Help +rep about internet dude coming to stay

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16-12-2007, 10:09 PM
Nightrose

Help +rep about internet dude coming to stay

Hiya guys
right theres this internet guy who im friends with with and we are well kinda together since we are meeting at christmas.
My mum said no hokey pokey when he comes down, but she just thinks hes a friend. we arn't going to anyway since we are sleeping in diff rooms but the problem is that hes got me something for christmas from ann summers as a joke, and i have to open my present before he comes down to stay, and i dont know what my mum is going to say and she might not let him down? please help =[[
i dont know what to do tbh
and i have got him a christmas present to
so meh
help

Ive known him for 3 YEARS AND HES THE SAME AGE AS ME PLUS IVE SEEN HIM ON WEBCAM AND SPOKEN TO HIMONTHE PHONE =/
16-12-2007, 10:13 PM
drama

some guy you met off the internet is coming to your house with lingerie he bought for you?

i'm sorry but reading that makes me disturbed.
Have fun though - can't rly think of advice for you.
16-12-2007, 10:16 PM
Nightrose

ive known him for 3 years tho
=/
maybe i should have metioned that

Quote:

Originally Posted by Samxcore

some guy you met off the internet is coming to your house with lingerie he bought for you?

i'm sorry but reading that makes me disturbed.
Have fun though - can't rly think of advice for you.

LOL my mates meeting her bf from Swizzyland that shes only known for 5 months and hes 19 and shes 15 =/ and their going out

thats disturbing tbh

=/
16-12-2007, 10:18 PM
drama

oh right ;].
16-12-2007, 10:21 PM
Cwmbran

How old is he?
16-12-2007, 10:22 PM
Nightrose

16 and im 16
16-12-2007, 10:22 PM
Mr.OSH

Speak to him about it and maybe not show your mum the present? Hopefully he'd understand your problem if you spoke to him about it and you could get something sorted?
16-12-2007, 10:25 PM
Ruley

*equaly disturbed...*

and i agree with the above, u might have to just talk about it...
16-12-2007, 10:25 PM
Nightrose

Quote:

Originally Posted by opensourcehost

Speak to him about it and maybe not show your mum the present? Hopefully he'd understand your problem if you spoke to him about it and you could get something sorted?

he Understands that my mums very protective and he only got it for me as a joke tbh, still i did ask him to wrap it serperate from the other one he got me so i can keep that one hidden, but im not sure hes done that tbh. ive said tohim not to give me it as i wont use it or need it also.
16-12-2007, 10:27 PM
Cwmbran

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Originally Posted by Nightrose

16 and im 16

Ok.

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Originally Posted by opensourcehost

Speak to him about it and maybe not show your mum the present?

Yeh. If he's bought you something sexual he will obviously want something in return and I don't mean a cuddly toy.

I'm guessing he will expect something to happen between you two, I have a friend in real life who met up with a guy from the internet once, both were same age and strangely enough he came down for Christmas as well. He made a move on her, she said no but he insisted luckily her mum was home and he was thrown out and they haven't spoken since as far as I know.

Hopefully that wont happen to you, only advice I could really give is be careful.
16-12-2007, 10:28 PM
Mr.OSH

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nightrose

he Understands that my mums very protective and he only got it for me as a joke tbh, still i did ask him to wrap it serperate from the other one he got me so i can keep that one hidden, but im not sure hes done that tbh. ive said tohim not to give me it as i wont use it or need it also.

He's probably just trying to joke about and not meaning anything bad. You'd have to make it clear to him that you don't want it and that although the thought of it is amusing and nice you just don't want to upset your mum. Either that or try to hide it and make sure that your mum doesn't see it.
16-12-2007, 10:30 PM
Nightrose

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cwmbran

Ok.

Yeh. If he's bought you something sexual he will obviously want something in return and I don't mean a cuddly toy, or to see you wearing the lingerie.

