[Gays] Do you get offended..

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16-01-2009, 10:53 PM
Dentafrice

[Gays] Do you get offended..

When someone says "that's gay" or "your gay" or "thats queer" or something like that?

Please tell us why and if you do.
16-01-2009, 11:32 PM
ToxicPaddy

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Originally Posted by Dentafrice

When someone says "that's gay" or "your gay" or "thats queer" or something like that?

Please tell us why and if you do.

I'm not gay, but I don't see how you can use the word gay as an insult.

Put it this way:
If you call someone gay, there's 2 ways it can be taken. One is that, you are gay, so how can it be an insult because its a factual statement. The other was is it's not true, so if it's not true, how can it be an insult?
17-01-2009, 12:58 AM
Sammeth.

No, because I use those terms myself. It would be so petty in my opinion to start getting offended over the littlest things and naming everything as homophobia. Getting offended by that is gay.
17-01-2009, 01:04 AM
buttons

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Originally Posted by Sammeth.

No, because I use those terms myself. It would be so petty in my opinion to start getting offended over the littlest things and naming everything as homophobia. Getting offended by that is gay.

so r u!!!!11
and lol. referring to them as GAYS (even though that's what they are) does sound harsh :D
17-01-2009, 01:39 AM
leah

"[Gays]" <-- SMOOTH!! lol
I wouldn't see how it is offensive tbh
17-01-2009, 01:55 AM
HELPER-Ghost

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Originally Posted by Sammeth.

No, because I use those terms myself. It would be so petty in my opinion to start getting offended over the littlest things and naming everything as homophobia. Getting offended by that is gay.

I agree, i'm gay and i use it too.
17-01-2009, 03:10 AM
RandomManJay

I would say these terms aren't really seen as an inference of sexuality anymore, so calling someone gay doesn't have the same effect as it would have decades ago since its used so much by society that the word as an offence has lost meaning and can be seen as just a word used to imply 'I'm trying to offend you'.

Also, my friends and I use those terms as well, some of which are gay (including myself to some degree since I'm bi), and we don't take offence, or imply the very meaning of the word to the insult ;).

*I know, It's a bit long winded.*
17-01-2009, 03:24 AM
beth

i'm not gay, but tbf i find yr title slightly offensive, rofl. it's just a bit blunt. OI GAYZZZ?!?!?!?!

but yeah, i don't agree gay should have a negative connotation, but it does and it's so thoroughly used in modern society, i think many gay people have just come to terms with it. cause you're not gonna singlehandedly flush it out.
17-01-2009, 03:42 AM
Awfy

How can they take it as an insult since it's technically not their word anyway. I don't remember the Oxford just agreeing to hand over the common word for happy to a sexual preference...
17-01-2009, 04:19 AM
beth

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Originally Posted by Awfy

How can they take it as an insult since it's technically not their word anyway. I don't remember the Oxford just agreeing to hand over the common word for happy to a sexual preference...

that isn't the argument though, you could say that about any word in the english dictionary.
that's like calling someone a ******** and then saying "how can you be upset, it's not your word anyway."
18-01-2009, 01:59 PM
Slowpoke

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Originally Posted by ToxicPaddy

I'm not gay, but I don't see how you can use the word gay as an insult.

Put it this way:
If you call someone gay, there's 2 ways it can be taken. One is that, you are gay, so how can it be an insult because its a factual statement. The other was is it's not true, so if it's not true, how can it be an insult?

Not really, say if you were to call someone a nobhead, most people would feel offended although it's obviously not a factual statement.
18-01-2009, 02:34 PM
Technologic

lmao no. i say it all the time and im gay.
18-01-2009, 02:38 PM
Monopoly

lol, no.
i'm gay and i use it more than anyone i know prolly.
18-01-2009, 02:49 PM
Moh

I'm Bi, and I use them all the time :)

A friend I know who uses them now and then always says sorry to me tho :P
18-01-2009, 04:26 PM
Excellent2

What about shirt lifter? Do you get offended over that?
22-01-2009, 04:57 PM
Clowgon

I'm bi myself - I pretty much use the word "Gay" all the time.

I think the word gay isn't really much of a :O now, than maybe 70 years ago?

My form Teacher uses it very often.
22-01-2009, 05:01 PM
scottish

noone seems to mind, i use *** gay and queer all the time. o.0
22-01-2009, 09:34 PM
Metric1

I have a friend that is gay so I have to watch what I say. I always used to say that's gay, or you're a *** but I thought about it and I learned that it sounds stupid and it does not make sense, so I use other words instead.
22-01-2009, 09:36 PM
kk.

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Originally Posted by ToxicPaddy

I'm not gay, but I don't see how you can use the word gay as an insult.

Put it this way:
If you call someone gay, there's 2 ways it can be taken. One is that, you are gay, so how can it be an insult because its a factual statement. The other was is it's not true, so if it's not true, how can it be an insult?

do you call someone straight?!
22-01-2009, 09:42 PM
Moh

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Originally Posted by kk.

do you call someone straight?!

I guess some gay people could be offended by that :P

The reason people use gay as an insult, is because their using it to referee to something bad, i.e. "That's so gay!". So their not saying something has a sexuality, their saying "That's so stupid" or "That's so ****".

