U FINK U NO A PERSON BUT U DONT

idk i really need to vent cause im fed up of feelin upset n all emo depressed [without the slashin]

right basically.
i have been in love with this girl since year 8 or so where everyone used to not pay much attention to her and didn't think much of her except me, but i didnt really have anything to talk to her about properly except the odd wierd conversations about school etc in form. Then she went to crufts one day and i used to be in to dogs for some gay reason and took interest and started talking to her the day she got back about it etc.
then at the end of the week we had got quite close and i thought right monday ill ask her out ye!

THEN
one of my best friends at the time [i now h8 him lil wang foot ****] asked her out on saturday and she said yes, and he knew i was gunna ask her out etc. n then i still was really good friends with her just i thought well she never be interested in me. she broke up with that noodle leg wierdo after like 2 weeks haha. then we like met up with some other friends n went to the parks n monged out n stuff all day with a bunch of us and were like really close friends and then a couple years passed and then in year 10 everyone else started noticing how she had changed and become like really really fit and i was like yeah but she always has been. and then all her friends kept telling me she fancied me and stuff all the way through gcses like year 10 and year 11 and i was so close to asking her out, then one night i told her i loved her and always have and always will and she just replied "oh i didn't know that" and that was the end of the conversation. then the next couple weeks were wierd and yeah then at the year 11 awards she was voted most pretiest girl which is so true i've always known it and then at prom she asked me to be her date but i had already agreed in year 7 to go with lizzie so i kinda turned up with lizzie and just stayed with the other girl like all the time. then i was gunna ask her out and i found out she like was moving schools for sixth form and i was gutted so i didn't ask her out

then over the summer holidays we met up alone a couple times and she was pretty happy about meeting up we went for a pizza and i paid and that it was chooooong. then when she moved sixth form all the lads there are like posh boys and they all started liking her to and she just forgot about me really. then she got a bf. i was crushed. then they split up. now she has another bf and i met him and some psycho sket who loves me and ive spoken to her once tried to ruin my life alot and she said to him i was pissed off they were going out so he squared up to me and stuff and i walked away then me and the girl started texting a bit like hey u ok etc wuuu2 etc. then like we went to a party a couple weeks ago and both got wasted and i was so hungry there i needed food so she was like "steph bought some crisps!!!!" so we ran upstaires and found the crispy treats and was trying to hide them from other people. and then they came upstaires... so we locked ourselves in the bathroom. then she sat down in this small gap near the sink and pulled my arm to make me sit down too. then when i did she leaned her head on me. and i was drunk and was like aww i love you :) and she was like :) "but i thought your going out with yasmin?" (because we put we were going out as a joke on facebook) and i was like "no im not its a joke" and she was like "oh..." and just hugged me really and that then the others were banging on the door like STOP CHEATIN ON PPLZ GOD. and we were laughing like we seriously wernt but it looked like we were haha! and then aparently i told her i love her and always have and will again there like at the party loads when i was durnk. and we kept running off together out the house into peoples gardens etc. being drunk. then like i texted her a couple nights ago saying is she alright n that and i spoke to her on msn etc and then yesterday her friend [whos party it was] told me that she had said i had been like stalking her! like ***?!?! i only texted her like twice saying is she ok what she doing etc... and happy birthday [it was her bday] and *** how can she say that! and the friend whos party it was was like "shes changed since shes gone there and turned all up herself she thinks all the boys love her etc" and im like she was never like that.. why has she forgotten about me and now said that.. god.. its been so hard trying to move on and its prevented me from having a relationship for like 5 years now its doing me head in i really want to move on but i can't shes my perfect girl and always will be! and grrrr!


[if u read all that and reply ill +rep you haha]

omg my eyes have tears in them from reading all that, i kept getting lost :(

but gahh, i know how you feel, and you feel right now you won't get over her, but you most likely will, and there'll be someone else out there for you, etc..

i'm kinda in a similar situation with this guy, who mislead me and told me he loved me, then just one day he said he didn't and never did..

