I'm so confused!

There's a boy at my school, I've known him for three years, but I've only just recently got feelings for him.
On thursday night me, him and some friends went out, he was flirting, everyone saw it, then he said he had to go home and left.
The day after I heard he went to this girls house, but told us he went home. I wasn't annoyed, i was hurt by it, as you would, because he lied, I got over that and we was like normal.

On saturday he invited me out into town, and to go skating, I went. When we was on the bus, he kissed me, not just a peck, we made out/snogged/pulled whatever. He knows I like him, and waiting outside of skating he kissed me again.

On sunday, he ignored me all day, and today he ignored me at school. I'm a really emotional person, and it really got to me and I cried, and he's like the first person i've ever cried over. In a lesson, my friend told me he was saying i've misunderstood what's happened, and i've just completley took it the wrong way.

It's really upsetting me, and I just can't get my head around what to do. Don't judge, advice anyone please?

Sounds like he's just trying to mess around with you Jess, I'd avoid!

I'd get over him. He's not worth your time.

yeah i'd leave him alone he seems like the guy who just wants to get with you but have nothing serious and don't take this the wrong way but he might be doing ti with other girls aswell. :(

oh yeah I forgot that part. He was with one of my friends, and he did sort of the same, and he's done it to others, but I can't help the way i feel :S

He is a born player. Will never change. You may be attracted to him but unless you want to be one of his 'trophies' I would not bother. He is probably bragging about this to his friends. Charming when you are his choice does not mean a thing - he doesn't care about anybody's feelings by the sound of it.

He's probably one of those guys who thinks:
"Oh yeah! If I sleep with this chick I'll get more popular! Uhurhurhur."
Then again, I'm not even a guy, so I 'dunno :S That's what I'm guessing goes through all of the boys in my years head.

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He's probably one of those guys who thinks:
"Oh yeah! If I sleep with this chick I'll get more popular! Uhurhurhur."
Then again, I'm not even a guy, so I 'dunno :S That's what I'm guessing goes through all of the boys in my years head.

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Usually Peer pressure, to 'loose' it.

Hes playing around trying to get lucky, i'd ignore him Jess your worth so much more <3 x
Don't let it get to you.

sounds like a plaaaaya! i'd avoid him, tell everyone he was a **** snog aswell: that will keep his future playing to a minimal ahahahah.

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He is a born player. Will never change. You may be attracted to him but unless you want to be one of his 'trophies' I would not bother. He is probably bragging about this to his friends. Charming when you are his choice does not mean a thing - he doesn't care about anybody's feelings by the sound of it.

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I just thought he was different, he acts like it, most of the time.

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Originally Posted by Aidenn

Usually Peer pressure, to 'loose' it.

Hes playing around trying to get lucky, i'd ignore him Jess your worth so much more <3 x
Don't let it get to you.

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thanks aiden, I couldn't help it, i just walked out of my english class and burst into tears D:

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sounds like a plaaaaya! i'd avoid him, tell everyone he was a **** snog aswell: that will keep his future playing to a minimal ahahahah.

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oh that made me giggle, I think i'll do this ;)

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Originally Posted by Jessicrawrr

I just thought he was different, he acts like it, most of the time.


thanks aiden, I couldn't help it, i just walked out of my english class and burst into tears D:


oh that made me giggle, I think i'll do this ;)

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A bit of pain now is better than an awful lot more pain which I believe would be the case. :)

thanks for the advice guys, i'm so lost, and upset, and this is making me realise everything.

He's actually probably not a player, he's probably just as confused as you are, things may be running through his head, like what if she doesn't like me, what if I was too forward, most probably waiting for you to acknowledge him first.

He's been told I like him, and he's done this to other girls as well.

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He's been told I like him, and he's done this to other girls as well.

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If he's done it to others then he's not worth the heart ache. Forget him!

My mum is called Charmaine

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Tell him yourself is the best bet, if you don't see a smile on his face clearly he's just a ***.

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He's been told I like him, and he's done this to other girls as well.

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then definitely tell everyone that making out with him was awful, and that he kisses like a washing machine.
i'm sorry but he obv thinks he's a pro @ girls. ruin his sex life.

I was texting this boy yesterday and this morning.
I asked him if he cared about anyone elses feelings other than his own and if he realises how much he hurts people.
He answered: 'I care about very few people, and the people I do care about care about themselves enough not to let themselves get hurt in the first place'
Even though the messege hurt, I now realise how much of a ***** he is, but I also realised, as he pointed out, I've overreacted a little bit, and I shouldn't have taken it that far as to cry over it.

He seems quite smart, just hasn't realised how to grasp that just because he gets hurt doesn't mean he should hurt others.

I'm still really upset over it, I don't even talk to him anymore, and I really want to, but I don't know what he'd do, if he'd reply or not or if he'd have a go :S I can't get him off my mind :'(

It seems he's using you, as he tried a kiss with you and now he's ignoring you? If that kiss was passionate he wouldn't be so stupid to ignore you.

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I'm still really upset over it, I don't even talk to him anymore, and I really want to, but I don't know what he'd do, if he'd reply or not or if he'd have a go :S I can't get him off my mind :'(

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Seems like theres 3 things going on in that guys head, he's either:
- Trying to play hard to get/make you want him, obviously doing it too much.
- Just getting some where he can (made out with ya, doesnt want to you to get more attached to him so hes bolting now)
- Doesnt like you like that after all.

You should either confront him about it and just get it out the way, or just move on wit yaself.

Happy now :) He's apologised to me for everything he's done, and he's realised what he's done, and we're okay now :) I think I was mostly upset because I couldn't talk to him, not because of what he did if you get me?
Thanks so much everyone who's helped me xxx

Avoid him, there's year 10's at my school like that. If you keep getting upset and keep going back to him he'll just be laughing with his mates.

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Avoid him, there's year 10's at my school like that. If you keep getting upset and keep going back to him he'll just be laughing with his mates.

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You know year 10s thoroughly how? Genuine curiosity not taking the piss or anything.

And in my opinion, he literally wanted a snog with nothing else but I'd need to know what hes been like in the past to give a proper opinion.

He must be on his period. he needs a reality check!

although he was your friend, it seems he really isn't worth your time. It's hard to get over someone your sure you have feelings for and it will take some time. Maybe if you really believe you and him could have a chance together, tell him how you feel and tell him what he did really confused you. It's a long shot but you did say you had known him for thee years, and whether he likes you that way or not, He should still be nice enough to preserve the friendship you guy's have. Goodluck.

It's your hormones going crazy! He's wasting you time, Jessie! WAKE UP!!! :)

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Sounds like he's just trying to mess around with you Jess, I'd avoid!

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i agree, jess your better than that... and guys like that aren't worth your time.
if he really wanted to love you, and be by your side like a real man would doo..
he wouldn't have ignored you, and if he did ignore you he wouldnt had a good explanation..
like a family crisis or something ... get my point? <3 stay strong gurlie!

Ahha, sounds like what the boy in science/geography is doing to me! One minute he is happy to talk to me, flirt whatever, the next hes more interested in his bestfriends GF or the girl next to me, or behind me or whatever. Just see what happens, and he needs a good kick where it hurts if he is stringing you along! Goodluck!

As probably everyone in this thread said I would avoid him. He's not worth it.