My 12 year old friend smokes

I'm extremely worried about my friend, shes only 12 and she smokes!!! I went to knock for her a couple of days ago and when i walked in she was downstairs in her lounge smoking, also there was a big ash tray full of dead cigarettes. She made my other friend bring one to school with a lighter !! :0 then she was still smoking whilst walking to the bus stop the bus driver asked how long shed been smoking and she been smoking for over a year. now im really worried about her and if she doesnt stop im not willing to hang out with her.

and luckily I haven't smoked at all.

Im not sure what to do.. help?

Other than telling her to stop, there's nothing else you can do really. You can let her know its effecting your friendship but in the end its down to her. n i'd hardly call it lucky that you havent smoked lol...

how have you not noticed she'd been smoking for a year unless she's probably lying then ok ok
mmmm tell her to stop being such an idiot and stop now before it's too late
or just go on with your life don't give into peer pressure and watch her flush her money n health down the toilet

My mats do it aswell. There was this 'hard' year 6 comming for his induction day once, he got caught smoking weed on his first induction day and got expelled on the induction days lol. But yer my mates smoke aswell, i just let them get on with it and stay out of the way.

well there's nothing rly you can, does her parents know? i mean, i'd just leave it i wouldn't bother telling her parent's if they didnt know.
plus i tried it for the first time when i was 12 for like a week then stopped till i was about 14 so idk might just be a phase unless she really has been smoking for a year... dont hang out with her if u dont want to

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Originally Posted by Bisusz

My mats do it aswell. There was this 'hard' year 6 comming for his induction day once, he got caught smoking weed on his first induction day and got expelled on the induction days lol. But yer my mates smoke aswell, i just let them get on with it and stay out of the way.

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Holy **** weed in year 6? I dont think i even really knew what cannabis was.

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Originally Posted by NaughtyNemo

Holy **** weed in year 6? I dont think i even really knew what cannabis was.

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Same! lol. It was so bad it was in the local paper aswell.

Delete her as a friend on facebook.

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Originally Posted by wixard

how have you not noticed she'd been smoking for a year unless she's probably lying then ok ok
mmmm tell her to stop being such an idiot and stop now before it's too late
or just go on with your life don't give into peer pressure and watch her flush her money n health down the toilet

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ive only known her a cuple of months, she wasnt in my primary and id never give into something liek that even though so many people that i know smoke ( in year 7 )

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Originally Posted by matt

Delete her as a friend on facebook.

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not really going to do much >.<

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Originally Posted by buttons

well there's nothing rly you can, does her parents know? i mean, i'd just leave it i wouldn't bother telling her parent's if they didnt know.
plus i tried it for the first time when i was 12 for like a week then stopped till i was about 14 so idk might just be a phase unless she really has been smoking for a year... dont hang out with her if u dont want to

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yeah her parents let her! and i actully believe she has smoked for a year but i dont no for sure as i wasnt in her primary

Well there's nothing you can really do. You can choose to support her threw it and let her make her own decisions. Or you can stop hanging around with her and ruin your friendship.

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Originally Posted by Bisusz

My mats do it aswell. There was this 'hard' year 6 comming for his induction day once, he got caught smoking weed on his first induction day and got expelled on the induction days lol. But yer my mates smoke aswell, i just let them get on with it and stay out of the way.

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yeah mine do it too, especially when you set them on fire

Introduce ya wee friend to tha herb, yu'ge'me marn. Less damage to tha ol' shape popper marn.

Sit her down and make her smoke the whole pack.

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Originally Posted by NaughtyNemo

Holy **** weed in year 6? I dont think i even really knew what cannabis was.

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As society gains more knowledge and the world becomes more adult friendly, I kind of expected this. Anyway if you really think she should stop, then you should tell her parents even if it risks her attitude towards you. I've noticed my brother getting some smoking side effects, the physical aspects and it's really destroying how he looks. His teeth are starting to go brown and he's been smoking for only a couple of years.

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Originally Posted by buttons

plus i tried it for the first time when i was 12 for like a week then stopped till i was about 14 so idk might just be a phase unless she really has been smoking for a year... dont hang out with her if u dont want to

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Pretty much described me there.. Just I havent gone back :)
So yeah, it's just a phase..

Theres nothing much that you can do, and to be quite frank i think you should leave her alone, itsher life dyou only get one chance at it- If shes chosen to waste it away, get cancer by 18 & die at about 30 then thats her choice.

Theres nothing 'lucky' about not smoking. People who are stupid enough to smoke sneer on those who dont & likewisewe seer on them, try telling a teacher at school about how your worried?

