Something that's been bothering me

Alright, so I'm bisexual. You guys are the first people I've told. I'm afraid to come out to anybody; including my best friends. I am more afraid to come out to my parents because my dad is a homophobic, and knowing him, he'd kick me out when it was legal as soon as possible, or disown me (:\), and I'm not sure what my mom would think. With this problem, it makes it alot more uncomfortable to come out to any of my friends either.

It's been bothering me because since about Sunday, it's been in my mind all day about coming out and literally I was dreaming about coming out last night and on Monday.

don't come out and randomly start lezzing out with your friends and ask them if they have ever thought they were bi, lesbien..
your dads harsh

You're pondering whether or not to come out, meaning you're not ready. When you're ready you will know and it will happen, don't worry about it now. It's a shame about your Dad but that's the unfortunate case with some people - a gay mate from work has the same problem, his Dad doesn't speak to him.

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Originally Posted by cheezycheetos

Alright, so I'm bisexual. You guys are the first people I've told. I'm afraid to come out to anybody; including my best friends. I am more afraid to come out to my parents because my dad is a homophobic, and knowing him, he'd kick me out when it was legal as soon as possible, or disown me (:\), and I'm not sure what my mom would think. With this problem, it makes it alot more uncomfortable to come out to any of my friends either.

It's been bothering me because since about Sunday, it's been in my mind all day about coming out and literally I was dreaming about coming out last night and on Monday.

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Don't come out right now, your proberbly just young and confused. When your like 25 and have a girl your dating and thinking of spending your life with then maybe you should come out. Its not the end of the world that your friends and family do not know that your bi.

what they dont know wont hurt them

it will if they find out

well coming out can never be easy, boys in my school that have come out with being bi are completely social rejects now, even tho i don't agree with this it's still done.

About your dad i'm sorry but I have no advice for that, No one can tell you what to do in this situation.

Do whats right for you, If you're worried about coming out maybe now isn't the right time.

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Nia

I'm going to say the harsh reality: About your dad - it doesn't seem much to be done.

When i first told my dad he didn't speak to me for a week, i got dinner left outside my bedroom door, and that was it. HOWEVER, that's just an extreme example. As garion said, if your thinking you can't do it, don't. Only do it when your completely ready.

well like wot most said.only come out when u are totally ready.yeah its hard.well i dunno bout ur dad.best thing is come out when ur well ready.

Just to let you know I'm a guy. This is a spamming account except for this thread

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Just to let you know I'm a guy. This is a spamming account except for this thread

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oh seriously i fort ur a girl lol:P

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"So Girly"
o.o

anyways uh, yeah don't come out till your ready.
as that guy said, what they dont know wont hurt them lol

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You should have stated in the beginning of your thread that your a male :P

Listen up sexi jen: It smells like fish and looks like chicken, I'd certainly like to stick my **** in.

Well, I think you shouldn't be afraid of what people might think. If they have a problem with it, that's they're problem. They should accept you for you & that's all that matters. You're still the same person. I think you should build up some courage before coming out. Try not to think about the negatives.

Dont come out yet!,


Do you know if your actully gay? i mean, do you jyst look at boys bums? that all? i do that sometimes, alot of boys do it :P. I mean, are you sure that your gay, maybe your thinking this becasue you love your friends, it called BEST friends ;).

I would wait a few years, and i would come out after i kissed/sex/touched that person ;)

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Originally Posted by cheezycheetos

Alright, so I'm bisexual. You guys are the first people I've told. I'm afraid to come out to anybody; including my best friends. I am more afraid to come out to my parents because my dad is a homophobic, and knowing him, he'd kick me out when it was legal as soon as possible, or disown me (:\), and I'm not sure what my mom would think. With this problem, it makes it alot more uncomfortable to come out to any of my friends either.

It's been bothering me because since about Sunday, it's been in my mind all day about coming out and literally I was dreaming about coming out last night and on Monday.

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I don't understand why once someone realises they are bi or gay they feel the need to tell every single person.
Do your parents really need to know at this time? Do they need to know that you also would have sex with a man as well as a woman?

Its been bothering you since Sunday, what is that a couple of days?! Think it over and plan it before you do ;)