I'm guessing he will expect something to happen between you two, I have a friend in real life who met up with a guy from the internet once, both were same age and strangely enough he came down for Christmas as well. He made a move on her, she said no but he insisted luckily her mum was home and he was thrown out and they haven't spoken since as far as I know.

Hopefully that wont happen to you, only advice I could really give is be careful.

My step dad is going to be home all the time hes around and my mum willbe home in the night. Hes not the type i dont think, he wouldnt dare try it tbh
and thank you for the advice =]]

Ill rep when i can =]]

Quote:

Originally Posted by opensourcehost

He's probably just trying to joke about and not meaning anything bad. You'd have to make it clear to him that you don't want it and that although the thought of it is amusing and nice you just don't want to upset your mum. Either that or try to hide it and make sure that your mum doesn't see it.

Yeah im gonna see why he says when i say its really not a good idea to give it to me even though he did it as a joke =]] hopefully he will understand the situation plus ill rep you when i can =]]
16-12-2007, 10:32 PM
Cwmbran

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nightrose

My step dad is going to be home all the time hes around and my mum willbe home in the night. Hes not the type i dont think, he wouldnt dare try it tbh
and thank you for the advice =]]

I don't mean to put you off, as thats just wrong in my books.
But I knew this guy my friend met before he came down and I didn't think he was that type and I was wrong, I spouse as long as you have got people around you he won't try anything so if you go out somewhere with him make sure your friends are going as well or something like that.
16-12-2007, 10:33 PM
Mr.OSH

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nightrose

Yeah im gonna see why he says when i say its really not a good idea to give it to me even though he did it as a joke =]] hopefully he will understand the situation plus ill rep you when i can =]]

Good luck. :) It's alright, no problem.
16-12-2007, 10:35 PM
Nightrose

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Originally Posted by Cwmbran

I don't mean to put you off, as thats just wrong in my books.
But I knew this guy my friend met before he came down and I didn't think he was that type and I was wrong, I spouse as long as you have got people around you he won't try anything so if you go out somewhere with him make sure your friends are going as well or something like that.

ah yeah i know you didnt dont worry.
Yeah well we are going most public places anyway simply because i rather not go anywhere, and tbh if he tries anything im not the typeto keep quiet or let it go ahead

=]]

Thank you once again

told him on msn this
- wouldnt send me the ann summers thing for christmas tbh i had a serious chat with my mumand tbh i dont think its a good idea i would send it back if you can =]]

-Him - dunno

- Oh why what happenend?
16-12-2007, 11:18 PM
Tbh

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cwmbran

Ok.

Yeh. If he's bought you something sexual he will obviously want something in return and I don't mean a cuddly toy.

I'm guessing he will expect something to happen between you two, I have a friend in real life who met up with a guy from the internet once, both were same age and strangely enough he came down for Christmas as well. He made a move on her, she said no but he insisted luckily her mum was home and he was thrown out and they haven't spoken since as far as I know.

Hopefully that wont happen to you, only advice I could really give is be careful.

OMG NATH I TOLD YOU NOT TO TELL ANYONE :( -slit lolz

on topic: what he says is true tbh ^
16-12-2007, 11:38 PM
Nightrose

hes not gonna send the underwear now hes selling it on ebay =]]
thats a load of my head
16-12-2007, 11:40 PM
Cwmbran

Did he seem disapointed, when you told him that you couldn't take it?
16-12-2007, 11:58 PM
Teyauna.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Samxcore

some guy you met off the internet is coming to your house with lingerie he bought for you?

i'm sorry but reading that makes me disturbed.
Have fun though - can't rly think of advice for you.

Exactly. That is disturbing. First of all, my mom would not let some random guy I met online come into my house. Second of all, I would not be dating some guy I met online. I'm sorry. And he bought you lingerie? Okay, that's VERY disturbing!