GoodLuck! ~ Polly :dance:

I agree that the knowledge is being learnt at an early age now, same with technology, for example 12 year olds get like laptops and phones for Christmas? i didn't i got toys and clothes etc lol.

Anyway, you can't do much, she isn't going to stop for you if she has been doing it for so long. May I ask how the hell does she buy them? Surely she doesn't look 16/18?

Also, I have never smoked a cigarette and I do not intend to, and I am glad you feel like that, that you will not give into peer pressure. Some people doesn't really know who or what it effects so maybe explain to her that you are worried about her health etc.

Also, surely one time in high school they will eventually do a class all about the consequences of smoking, drugs, sex etc.
Maybe that will drill it into her head.

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Originally Posted by Minion

I agree that the knowledge is being learnt at an early age now, same with technology, for example 12 year olds get like laptops and phones for Christmas? i didn't i got toys and clothes etc lol.

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^ can't see the problem with having it if it's still in the affordable range and my parents aren't going out of their way to buy me things.

urgh there's this guy in my year that smokes now after he fell out with his friend, so started getting on a different bus and sat near the back with the year 11 chavs. the rest sort of fell into place itself.

so what if they do tbh, it's not effecting YOU if you're so certian you're not going to smoke i can't see the problem - it's when she smokes infront of you tell her to get out

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Originally Posted by dbgtz

As society gains more knowledge and the world becomes more adult friendly, I kind of expected this. Anyway if you really think she should stop, then you should tell her parents even if it risks her attitude towards you. I've noticed my brother getting some smoking side effects, the physical aspects and it's really destroying how he looks. His teeth are starting to go brown and he's been smoking for only a couple of years.

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The thing is her parents let her and im guessing her parents buy them for her

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Originally Posted by ShazLouise

^ can't see the problem with having it if it's still in the affordable range and my parents aren't going out of their way to buy me things.

urgh there's this guy in my year that smokes now after he fell out with his friend, so started getting on a different bus and sat near the back with the year 11 chavs. the rest sort of fell into place itself.

so what if they do tbh, it's not effecting YOU if you're so certian you're not going to smoke i can't see the problem - it's when she smokes infront of you tell her to get out

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its hard cos at school evry lunch and break she smokes right near me and all my friends and everything

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Originally Posted by dbgtz

As society gains more knowledge and the world becomes more adult friendly, I kind of expected this.

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Love how you typed that as if you were God.

I think it's good if she smokes now, 'cause then she'll start seeing the harm like the side effects and she'll stop. As we know, teens care about their appearance, and I doubt she'd want black teeth. So she'll smoke now, she'll start getting unfit, gain weight and her teeth are gunna go bad..

i found out my 12 year old brother smokes 'sometimes'. i slapped him - you should do the same to your friend.

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Originally Posted by benjamin

i found out my 12 year old brother smokes 'sometimes'. i slapped him - you should do the same to your friend.

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Nice one +Rep

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Originally Posted by Cataclysm,

Nice one +Rep

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why thanQ

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Originally Posted by Rokgalisevil

I'm extremely worried about my friend, shes only 12 and she smokes!!! I went to knock for her a couple of days ago and when i walked in she was downstairs in her lounge smoking, also there was a big ash tray full of dead cigarettes. She made my other friend bring one to school with a lighter !! :0 then she was still smoking whilst walking to the bus stop the bus driver asked how long shed been smoking and she been smoking for over a year. now im really worried about her and if she doesnt stop im not willing to hang out with her.

and luckily I haven't smoked at all.

Im not sure what to do.. help?

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OMG Steph? ;o Only thing I would say it try persuade her to stop

steph c, george wheeler and some othrs

they smoke ? ;ooooooo bloody hell
well what there do is extremely stupid.
they wanna die earlier - suit themselves
i feel like slapping all there ass's now tommorow at school,
absolutely stupid

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Originally Posted by Neversoft

Love how you typed that as if you were God.

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I don't know whether to take that as an insult...

Anyway you could tell social services.

let them smoke, it's their body, not yours.

how can you let someone smoke?
your just sitting there watching their body suffer, thinking it looks sooooooooooooooooooooo cool and thinking that their the best because there smoking, its abit hard to just see someone going through it
especially if their your mate and you care about them

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Originally Posted by Yuxin

how can you let someone smoke?
your just sitting there watching their body suffer, thinking it looks sooooooooooooooooooooo cool and thinking that their the best because there smoking, its abit hard to just see someone going through it
especially if their your mate and you care about them

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Gina you just answered your own question.. By smoking, they're ******* up their life. They'll soon notice, and if they got a brain in there they'l lstop.

There is nothing you can do I don't mean it the way that it sounds but it's her life and you have to let her learn from her own mistakes. I wouldn't ditch her because of something you don't like but just maybe explain to her that you don't want her doing it around you because if your with her when she is doing it, it also gives you a bad reputation as well. My mate started drinking and people thought I did too when I didn't people just assume these things. Good luck :)

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Originally Posted by Rokgalisevil

its hard cos at school evry lunch and break she smokes right near me and all my friends and everything

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You're telling me that she can freely smoke at lunchtime and get away with it? Surely a teacher would notice? And if they haven't noticed, inform them. Don't worry about what she or others may think of you, it's doing the right thing and it's stopping her from doing something she'll only regret later on in life.

Starting at 12 is a very young age, and will only lead to greater complications as time progresses.

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Originally Posted by Metric1

let them smoke, it's their body, not yours.

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Your statement is so narrow-minded its unbelievable. The NHS is in tatters as it is and having yet another person use tax payers money wasted on them due to smoking is ludicrous. It's not just her body its affecting, it's effectively the whole of the UK; my money could go to someone who actually needs it and not people such as yourself.

Besides, thousands of people die yearly in the UK from lung cancer because of second hand smoking. Whilst she doesn't have to be friends with this person, it still affects those that are walking past and breathing it in.

smoke with her

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tell her how uncool it is to smoke and say to her if she doesn't stop you're going to tell her parents lol or take her to someone older than her and get them to tell her how pathetic it is..maybe she will listen

Not really anything you can do. You can warn her and try to help but ultimately it's her choice if she wants to smoke.

An old friend of mine when we started year 7 got friendly with some "bad men". By the end of the year he was smoking. Now bearing in mind I've known him for nearly 14 years, and he probably my best friend at the school at the beginning of year 7 - I just left him to it.

Why? Because otherwise I'd have to hang out with people I don't particularly like just for my one friend. By the time he started I had new friends and wanted to be with them, not him. I told him what he was doing was stupid but he wouldn't listen so I let him do what he wanted - it's his life.

At the end of the year he was put down in all his classes for poor performance, and now you can start to see the impact of the cigarettes nearly 3 years on. He's a lot chubbier than he was and his teeth are all stained, and he always smells of smoke. It's not nice, and whenever I look at him I think back to my best friend I had in primary school and wish he was there. But not much I can do really. I tried to tell him what he was doing but he wouldn't listen.

Really, there's not much you can do. Tell your friend you think smoking is stupid and dangerous etc. Tell them to stop before it's too late. You can tell a teacher - whether they'll do anything I don't know. Tell the social services if you're really that desperate, but tbh, go and find a new group of friends and hang out with them if you don't want to be around the smokers.

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Originally Posted by Wiktoria

tell her how uncool it is to smoke and say to her if she doesn't stop you're going to tell her parents lol or take her to someone older than her and get them to tell her how pathetic it is..maybe she will listen

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The bus driver told her its going to ruin her body ect she doesnt listen and her mum lets her? is the most shocking part.

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Originally Posted by Jonster

You're telling me that she can freely smoke at lunchtime and get away with it? Surely a teacher would notice? And if they haven't noticed, inform them. Don't worry about what she or others may think of you, it's doing the right thing and it's stopping her from doing something she'll only regret later on in life.

Starting at 12 is a very young age, and will only lead to greater complications as time progresses.



Your statement is so narrow-minded its unbelievable. The NHS is in tatters as it is and having yet another person use tax payers money wasted on them due to smoking is ludicrous. It's not just her body its affecting, it's effectively the whole of the UK; my money could go to someone who actually needs it and not people such as yourself.

Besides, thousands of people die yearly in the UK from lung cancer because of second hand smoking. Whilst she doesn't have to be friends with this person, it still affects those that are walking past and breathing it in.

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yeah theres a bit behind the fences where the teachers cant see but is still on school grounds and all round there is ciggerette ends ect its horrible :(

Smoking is VILE... your basically killing yourself... All this rubbish about not being able to quit... will power, thats all you need.
Age 12, thats truely pathetic.

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Originally Posted by lollifly

Smoking is VILE... your basically killing yourself... All this rubbish about not being able to quit... will power, thats all you need.
Age 12, thats truely pathetic.

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I agree with ya.. When I was 13 I used to smoke, but then will power helped me quit :)