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Lately me and my girl ain't been doing to well. She's been taking forever to reply and she never initiates conversation. She's stressed due to family issues and a lot of coursework is due for the both of us in the next week. She says she loves me and stuff and when we're out together we're still intimate but finding a date to go out on with her is so hard. She always says I'm so difficult to plan dates with and how she doesn't know if she is free which is fair. Anyway, any thoughts?
Don't be too clingy, give her some space might be the reason. And when you do arrange it take full control of the situation, know what you're going to do, what day, what time.
Should go for the 2 day break, then do something fun with her. That way you don't come accross as too clingy but it balances out by showing you're still interested. (And doing something fun rather than just going out for a chat or meal is also a positive influence).
Just work through it and wait until things get less busy or make time which would be even better don't do the things which are less important than her in your life. Exam time is always a busy time though
pretty much sounds like how me and my ex boyfriend ended up. ha, we split.
Give her some space for a while, but like tell her you're giving her space, you don't want her to think she's ignoring you.
Maybe try with giving her some space. She is clearly stressed and maybe she is taking it out on you a little but, To be honest it sounds like there is a lack of effort coming from her but that could be for many reasons maybe she just needs some time on her own then once she isn't as stressed things will get back on track. Every couple have their relationship tested and this way you will find if it's strong enough.
We split up. I talked to her and said I felt like I was fighting for attention. She said she felt the same. We decided to end it mutually. I feel really weird right now. I don't know if it was the right decision. We're still friends and both text each other everyday but I feel weird.
erm. Give her some time to think. Be there for her if you can. If you can't, then it's better to leave her alone as you said a lot is going on and u guys just split up
Sorry to hear that you split up, but at least you agreed with the decision and stayed friends. :)
Sorry to hear you split up, time may be a great healer in this concept.
We're both okay with it ha, we're still friends. We go out almost every 2-3 days, it's normal. A bit weird but that'll go away with time.
Maybe it's just a bit of space she needs and not actually a split -up especially as you are still going out.Quote:
Originally Posted by PaulMacC
Sounds like she is pretty stressed and with all the coursework you are both going to be so busy. I would think about why you are 'difficult to plan dates with'. Maybe have a chat about any issues but make sure that each has the freedom to say what they feel without any interruption from the other until they are ready. Hard to do I know but maybe worth it as it could just be a case of 'mixed wires'. Good luck, Paul.
She is away this week on a holiday with her family in the country. She has no reception on her phone. We've already split up, but I don't know yet if it was the right decision. I'll talk to her when she gets back.Quote:
Originally Posted by Catz
Sounds like a good plan to have a heart-to-heart. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by PaulMacC
I been there, My boyfriend was in the same spot as you,
All you gotta do is give the girl some space, let her have her time to think, and get her life situated.
because if u dont, Bad things can happen with you two, I had lots of things, happening, and i been through
things that people at my age shouldnt have went through, but i made it through , <3
Stay strong, && hope this helped(: