temper like that with your other relatives?

Anyway, I suggest calling your relatives first, when you can't really get good advice from them, go for a helpline.

Good luck in solving this problem :)

Tell her this

"You utter ****, you have ruined my childhoood. When i am older you will expect me to look after you like you (sarcastically) looked after me. But i wont, i am going to leave you out in the cold, ignore your wishes and treat you like scum. Just like the way you did to me"

My frbest mate used those exact words and now his life is a lot better.

basically tell him everything you just told us,
no one should be treated that way especially by their own mother ;l
if shes not reasonable go do what she said for you to do,
go live with your dad.
tell your grandma everything that she does, seeing as she has the guts to stand up to your mum.
i hope everything works out.

when she next time argues with u shout at her & she will understand that & she'll think that shes gone 2 far