I get jealous easily....

Well yeh here goes lol..
Well theres this girl [my ex] and we went out for around 6 months then we broke up which is a long story. Anyway its been 3 months since weve broke up and i still love her, and well she loves me too. She just wont say it :S

I spend time with her, we hold hands, hug, cuddle and all that, and then kiss when i go BUT were not going out which might sound abit strange lol..

anyway she has this male friend who she was "best friends" with for around 2 years before she became friends n before she got with me. Now theyve never been out but there were rumours about her and him going out which I know was ******* because I asked her and she said no and
well i trust her i think.

That boy moved abroad now and they still talk on the phone, msn, bebo etc and I get jealous for some reason. I dont know why, whenever she speaks to other boys i get jealous and feel insecure.

Personally i think its because i dont think im good enuf for her and I have this fear of loosing her altogether

What can i do so that I dont get that jealous? Because when im jealous i make stupid decisions hastily and then regret them later on.

Thanks in advance x

Tell her you'll give her a dino if she signs a contract to stay with you forever!!!!!

You have hit on the head - it's your insecurity that is the problem. You need to like yourself a bit more, maybe. Jealously can wreck any sort of friendship and the more you act that way the more she is going to be put off. There is not harm in her having a genuine friend of the opposite sex. I get on with boys better than girls myself. As long as she treats you properly I am sure there is nothing to worry about and in any event at our age it is inevitable that friendships do come to an end, sometimes, and we carry on to find better ones! :)

;o I have the same problem I'm always jealous =/
Lol i can't help it, but I don't let it show so yah.. ;)

You see thats the difference. I dont show that im jealous. I sometimes act abit wierd with her but usually I dont show it.

Thanks Catszy for the advice above.

and lol at Carello's post.

It will take time to adjust to the difference in your relationship that's all.
It's a great thing that you have survived so far and are still really good friends :)

If he's moved abroad its no problem. That most properly won't lead no where so thats not a worry. I'm sure you've flirted around with someone of MSN or online.

But Catzsy has summed most of it up!

You dont realise how close they were before though. Since is when i hardly knew her. Now when he comes back, next year she'll spend more time with him rather than me

you see thts where jealousy comes in LOL. But she is really sweet in what she says on msn and irl.

Get back with her? Seems the sensible thing to do.. then she knows shes not just the sidedish for when you want a teenage kick.

As for the boy, how do you know he's not her gay best friend? :]

Many girls have gay best friends.

You shouldnt really get jelous, but i see where your coming from :) Maybe if your relationship was more solid you would feel more secure about her talking to other guys? If you trust her, then you will trust her around other guys, and know that she wouldnt cheat on you or anything like that. ?

Catczy basically got it spot on.
Write down a list of why people love you and read it every morning and every night.
Might help you get more confident and less insecure.
I'm sure she loves you for who you are, you seem like a lovely bloke.
Lol yeah, could well be a gay best friend;)
:P

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Originally Posted by Xeros

That boy moved abroad now and they still talk on the phone, msn, bebo etc and I get jealous for some reason. I dont know why, whenever she speaks to other boys i get jealous and feel insecure.

Personally i think its because i dont think im good enuf for her and I have this fear of loosing her altogether

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Same, I had/have this problem.
Its caused alot of problems with my gf :/
I've been trying to get rid of it lately though.
You just need to trust her :)

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Originally Posted by CamyRFC

Same, I had/have this problem.
Its caused alot of problems with my gf :/
I've been trying to get rid of it lately though.
You just need to trust her :)

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Don't call her "it" :o!!!

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Originally Posted by Carello

Don't call her "it" :o!!!

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When I said 'it', i was referring to my paranoia and insecurity.
I love my girlfriend so much, dont want rid of her lol.

My Best friend is also a girl aswell as my EX
im also the same around here i feel that
you just need to leave it go by that's
what ive done of late.

everyone gets jealous one point in a realtionship
u obviously feel threatened by this boy
is e fit lol.

I'm ALWAYS jelous,
Just get with it,
Tell her the truth,
Youll be fine!