Relationship troubles +REPP

Right, so basically a few days ago I split up with my girlfriend, or ex-girlfriend should I say. The reason was quite simple, she could never be bothered, when I try make an attempt shes always like "oh i cba" and she could go on without talking to me for days, like not even texting me or talking on facebook or anything, so I got quite sick of this so I dumped her.. but now all her friends are going mental at me because apparently she's VERY upset, I try explain my reasons but they just wont listen! And the funny thing is, when I dump her, shes chasing me yet when we get back together, she's just like "i cba" again.

What should I do? I'm looking for a few good helpful paragraphs! I will +repp all those who do!

Thanks :(

just let her do the talking and ignore her friends. Maybe make the effort to talk to her, but let HER tell you if she's upset or not. If she genuinely wants to get back together she'll let you know.

Just laugh at them. You're young right? Love isn't a game, and it's not lets just get together. You have to love each other, nad if you're not happy... Then that's your reason not to be with her. That's why you say don't take a girl by there cover, because inside can be horrible.

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Originally Posted by Rozi

just let her do the talking and ignore her friends. Maybe make the effort to talk to her, but let HER tell you if she's upset or not. If she genuinely wants to get back together she'll let you know.

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she has tried, shes literally spammed me but she only does that when we're not together? :S +repp

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Originally Posted by Conceitex

Just laugh at them. You're young right? Love isn't a game, and it's not lets just get together. You have to love each other, nad if you're not happy... Then that's your reason not to be with her. That's why you say don't take a girl by there cover, because inside can be horrible.

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I do want to be with her, but not when shes in the cba mood.

If she wasn't showing the effort then it's not really fair on you to do all the work in the relationship. If she doesn't try if you get back together after being upset at losing you then its probably for the best that you just end it there. I'm sure she will get over it, just have to stand your ground while they scream at you really - you shouldn't be pressured into going back with someone.

To be honest, it sounds like to me she just wants to be able to say I have a boyfriend and is taking you for a ride by being controlling. I also guess it is embarrasing to be dumped. But in my opinion, it sounds like she deserved it. A relationship works two ways, and if she can't show any emotion for you - why is she going out with you?

If you do want to get back together with her, let her chase you for a bit. By the sounds of it she just wants you to follow her like a puppy. Its good you decided to put your foot down, and left the relationship as by the sounds of it she isn't appriceating you. You have as much rights as she does to be able to be supported by her and for her to talk to you and interact with you quite frankly.

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Originally Posted by Jamesy

If she wasn't showing the effort then it's not really fair on you to do all the work in the relationship. If she doesn't try if you get back together after being upset at losing you then its probably for the best that you just end it there. I'm sure she will get over it, just have to stand your ground while they scream at you really - you shouldn't be pressured into going back with someone.

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I do really like her, but I am just sick of being the one who does everything! :( +repp

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Originally Posted by MrJordan

To be honest, it sounds like to me she just wants to be able to say I have a boyfriend and is taking you for a ride by being controlling. I also guess it is embarrasing to be dumped. But in my opinion, it sounds like she deserved it. A relationship works two ways, and if she can't show any emotion for you - why is she going out with you?

If you do want to get back together with her, let her chase you for a bit. By the sounds of it she just wants you to follow her like a puppy. Its good you decided to put your foot down, and left the relationship as by the sounds of it she isn't appriceating you. You have as much rights as she does to be able to be supported by her and for her to talk to you and interact with you quite frankly.

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The thing is, she likes talking on the phone to me & stuff but she only expects me to do it, not her.. maybe she see's it as something a man should do, but saying that, me doing everything is a bit too far.. EDIT: I gotta wait till I rep you again

Well, I really don't blame you for dumping her. Stick to your guns, otherwise she will think she can walk all over you again. Find a better girl, someone who deserves you! Good luck in what you do anyway.

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Originally Posted by MrJordan

To be honest, it sounds like to me she just wants to be able to say I have a boyfriend and is taking you for a ride by being controlling. I also guess it is embarrasing to be dumped. But in my opinion, it sounds like she deserved it. A relationship works two ways, and if she can't show any emotion for you - why is she going out with you?

If you do want to get back together with her, let her chase you for a bit. By the sounds of it she just wants you to follow her like a puppy. Its good you decided to put your foot down, and left the relationship as by the sounds of it she isn't appriceating you. You have as much rights as she does to be able to be supported by her and for her to talk to you and interact with you quite frankly.

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I agree with most of this.

A relationship requires both the people to make a real effort to show that the real commitment they have for each other, and if she wasn't showing that, quite frankly she's not worth it. She can't expect you to run after her and everything and then cry about it when you dump her for something she wasn't doing quite right, that was her own fault.
If you take her back and you end up where you started you're just going to regret it and it will take you even longer to get over her. You should just let her cry about it for a while, I'm sure she will get over it. If she herself asks to get back together with you and genuinely seems sorry for her mistakes then give her a chance, however if she doesn't seem sorry at all and expects you to do all the work, don't. You're worth much more than that. :)
Good luck with whatever you decide to do. I hope it all works out in the end Arthur, just remember not to let her walk all over you!

Her friends are always going to stick up for her, even if she's in the wrong so don't worry about them, but if that's how you feel then you can't just go back out with her because you feel sorry for her, that's even worse than dumping her, give it a week or so and she'll be over you :)

You and her have been through quite a bit together it seems, is this the same girl who you came to this forum about before? If so then surely you have been through a lot and you have to think to yourself 'is it worth it?'. If you love her, want to be with her and everything then I feel you should give it another chance, however, I think you need a sit down with her and have a thorough chat, tell her how you feel, then maybe she will open up to why she is in the 'cba mode' maybe she has been stressed, busy, but she doesn't know that it was annoying you that much.
Maybe there is a logical reason behind the whole charade.

If she can't be bothered to speak to you then play her at her own game and make no effort with her for a while, ignore her and her friends