Was I right or wrong?

So, I've liked this girl for nearly 3 years. However, for about 2 years, she was going out with my best mate so I left it. So this girl is also like my best mate - she tells me everything. So shes kinda on and off with me. She likes me, then doesnt, likes me then doesnt and so on.

Recently, she told me that she also fancied this boy called Alex. Now, he lipsed her and she told her bf about it. Then, she told me that Alex gave her a love bite this however, she didnt mention to her bf.

Someone told him, he dumped her and was really pissed off. So that day, she was crying her eyes out begging him to come back. I was there for her, supported her told her everything would be fine. The next day, we are all chillin' together and this Alex guy comes. They end up lipsing.

I was absolutely pissed off. I tried to save her ass yesturday, making up excuses about the love bite. And then she lipses Alex? I told her what I thought of her (which wasnt rude at all just saying she was wrong and that I was pissed off with her.)

I then tell her boyfriend (my best friend) what she did and he was shocked. When I asked her why she did it she said "He wouldn't of got back with me anyway." when in actual fact, he was gonna. So was I right or wrong to tell him that? Now shes asking if I told him about it.. I'm saying I didn't. Now I aint sure if I was right to tell him and she keeps putting "I lovee youu Lewiss" (Lewis was her ex and my best mate) and that just pissed me off too.

So what do you think. Was I right or wrong?

What on earth is lipsing? I think you are right to say what you wish but your too emotionally involved and wanted to cause something by telling the other lad. I think you have to accept what you have is good and leave it how it is.

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Originally Posted by Yoshimitsui

What on earth is lipsing? I think you are right to say what you wish but your too emotionally involved and wanted to cause something by telling the other lad. I think you have to accept what you have is good and leave it how it is.

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Lipsing is snogging basically lol. Yes, I did want to cause something.. but idk what it was. It just pissed me off so bad. I mean, she gives me hope every god time. Like I said, she likes me the doesnt and it goes on like its recurring. I cant believe her. *REMOVED* she has the nerve to say she loves lewis.. :S

Nvm Lewis, she knows perfectly well how I feel for her. Its like shes rubbing it in my face and when I confront her, she cant see what shes done wrong.. :S I'm sure best mates arent supposed to do that..

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Be careful with your words there, your using an abbreviation.
Maybe she wants to like you when it suites for her well being. She may have feelings for you put at the same time doesn't see the true reality of how it may hurt you. It's a dangerous game mixing friendships and realtionships, i would just be hones with your feelings and stay good friends. It will only hurt more if you carry on.

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Originally Posted by Yoshimitsui

Be careful with your words there, your using an abbreviation.
Maybe she wants to like you when it suites for her well being. She may have feelings for you put at the same time doesn't see the true reality of how it may hurt you. It's a dangerous game mixing friendships and realtionships, i would just be hones with your feelings and stay good friends. It will only hurt more if you carry on.

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I've tried. I can honestly put my hands up and say I have tried my HARDEST. And I honestly mean that. I've even tried avoiding her and not speaking just so I can take some time off to relax and stop liking her.. but it brought me more pain.

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Originally Posted by StalinJoseph

I've tried. I can honestly put my hands up and say I have tried my HARDEST. And I honestly mean that. I've even tried avoiding her and not speaking just so I can take some time off to relax and stop liking her.. but it brought me more pain.

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I certainly wouldn't want to be 'piggy in the middle' on this one. I would distance yourself from this situatiion with both of them. Tell them they have sort themselves out as it's unfair for you to be brought into it.

No, you're in the wrong. You've just been adding fuel into the fire by getting involved. Back away before you get yourself burnt (hehe see what I did there?).

She's hurt you enough I think you were right to do that... if she knows how you feel but still acts like that towards you shes defo not worth it.If I were you I'd stop trying or even being her mate before she really hurts you even more than she is now. You could do a lot better I think, Good Luck.

Sorry mate,but she seems like a total *****.I think you did the right thing but now distance yourselves from them.Let them sort their problems themselves.

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Originally Posted by BlurredView

She's hurt you enough I think you were right to do that... if she knows how you feel but still acts like that towards you shes defo not worth it.If I were you I'd stop trying or even being her mate before she really hurts you even more than she is now. You could do a lot better I think, Good Luck.

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Originally Posted by MrGazet

Sorry mate,but she seems like a total *****.I think you did the right thing but now distance yourselves from them.Let them sort their problems themselves.

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Yeh, I saw that. It's a shame really because I've known her for like 4 years and I never knew she could be like that. Now shes tryna get back with Lewis. I'm trying really hard to get over her. Its like, everyone can be a right cow sometimes, but I never expected that from her. Now i've realised how hard it is to find a decent partner. Your normally get one that has had sex with half of your city, you get one thats perfect but shes taken or isnt interested, or you get a fake one which you think is perfect but turns out to be a right cow.

And the thing thats really pissed me off is that I know my best friend will at one point, end up going out with her again. Which just changes the whole thing around yet again.

I think a lot of it stems from the fact you like her.

Mmmm personally, I wouldn't say you were wrong.
I do however believe you should have maybe also taken the issue up with the Alex guy
Just for fun.

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Originally Posted by Sangreal

Mmmm personally, I wouldn't say you were wrong.
I do however believe you should have maybe also taken the issue up with the Alex guy
Just for fun.

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I was thinking that. Hes a year younger than me and he thinks hes one of those "bad mans" so I am really tempted to smash his face in.

Dude.. i never said beat him up.
Lets not get violent.
Although it's something i would do.

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Originally Posted by Sangreal

Dude.. i never said beat him up.
Lets not get violent.
Although it's something i would do.

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Yes I know thats why I said "I'm tempted! ;)

Both, you were right and wrong by getting involved, but right for telling her what you thought, and as well, she seems like a total ****.

See now that makes no sense?
He was wrong for getting involved... but right for telling the guy...

I said for telling her *REMOVED*

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Either way... right for telling him or right for telling her... thats still getting involved.. which you said was wrong :S

Telling her how he felt, thats nothing to do with getting involved really, he just said what he thought...

Which surely is getting involved :S whatever...