So if a gay person thinks straight activity is disgusting, then they could be insulted by it?
22-01-2009, 09:52 PM
kk.

yeh but if you say something like, that's so gay, as in to something bad, then gay people may take that as gay being a bad thing. This would make them be offended by the use of the term because its used for insults when its actually perfectly natural to them
22-01-2009, 09:54 PM
Moh

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Originally Posted by kk.

yeh but if you say something like, that's so gay, as in to something bad, then gay people may take that as gay being a bad thing. This would make them be offended by the use of the term because its used for insults when its actually perfectly natural to them

Well its usually used without thinking, so their not personally trying to offend.
22-01-2009, 09:55 PM
kk.

true, but its the fact that its so commonly used now because it was used to cause offence. Now, not so much, but some may still find it offensive
22-01-2009, 09:58 PM
Moh

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Originally Posted by kk.

true, but its the fact that its so commonly used now because it was used to cause offence. Now, not so much, but some may still find it offensive

And some just like to use it as an excuse to bash at straight people xD
22-01-2009, 09:59 PM
kk.

yeh but that would be going back to the point, why should being gay be an insult!?
22-01-2009, 11:17 PM
Technologic

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Originally Posted by kk.

yeh but that would be going back to the point, why should being gay be an insult!?

Because the bible said so.
22-01-2009, 11:25 PM
kk.

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Originally Posted by Jebus

For example, many Christians don't know that:

Jesus says nothing about same-sex behavior.
The Jewish prophets are silent about homosexuality.
Only six or seven of the Bible's one million verses refer to same-sex behavior in any way -- and none of these verses refer to homosexual orientation as it's understood today.

http://www.soulforce.org/article/hom...-gay-christian
23-01-2009, 11:52 AM
PriceTags

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Originally Posted by Awfy

How can they take it as an insult since it's technically not their word anyway. I don't remember the Oxford just agreeing to hand over the common word for happy to a sexual preference...

The way Oxford works is to find out what words are being used, in what context and what to mean, and report on that in their dictionaries. They don't say "gay means happy, here homosexuals, you can have it". It's fallen into use, and Oxford have reported that. Its first use in a sexual context was about prostitutes. If you sold your body, you were 'gay'. If you look in the Oxford dictionary today, the meaning of homosexuality would be in there as well as that of jolly and cheerful.
23-01-2009, 12:26 PM
Sammeth.

Yeah, exactly. Society decids the meanings of words. For example, the word spastic used to be a perfectly acceptable term for someone with Cerebral Palsy and there used to be The Spastic Society which was a charity for those sufferers. However due to society and people taking that word and adding negative connotations to it, the charity had to change their name to Scope and now the word spastic isn't exactly a nice one. After a word gets used enough and enough eventually the meaning will simply change to what is the most common usage, whether it be a good use or a bad use.
23-01-2009, 02:54 PM
leah

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Originally Posted by Sammeth.

Yeah, exactly. Society decids the meanings of words. For example, the word spastic used to be a perfectly acceptable term for someone with Cerebral Palsy and there used to be The Spastic Society which was a charity for those sufferers. However due to society and people taking that word and adding negative connotations to it, the charity had to change their name to Scope and now the word spastic isn't exactly a nice one. After a word gets used enough and enough eventually the meaning will simply change to what is the most common usage, whether it be a good use or a bad use.

Exactly, thats why sometimes the Law is misinterpreted because of the way society change the meanings of words over periods of time.
23-01-2009, 03:01 PM
James!

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Originally Posted by HELPER-Ghost

I agree, i'm gay and i use it too.

Your avatar is beyond lame. Nobody cares that you're gay so why put it in your avatar? :S
23-01-2009, 03:48 PM
scottish

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Originally Posted by James!

Your avatar is beyond lame. Nobody cares that you're gay so why put it in your avatar? :S

although i dont particularly like gays but still at that your comment is pretty lame.

Some people put women with basically nothing on in their avvy they do that because they like the image, not to show that their straight?
23-01-2009, 03:53 PM
James!

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Originally Posted by entrance

although i dont particularly like gays but still at that your comment is pretty lame.

Some people put women with basically nothing on in their avvy they do that because they like the image, not to show that their straight?

I was referring to his pic which his main aim for that was to let everybody know he's gay. I don't paticuarly want to see two boys kissing tbh.
26-01-2009, 09:40 PM
Bun

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Originally Posted by Leaahh.

Exactly, thats why sometimes the Law is misinterpreted because of the way society change the meanings of words over periods of time.

oh don't get into statutory interpretation :(, i had enough of that on my law exam.
26-01-2009, 11:27 PM
Mitch4?

i bend over all time and i still call people/things gay
27-01-2009, 12:50 AM
Throne Sofa

gays get offended too easily.
29-01-2009, 02:54 PM
leah

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Originally Posted by Cod

oh don't get into statutory interpretation :(, i had enough of that on my law exam.

rofl sorry!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mitch4?

i bend over all time and i still call people/things gay

love your posts mitch xox
29-01-2009, 03:03 PM
Soy

I hope they do feel offended

Edited by Garion (Forum Moderator): Please do not be rude / make homophobic comments, thanks :)!
29-01-2009, 06:17 PM
IceNineKills

i live in brighton so gays and and straights are all the same.
29-01-2009, 10:52 PM
Bun

you're all gay.

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