Should I Give Him A Chance?

Well, ive been working witt his guy for about a month, and ive had feelings for him. In the beginning he had sed he liked my friend, but later he tells me that he didnt actually like her, but his friend had convinced him to try to like her. And now he says he likes me, but i dont know if the whole thing about he liking my friend is true or not, and that im just a back up.. since my friend had kinda rejected him. He had recently just asked me out, but i havent given him an answer yet. I dont know what to do, and whether or not i should give him a chance or not. Please give me some advice on what to do, and your opinons. Thanks =\

psh, he thinks he can get anyone, he goes for someone gets ditched and turns to you, dont be second fiddle! Hehe fiddle, thats funny :p. but yeah, i'd say no =D

edit: If i was a girl

I think u should give him a chance. You never know once you try. Even if it doesn't work out you'll know atleast you tried and make the best of it.

Say no, if he is using you for a back up...

Give him a chance but dont go too far as you may regret it.. he sounds like a ***** tbh but..

No, no, no! Nobody likes being 2nd place. That's what you'll be if you say yes

hm, i kinda wanna give him a chance, but im not sure if he really likes me.. because sometimes he doesnt really answer me.. and sometimes hes very caring.

Yeah, he's like your second choice, if theres nobody else to talk to.. he will talk to you.

but he always send me texts to know how im doin, and sometimes calls me, but sometimes online, he doesnt even talk or try to start a conversation

i'd say no. he sounds dodgy.

i totally have no idea what to do..

I wouldn't like to be Second choice if I was you.
It seems hes been rejected and is just moving onto the next person.
Way to see if his intentions are true :]

lol work.. all the people i`ve liked lately have been from there.. scum.

anyhow, yeah, i think it seems kinda weird.. if you like him enough i would give it a try.. but not if you like him so much that it would hurt bad if things didn`t go well..

well ive took your advices, and i decided to give him a chance, so now we're going out. But it doesnt really feel like we're in a relationship, and it seems like he doesnt want anybody to know about us, especially my friend. that he says he doesnt like.

He wants to shag you. That's about all ;)

To be honest I havn't fully read the whole situation as I don't have a lot of time but though I would just make a wee comment - and the guy most likely doesn't deserve a chance from you.

However my girlfriend nearly didn't give me a chance at the start of our relationship because I had a bit of a tough time in life and had stood her up a couple of times... but she finally gave me another chance and we have been together 2 years and it's the best relationship we have both ever been in. :)

If his feelings can float around so easily, maybe you should take a step back before you jump into a possibly hurtful situation.

i'd play hard to get :P maybe give him a chance just not so easily so he doesnt think he can get anyone he wants.

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Originally Posted by jellme

but he always send me texts to know how im doin, and sometimes calls me, but sometimes online, he doesnt even talk or try to start a conversation

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Online is a different thing :S


Like you said, i do that with my gf, i text most of the times, and not online becasue i'm always busy. if she wanted to talk to me, she would message me ect.

Let's go with this...

I think he's worth one chance.

Don't be too optimistic, and don't necessarily get straight into it, see how it is. See how you feel in the relationship. If you don't like it, it's your right to get out of it.

You could talk to him about it- or maybe he isn't that type. We're only here for ideas, since we don't know every last detail.

He could be worth it.
He could not.
There's only one way to find out.

But, don't become a doormat. If he does something wrong, don't overlook it, point it out. If he doesn't act on what you tell him, he's not listening to you and then, you get straight out.

If you do decide to get with him, tell him how you feel. Remind him he has one chance and if he messes that one up, he's not getting another.

well thanks for your advices, maybe i should just take it slow.. to be honest, sometimes i get kinda paranoid ... because he has alot of friends that are girls.. well i dont know.. maybe its just me.. and ive been trying really hard to talk to him.. but i think hes kinda whatever about it..

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Originally Posted by :Hazel

i'd play hard to get :P maybe give him a chance just not so easily so he doesnt think he can get anyone he wants.

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so what would you say playing hard to get would be? like not picking up his calls?

I would personally say no, it seems like a rebound sort of thing. Reject him and go with his best friend :O YEAH!!!!

P.S Hard to get is acting like you don't care what he says, and you can pick up his calls just be busy and not seem intersted :P Don't be too hard to get then he will just break it off... Have fun

hmm okay ill try that, well i think i have tried that, but not really working.. well i sorta have feelings for him.. but sometimes it gets me kinda mad when he talk to other girls more than me.

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Originally Posted by jellme

but he always send me texts to know how im doin, and sometimes calls me, but sometimes online, he doesnt even talk or try to start a conversation

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THATS JUST US BEING BOYS

i should of listened to the people who sed no, i just found out hes cheating on me, and hes giving me a load of **. well anyways i thank you guys for your advices.

I wouldn't give him a chance, sounds doggyy.

Bit late there mate.

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Originally Posted by jellme

i should of listened to the people who sed no, i just found out hes cheating on me, and hes giving me a load of **. well anyways i thank you guys for your advices.

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u make it sound so srs.
children nowadays act like they're so mature nd in such important relationships.
it's laughable.
dnt wri its nt the end of the world diddums.