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Originally Posted by Nightrose

ive known him for 3 years tho
=/
maybe i should have metioned that

LOL my mates meeting her bf from Swizzyland that shes only known for 5 months and hes 19 and shes 15 =/ and their going out

thats disturbing tbh

=/

Who cares if you've known him for 3 years. Who cares if you've known him for 10 years! For all you know, he could be some pedophile. And your mate is just as dumb. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be rude.
17-12-2007, 12:17 AM
&

you obviously haven't read the thread - ^^
17-12-2007, 12:20 AM
.L!nK.

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Originally Posted by Rehab

you obviously haven't read the thread - ^^

whats the link to this thing he was gonna give u :P:P:P
17-12-2007, 12:22 AM
Nightrose

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cwmbran

Did he seem disapointed, when you told him that you couldn't take it?

nah he feltlike he had to buy me some Vans trainers or something

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Originally Posted by Teyauna.

Exactly. That is disturbing. First of all, my mom would not let some random guy I met online come into my house. Second of all, I would not be dating some guy I met online. I'm sorry. And he bought you lingerie? Okay, that's VERY disturbing!

Who cares if you've known him for 3 years. Who cares if you've known him for 10 years! For all you know, he could be some pedophile. And your mate is just as dumb. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be rude.

Rofl ive seen him sweetheart =]] Plus you live in Canada i wouldnt expect nothing less. Tbh i have seen him and spoken to him on the phone, doenst canada have a lower age of consent anyway like 14 so theres nothing wrong with him buying me lingerie

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rehab

you obviously haven't read the thread - ^^

Quote:

Originally Posted by .L!nK.

whats the link to this thing he was gonna give u :P:P:P

rofl
http://www.annsummers.com/single.asp...t=379&pid=4224

and he already has it

agreed
17-12-2007, 12:32 AM
Cwmbran

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nightrose

http://www.annsummers.com/single.asp...t=379&pid=4224

He obviously wanted something in return, no guy would buy that for a joke.
Well they would say it was for a joke and then persuade you to put it on and let them watch. :rolleyes:
17-12-2007, 12:38 AM
Nightrose

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cwmbran

He obviously wanted something in return, no guy would buy that for a joke.
Well they would say it was for a joke and then persuade you to put it on and let them watch. :rolleyes:

i guess your right =]]
but i wouldnt have done anyway
hes deicded to get me a pair of Vans Trainers or some other gift now for some reason
18-12-2007, 10:02 AM
,Rachyy,

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nightrose

Hiya guys
right theres this internet guy who im friends with with and we are well kinda together since we are meeting at christmas.
My mum said no hokey pokey when he comes down, but she just thinks hes a friend. we arn't going to anyway since we are sleeping in diff rooms but the problem is that hes got me something for christmas from ann summers as a joke, and i have to open my present before he comes down to stay, and i dont know what my mum is going to say and she might not let him down? please help =[[
i dont know what to do tbh
and i have got him a christmas present to
so meh
help

Ive known him for 3 YEARS AND HES THE SAME AGE AS ME PLUS IVE SEEN HIM ON WEBCAM AND SPOKEN TO HIMONTHE PHONE =/

Well I used to play habbo until I took a break and I am currently back, I was in a little group and there was a girl in there, Savannah, she was a DJ with me on RadioHabbo and we were really good friends, we went on webcam like everyday and we spoke on the phone after we decided to give each other our numbers. We eventually started writing letters, and then last year I flew to California from Texas and I stopped in Arizona to see Savannah, she came to the airport and we met.

My situation is kinda similar but not, talk to your mom and she will let him. Let her talk on the phone with his parents, just let her triple check everything is okay then I am sure it will be a good Christmas this year. Assure her that nothing will happen, if it does happen you can't help it. I mean how far away are you from this guy? Is he flying a distance or something..?

She could be concerned that he still isin't who you think he is, but parents are confused these days because they arn't that "in tune" with technology so she still may be worried.

