What was your last good deed?

I think it is really important for society as a whole that everyone does a good deed - whatever is within their means - to someone else on a regular basis. I can't claim that I am perfect and have always been like this but as I have grown up I have become more and more in to doing kind things simply because they are kind! I can think back to when I used to work at a café - I used to loathe it. I was miserable and rude to the customers. One day my grandmother said to me that I should be more polite and when I asked why she made the really good point that, perhaps, one of my customers has saved for a week or two to afford a trip to a nice café with their friend or whatever. That was what started me thinking about being a better person when I was young. I am working on trying to consider whatever situations people may possibly be in.

What was the last good deed that you have done?

I will start - it was something today. I was downstairs on the terrace level and there were three workers doing some detailing work on the wall where something had gone wrong. One of them talked to me which was nice in itself but he also asked me a lot of super kind things. He asked about work, my life, my plans and wished me the best. I guess it kind of took me from left field because people - especially strangers - are not usually so kind. I went straight to Starbucks and got him a little sandwich box that they sell with a sandwich, vegetables and cheese. I brought it back to him and literally just thanked him for speaking to me like he did. In that sense, we both did a good deed. I hope he enjoyed the sandwich and if I ever see him again I will know that I made a new friend.

Your turn!

Wow, oh God... this is hard for me to think of.

Well, only thing I could think of is that my friend had 2 other friend's who were quite good mates with her but when I started hanging around with her they started to turn against her and backstab her, talk **** about her etc. (this was in real by the way) and so I decided to ask the girl "if you don't want to be friends with me, so you can keep the other 2 ""friends"", then that's fine by me :P". She said "no" and that she wanted me to be her friend and I was kinda shocked and pleasantly surprised actually.

Short version; I gave my mate the chance to ditch me so that she could remain friends with 2 other mates x

Apart from that, most recent thing before that was probably donated some money to a homeless man who I've seen around quite often aha x

I love it when you have an unexpected conversation with a stranger as if you were old friends. I was travelling through London on the train with my friend one day back in October, and I hadn't seen him in a while, so we were catching up and stuff and I got talking about uni and mentioned how I'm still studying Stanley Kubrick after all these years, as if film studies tutors have no other directors to put on the curriculum. We talked for a while about that, and about a couple of other things. Then when it was our stop, we stood up to get off and the man in front of me who was also getting off turned around and said to me how he enjoyed Kubrick's films and that he had enjoyed our conversation and thanked me and my friend for keeping him entertained. We walked with him out of the station for spoke for around ten minutes, and it was just so lovely. Here we were, two twenty-somethings talking to a random stranger in his fifties or so, but there were no barriers, no prejudices or stereotypes. Just three human beings talking to each other as human beings about something we all adored. Such chance encounters don't happen often, but when they do they stick with you. I've never forgotten that day, and everything we said to each other. The man was off to the Natural History Museum. I hope he had a nice time.

Anyway, as for my last good deed. Probably just holding open the door for someone today, or something trivial like that. I think it is necessary in life to be as polite as possible, though. It makes not only a difference to you, but also to your surroundings. Words are so powerful, as is a smile. I've been rather depressed about something close to my heart lately, not a lot is cheering me up and I'm sure I look miserable to everyone else. I don't want to look miserable, but honestly I am past the point of caring, so I have kind of just been keeping to myself and getting on with things. I went to the shop this morning to buy a few things however, and the man at the counter was just such a delight. He was so happy and so polite, he made everyone feel so welcome and comfortable. Here I was, this miserable looking guy who probably looks like he wants to go and crawl into a hole for a while, but the man treated me with the same respect and kindness as everyone else, despite how disconnected I probably looked, and it really brightened up my morning. It just nice to know (or perhaps remember) sometimes that the world is a wonderful place, full of wonderful people. Bjork was right. All is full of love.

We have a family friend who lives down in Bristol and he works part-time (inbetween uni) at Sainsbury's. Their staff are told to be extremely polite and to make conversation with absolutely everyone. It could just be that the elderly individual you serve at the cash till has contact with nobody else throughout the week. Make their day and just ask them how they are.

This can't be said for some places though. The woman who works in my local bus station is a complete and utter inconsiderate little moron. She's quite old and has no respect for any of the customers. I walked in a couple of days ago and waited her for beckon me forward. Of course, her head didn't move when I walked in the door. Gosh no, I had to wait a while for her to finish reading a paragraph of the newspaper before she even acknowledged me. I didn't even get a good morning like I greeted her with, it was a simple "yes?"