AND I'M STILL NOT OVER IT, AND IT'S BEEN NEARLY THREE MONTHS.

so it's obviously is gonna take time..

agh yeah something like that happened to me when i was 16.. i had a really bad crush on a guy for nearly 3 years who totally toyed around with me. it made it impossible to like anyone else for all those years.. then i was lucky enough to randomly meet this other guy and we got tipsy and hooked up the first night we met and so i started liking him as a result and we ended up dating for 4 months and i stopped talking to that other guy and eventually forgot about him. the best thing to do if you really want to move on is just to stop talking to her. out of sight, out of mind and all that. then hopefully you'll start liking someone else, or you'll get into a rebound relationship..

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Originally Posted by BobX

idk i really need to vent cause im fed up of feelin upset n all emo depressed [without the slashin]

right basically.
i have been in love with this girl since year 8 or so where everyone used to not pay much attention to her and didn't think much of her except me, but i didnt really have anything to talk to her about properly except the odd wierd conversations about school etc in form. Then she went to crufts one day and i used to be in to dogs for some gay reason and took interest and started talking to her the day she got back about it etc.
then at the end of the week we had got quite close and i thought right monday ill ask her out ye!

THEN
one of my best friends at the time [i now h8 him lil wang foot ****] asked her out on saturday and she said yes, and he knew i was gunna ask her out etc. n then i still was really good friends with her just i thought well she never be interested in me. she broke up with that noodle leg wierdo after like 2 weeks haha. then we like met up with some other friends n went to the parks n monged out n stuff all day with a bunch of us and were like really close friends and then a couple years passed and then in year 10 everyone else started noticing how she had changed and become like really really fit and i was like yeah but she always has been. and then all her friends kept telling me she fancied me and stuff all the way through gcses like year 10 and year 11 and i was so close to asking her out, then one night i told her i loved her and always have and always will and she just replied "oh i didn't know that" and that was the end of the conversation. then the next couple weeks were wierd and yeah then at the year 11 awards she was voted most pretiest girl which is so true i've always known it and then at prom she asked me to be her date but i had already agreed in year 7 to go with lizzie so i kinda turned up with lizzie and just stayed with the other girl like all the time. then i was gunna ask her out and i found out she like was moving schools for sixth form and i was gutted so i didn't ask her out

then over the summer holidays we met up alone a couple times and she was pretty happy about meeting up we went for a pizza and i paid and that it was chooooong. then when she moved sixth form all the lads there are like posh boys and they all started liking her to and she just forgot about me really. then she got a bf. i was crushed. then they split up. now she has another bf and i met him and some psycho sket who loves me and ive spoken to her once tried to ruin my life alot and she said to him i was pissed off they were going out so he squared up to me and stuff and i walked away then me and the girl started texting a bit like hey u ok etc wuuu2 etc. then like we went to a party a couple weeks ago and both got wasted and i was so hungry there i needed food so she was like "steph bought some crisps!!!!" so we ran upstaires and found the crispy treats and was trying to hide them from other people. and then they came upstaires... so we locked ourselves in the bathroom. then she sat down in this small gap near the sink and pulled my arm to make me sit down too. then when i did she leaned her head on me. and i was drunk and was like aww i love you :) and she was like :) "but i thought your going out with yasmin?" (because we put we were going out as a joke on facebook) and i was like "no im not its a joke" and she was like "oh..." and just hugged me really and that then the others were banging on the door like STOP CHEATIN ON PPLZ GOD. and we were laughing like we seriously wernt but it looked like we were haha! and then aparently i told her i love her and always have and will again there like at the party loads when i was durnk. and we kept running off together out the house into peoples gardens etc. being drunk. then like i texted her a couple nights ago saying is she alright n that and i spoke to her on msn etc and then yesterday her friend [whos party it was] told me that she had said i had been like stalking her! like ***?!?! i only texted her like twice saying is she ok what she doing etc... and happy birthday [it was her bday] and *** how can she say that! and the friend whos party it was was like "shes changed since shes gone there and turned all up herself she thinks all the boys love her etc" and im like she was never like that.. why has she forgotten about me and now said that.. god.. its been so hard trying to move on and its prevented me from having a relationship for like 5 years now its doing me head in i really want to move on but i can't shes my perfect girl and always will be! and grrrr!