I hope that helped :) <3
20-12-2007, 03:44 PM
Clowgon

Quote:

Originally Posted by Samxcore

some guy you met off the internet is coming to your house with lingerie he bought for you?

i'm sorry but reading that makes me disturbed.
Have fun though - can't rly think of advice for you.

Lmao kind of strange.
20-12-2007, 03:45 PM
Clowgon

No offence but maybe he is a perv ready pounce all im saying is be careful the world is a crazy place. Bad idea
inviting him round ure's.

Edited by Elkaa (Forum Super Moderator): Please do not double post within the editing time.
21-12-2007, 02:03 AM
Calzeh

keep his presents in your bedroom as to not upset him or anyone else. you're 16, it's not like it's wrong or dirty - guys are like that, they often dont know what to buy and end up buying stuff like that as it's easy and can be taken as a joke.

i've been cautious about meeting anyone for the first time, no matter how long i've known them. take a friend with you as it'll calm your nerves and obviously in the minute chance he's not who he says he is, you wont be alone.

hope this helps, and have a brilliant christmas!
21-12-2007, 12:12 PM
alex 1889

Aww thats the internet humour we all know and love, but for some reason the rude and slightly obscene humour wont work in real-life, reading your thread clearly shows why. Ill some it up in a lanuage youd know

Hes a firefox, your an internet explorer and your mums the maxed out firewall stood between you. He tries to give you a virus, if the firewall spots it hell be deleted forever :(
21-12-2007, 01:52 PM
Minstrels

Quote:

Originally Posted by alex 1889

Aww thats the internet humour we all know and love, but for some reason the rude and slightly obscene humour wont work in real-life, reading your thread clearly shows why. Ill some it up in a lanuage youd know

Hes a firefox, your an internet explorer and your mums the maxed out firewall stood between you. He tries to give you a virus, if the firewall spots it hell be deleted forever :(

That made go... LULULULULULULUL :D
25-12-2007, 11:31 PM
Nightrose

Lol to the person that bad repped me

i wasnt dissing Canadains for the love of god
i was saying its werid that someone finds it disturbing that im 16 and have a guy buying underwear for me when of course the legal age of consent in Canada is 14 =/

i wouldnt spec any less from a Canada as in well they have a lower age of consent than the Uk =/ so people in Canada are having sex at a younger age.
26-12-2007, 04:51 AM
Zak

Your 16, you're legal?

You can get presents from Ann Summers, who cares what your parents think. You can do as you wish, you're old enough.

If they don't like it they just can't face the fact that your growing up. My mum & dad would laugh tbh.
26-12-2007, 09:07 AM
blah blah blah

thats rather disturbing. someone said in the thread about technology growing. thats exactly it, you seen him on webcam and talked to him on the phone. im not saying that you wouldnt not know him completly im jut saying that not everyone is as they seem. and also what if he did try something? you said you wouldnt just be quiet but do something about it. what makes you think he would understand and just sit there??? he bought you lingerie! he wants something!

Its not about having confidence to say no. Its about being smart and being aware of your situation befor something bad happens.
26-12-2007, 12:59 PM
Earthquake

I've actually met someone from online but they was my r/l mates mate so their was no risk, also is he down at yours?
26-12-2007, 03:46 PM
Ugawa

Hide the prezzie? ur mum aint gotta see it does she?

XX
26-12-2007, 03:54 PM
Wig44.

He could be a friend and the lingerie could be a joke but I reckon he is up for it tbh
26-12-2007, 04:01 PM
beth

someone i met on here is one of my best friends now and i see him all the time? but i don't think the problem here is meeting the guy, i find the prospect he's bought you lingerie for the first time you've met a little strange.
things will be awkward as it is ;l.
01-01-2008, 08:31 AM
timROGERS

The whole lingerie thing does seem a little creepy (understatement) to be honest ;) Just so you know, it's really awkward when you meet someone you've known online for a long while. My sister did it and it's hard know what to say - things just seem to come out easier over MSN :P