Naturally, there are times when people don't say thank you, and I'm sure I'm not alone when I give the sarcastic "your welcome" in response to their complete lack of manners.

I think Britain in general is extremely rude and it actually really upsets me. Whenever we go to America, both in the tourist areas and beyond, everyone seems to have a whole lot of decency and politeness. Perhaps it's due to the accent, although I would argue it's something on a much wider scale. I think it's down to the differences in how we're raised. American schoolchildren are, more often than not, raised in a religious household which encourages above said morals. They're also taught the Pledge of Allegiance and they're raised in an extremely patriotic society: I really do believe that these factors contribute towards good, stable families and therefore churn out more polite, considerate and accepting generations.

Good on you for promoting such good deeds, Jasey.

i was sleeping but woke up to skype @cocaine because he was bored. that is a good deed because he is very rude and offensive.

no but really um good deeeeeeeeed............... i dunno i bought my nan some chocolate.

i held the gate open for ppl at uni
i never usually do this cos i'm a *****

wow some peoples are so long. I held the door open at school today for this little kid, normally I slam it closed if im in a bad mood like today :(

my friend left his book on the table and forgot to take it so i took it and gave him is that a good deed???

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Originally Posted by JerseyShore

wow some peoples are so long.

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That's what she said.

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Originally Posted by EricYong!

my friend left his book on the table and forgot to take it so i took it and gave him is that a good deed???

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OH YEAH. We are doing group presentations in English Language so I'm having to talk about Sexuality in Language with this girl (who's never here!!). She left a little booklet she made on the desk so I handed it back to her lols!!

Erm, i opened the door open at school for my mates, then since i was going to the dining hall got someone a bun for them. :D

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Originally Posted by Mathew

We have a family friend who lives down in Bristol and he works part-time (inbetween uni) at Sainsbury's. Their staff are told to be extremely polite and to make conversation with absolutely everyone. It could just be that the elderly individual you serve at the cash till has contact with nobody else throughout the week. Make their day and just ask them how they are.

This can't be said for some places though. The woman who works in my local bus station is a complete and utter inconsiderate little moron. She's quite old and has no respect for any of the customers. I walked in a couple of days ago and waited her for beckon me forward. Of course, her head didn't move when I walked in the door. Gosh no, I had to wait a while for her to finish reading a paragraph of the newspaper before she even acknowledged me. I didn't even get a good morning like I greeted her with, it was a simple "yes?"

Naturally, there are times when people don't say thank you, and I'm sure I'm not alone when I give the sarcastic "your welcome" in response to their complete lack of manners.

I think Britain in general is extremely rude and it actually really upsets me. Whenever we go to America, both in the tourist areas and beyond, everyone seems to have a whole lot of decency and politeness. Perhaps it's due to the accent, although I would argue it's something on a much wider scale. I think it's down to the differences in how we're raised. American schoolchildren are, more often than not, raised in a religious household which encourages above said morals. They're also taught the Pledge of Allegiance and they're raised in an extremely patriotic society: I really do believe that these factors contribute towards good, stable families and therefore churn out more polite, considerate and accepting generations.

Good on you for promoting such good deeds, Jasey.

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LOL all the staff at my bus station are miserable but we have this one really lovely old man who gives you a smile, says hi and thank you when you get off the bus. so cute! i completely agree with britain being rude, everyone is too self-interested and almost too scared to actually be nice? about accents, i often hear people say scottish accents sound aggressive and angry. i think we just sound intelligent :( doing a simple good deed is a win-win situation where you'll both feel good so in a sense it's still a self-interested way but who can complain? like i say, i think people are too afraid to be nice. as though it's a sort of weakness or because we're afraid someone will reject it because it's not 'normal' to be so nice. i know thats the case for me so when i do deeds i tend to do it alone or quietly. for example, i used to do http://operationbeautiful.com/ where you post sticky notes in areas maybe mirrors at a school or at a bus stop with a nice comment or quote on them. i think it's a really good idea even if people will say THATS RIDICULOUS NOT EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL, maybe not but they deserve to be happy

sometimes i don't like service staff because they're told to be nice, even if they're not or if they're miserable, so it feels fake and insincere to me. i'm an overanalyzing pessimist though.

