Feeling a bit left out

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11-01-2011, 03:38 PM
Narnat,

Feeling a bit left out

Basically I have been feeling a bit left out in my family because my dad and my sister have created a really good bond because they go to football together and she is already really close to my mum. However I can't really find anything in common with anyone and my mum is disabled so she can't go anywhere with me and she is always sore which makes her quite moody and I'm not jealous I just feel a bit left out because it comes across as they like my younger sister better. The only thing in common I have with my dad is Sea Cadets and the Navy. I have tried to get him to come loads of time because the staff want him to come because he has a lot qualifications that he can teach to the cadets but he is always busy or he is away for quite a while and all he wants to do is rest. Any ideas ?
11-01-2011, 03:40 PM
Arron

Try and get into Football and go to the matches with your Dad and Sister :)
11-01-2011, 03:45 PM
matt$

Spend your spare time with friends instead.
11-01-2011, 03:55 PM
Monty

To be honest you need to try and express your worries or they will never know what your thinking! Spend time with them more and hint if you can't.
11-01-2011, 04:23 PM
Catzsy

Well I am sure you could just take your Mum out if that is possible or do something 'special' for her which she would appreciate. It must be hard to be her if she is always in pain. :)
11-01-2011, 04:54 PM
buttons

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Originally Posted by matt

Spend your spare time with friends instead.

>__<

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Originally Posted by Catzsy

Well I am sure you could just take your Mum out if that is possible or do something 'special' for her which she would appreciate. It must be hard to be her if she is always in pain. :)

yeah i agree with this. if you can find something both your mum and you can enjoy it'll be great bonding. my mum is disabled too so she's stuck at home a lot, i find just baking, watching her favourite movies with her or taking her out for dinner is good :) gets us both out the house and time to spend with each other. so if that's possible i really recommend you do it.
11-01-2011, 05:31 PM
Narnat,

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Originally Posted by Arron

Try and get into Football and go to the matches with your Dad and Sister :)

I went to one last night but you can see a bond and like they talk with each other and they know what they are talking about if you get me and I just wasn't really interested.

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Originally Posted by matt

Spend your spare time with friends instead.

But I'm wanting to spend time with my parents :S

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Originally Posted by Monty

To be honest you need to try and express your worries or they will never know what your thinking! Spend time with them more and hint if you can't.

I will try this thanks :)

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Originally Posted by Catzsy

Well I am sure you could just take your Mum out if that is possible or do something 'special' for her which she would appreciate. It must be hard to be her if she is always in pain. :)

I really would but whenever I say oh mum do you want to go here or w.e she says not today I'm busy or if we arrange something she is too sore to go. but thanks anyways :)

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Originally Posted by buttons

>__<

yeah i agree with this. if you can find something both your mum and you can enjoy it'll be great bonding. my mum is disabled too so she's stuck at home a lot, i find just baking, watching her favourite movies with her or taking her out for dinner is good :) gets us both out the house and time to spend with each other. so if that's possible i really recommend you do it.

I think this is a great idea and I will try it.
+Rep to everyone
11-01-2011, 05:51 PM
Samantha

My Mum is also disabled and she struggles sometimes too, we do the best we can to help her and such.

Is she in a wheelchair, or does she use a stick? Does she get sore walking for a while?

Maybe do something that doesn't require moving much.

I would suggest bingo, but then again I doubt you are old enough to play (18).
However, online bingo is fun, you could try that with her. Also it's automatic and it can help her gain vague skills in ICT. Then again if you win it's double the pleasure. As you are online frequently maybe you could show her how to set up and everything. Or you could always use a free bingo site if you are weary of putting details online.

Other than that, keep onto the idea of something that you can do together which will make her not as sore.
Is she able to get a massge or pedicure/manicure or anything? Could try that.
11-01-2011, 07:13 PM
hairpins

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Originally Posted by Narnat,

I can't really find anything in common with anyone … The thing in common I have with my dad is Sea Cadets and the Navy.

eye dunt rly get yur problem hun eye am sorri…
tell tht to ya dad n be lyke. luck dad eye feel lyke im gonna jump of hotel view atm unless i tell u how am feelin

Post edited by Infectious (Trialist Forum Moderator): Please do not make pointless posts, thanks!
11-01-2011, 09:37 PM
dbgtz

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Originally Posted by hairpins

eye dunt rly get yur problem hun eye am sorri…
tell tht to ya dad n be lyke. luck dad eye feel lyke im gonna jump of hotel view atm unless i tell u how am feelin

*REMOVED*

anyway as bad as this sounds but just leave it? Just because they're family doesn't mean you have to be epicly close and do stuff together, I don't do much stuff with my family as bad as they may sound to people.
Also, who says you have to go out and do things? It can be just as nice talking and doing stuff inside.

Edited by HotelUser (Forum Super Moderator): Don't be rude to other members, thanks.
12-01-2011, 11:26 AM
Narnat,

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Originally Posted by dbgtz

please, stop trolling and shut up.

anyway as bad as this sounds but just leave it? Just because they're family doesn't mean you have to be epicly close and do stuff together, I don't do much stuff with my family as bad as they may sound to people.
Also, who says you have to go out and do things? It can be just as nice talking and doing stuff inside.

You have a really good point there about not having to go out +Rep
12-01-2011, 01:36 PM
Seth

This sounds so similar to the situation I am in. Have you managed to resolve the issue and I have almost tried everything that is mentioned in this thread but they don't notice anything or get the hints. Therefore interaction is a nono for me :/
12-01-2011, 03:40 PM
Narnat,

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Originally Posted by Seth

This sounds so similar to the situation I am in. Have you managed to resolve the issue and I have almost tried everything that is mentioned in this thread but they don't notice anything or get the hints. Therefore interaction is a nono for me :/

It still has not improved the slightest. I just made a batch of pancakes and I said to my mum and dad can you try one and tell me what you think and they both just stared at me so I walked back into the kitchen and continued making them. But they moaned that I had not cleaned up but I did say that I would eat them first then clean up..