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I love you for posting this as i'm so bored right now and you have given me something to do love you for ever tonyx.

It sounds like she did like you, and would have jumped at the chance to be with you but you just took too long. I'm in that position right now and its a real *****. Try talking about these old times with her just the fun stuff that you two did together nothing else.

About what her friend said: I reckon the girl you like told her friend that she has feelings for you but she is with someone (correct me if i'm wrong) and she did not know what to do and what to say to you so basically her friend was like "oh i'll sort it out" and said these things about you stalking her. As if the girl you liked did think you were stalking her she wouldnt have locked herself in the bathroom with you.


I reckon she does like you and always has, but you blew your chance all thoughs years ago and she will remember that. Maybe she thought you just wanted to be friends then when you told her you loved her for the first time it took her by suprise as she did like you but tried to get over you as she thought you just wanted to be friends.

As for what to do I can't offer any advice, well I can just try and win her over.

Lol I didnt like the part when your friend stole her. Well It'll take some time to get over.

Use more paragraphs then I'll attempt to read it and give you some advice.

it's ok tony, u can have me babygal x.



but seriously yeh, just ask her or something. if she says yes than woo go you. (watch it tho it might feel a bit weird in the friendship zone). if she says no then the rejection might help you move on u c u c, it's a trap plan.

I thought I was your perfect girl :'(

Maybe you loved her then, but if shes really changed and will lie about you to show off then shes really not worth it, time is the best healer babe!

Dude, exactly the same thing happened to me, i told a mate i was gna ask sum1 out next thing i know thyere snogging well peed

Ha, don't usually read threads that long man! It's tired me out.

Erm... I've been played like that before. Maybe she has changed and got a big big headed, but that doesn't mean things should change between you.

Just give her some time, don't text her let her come to you. I think if you get someone else she'll have something about it... like she remembered what your facebook relationship status said.

Keep working on her, just subtly.

Good luck.

Bit of a long post for you wasn't it? :P

Keep talking to her and offering to go to the cinema and such. Maybe you should be just good friends? Relationships always screw up friendships in my school (hence why I don't get too involved.. :P)

my eyes burnnnn :(

yeah that was like the longest post ever

thanks for some of your advicae but like she wont ever text me saying "hey" or whatever and remember she is still going out with someone who squared up to me im just worried i dont want her to think im wierd but at the same time i dont want to forget about her. i thought about her alot today. i want effy from skins to move to my school =[

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Originally Posted by BobX

yeah that was like the longest post ever

thanks for some of your advicae but like she wont ever text me saying "hey" or whatever and remember she is still going out with someone who squared up to me im just worried i dont want her to think im wierd but at the same time i dont want to forget about her. i thought about her alot today. i want effy from skins to move to my school =[

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Who gives a toss what her friend said? Meet up with her, tell her how you feel (when you're sober) n all that. In no way were you stalking her and tbh, if you go to her, then generally (from what ive seen) girls wont go to you. So text her tomoro, see if she wants to meet up and just get back in her life. You dont have to ask her out straight away.

Well, I see two problems.

You took too long to say anything at all. And then when you did you rushed it saying 'I love you' that will usually just freak a girl out if it comes from nowhere.

I'd advise confronting the situation, it’s the only way to get over it. Ring her/Text her/Meet up with her. Ask about the whole 'stalking' thing see if it's true, and tell her how you feel, don't just say 'I love you' tell her your deep feelings about her, see how she reacts.

If she dismiss' you, you should realise that it's not meant to be.
If she reciprocates your feelings, you live happy ever after, aye.

you are all forgetting she has a boyfriend who squared up to me and doesnt like me.

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you are all forgetting she has a boyfriend who squared up to me and doesnt like me.

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Well u cant do much if she has a bf and wont leave him, you've just gotta wait.

I remember something like this, i liked this girl, my mate said he didnt like her but he did, when i was going to ask her out what does he go ahead and do.
Theres plenty more fish in the sea

omg
lol in read all of tht its so sadd ;'[[
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aw i hope everything works out i love sum1 alot atm have done for a couple of years
always will tbh lol