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Originally Posted by EricYong!

my friend left his book on the table and forgot to take it so i took it and gave him is that a good deed???

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every little helps :P

i don't know what my last good deed was. nothing i done consciously :O but i will always remember how in school one valentines day this special needs guy handed out roses to random girls through the day. even though people would bully him or think he was weird, it was nice to see how their faces light up. that's the best thing about doing something nice for someone, knowing you've made a difference to them.

also i had a lovely anonymous person (;)) on my tumblr who would ask how my day was, actually read my problems and tell me i deserve to be happy. it honestly did make my days cause i was feeling so low about myself at that point and the fact it was done without me not knowing who it was at the time was better because they weren't doing it to make themselves look in a better light. it was nice :)

it's not hard to do something nice for someone. my mum has always been the type of person to offer help or drop her plans for other people etc, to the point that i think she can be a pushover. but if that's what makes her happy then that's fine. best way to make yourself happy is to make someone else happy in my opinion.

probably held the door open for somebody, i cant remember tbh :-L

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Originally Posted by buttons

i don't know what my last good deed was. nothing i done consciously :O but i will always remember how in school one valentines day this special needs guy handed out roses to random girls through the day. even though people would bully him or think he was weird, it was nice to see how their faces light up. that's the best thing about doing something nice for someone, knowing you've made a difference to them.

also i had a lovely anonymous person (;)) on my tumblr who would ask how my day was, actually read my problems and tell me i deserve to be happy. it honestly did make my days cause i was feeling so low about myself at that point and the fact it was done without me not knowing who it was at the time was better because they weren't doing it to make themselves look in a better light. it was nice :)

it's not hard to do something nice for someone. my mum has always been the type of person to offer help or drop her plans for other people etc, to the point that i think she can be a pushover. but if that's what makes her happy then that's fine. best way to make yourself happy is to make someone else happy in my opinion.

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That is seriously lovely! I am so happy that you and your mother both think like that. Hearing about the boy giving roses to girls on Saint-Valentin makes me feel good. I know there were a couple awkward girls in school years and years ago who I would talk to since we saw each other a lot during the day. On the holiday, you could send candy for a bit of money to be delivered anonymously with a message. I picked the girls that were so kind to talk to me and I sent them something nice. I was actually inspired to do that by a story that was like that that I read somewhere where a boy gives flowers to the 'not as pretty' girls. I am in a chipper mood now!

EDIT: I just realised I totally missed the first page of this thread. I am silly to do that since I made it! I am going to go back and read and respond to that too.

i dunno what was the last thing i did i always hold doors open for people, pick up something someone dropped and things like that. i remember when i was little i used to help my next door neighbour with her shopping and i used to help her with her garden too.

Returning a toy to a kid the other day was pretty much it apart from the basic opening doors and all that.

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Originally Posted by buttons

for example, i used to do http://operationbeautiful.com/ where you post sticky notes in areas maybe mirrors at a school or at a bus stop with a nice comment or quote on them. i think it's a really good idea even if people will say THATS RIDICULOUS NOT EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL, maybe not but they deserve to be happy

sometimes i don't like service staff because they're told to be nice, even if they're not or if they're miserable, so it feels fake and insincere to me. i'm an overanalyzing pessimist though.

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lolol I've always wanted to do that but never got round to it. agree about the fake smiling and 'have a nice day' when you know theyre thinking '6 hours to go... 5 hours to go...' :P

As for good deeds, there hasn't really been anything extraordinary happen to me recently but I do now and again treat the family out to tea or look after my disabled uncle for my nana to give her a bit of a break. I try to be as selfless as possible without being seen as a pushover so I do say 'no' now and again just so they don't take advantage.

I can't really remember, I went to hold a door open for someone today but they let me pass.

However, in ICT I thought it was nice that a student in this teachers class actually went to the canteen for the teacher so they didn't have to leave the classroom.

I've helped my mum sort out her phone contract and stuff today though if that counts.

Also, when I go shopping, well when I buy something from Tesco in my free it's nice when this man let me in front of him because I only had 1 item when he had a few himself, it's nice that, I always feel awkward when people do that though but it's really nice :).

i dunno, looked up train times/prices for my housemate a few hours ago? don't really do good deeds that often tbf...

My friend wants to visit the public library cause she said she's bored and so, I promised to visit the library with her but not today cause I'm having diarrhea problems. So, I think it's a good deed. Other than that, I'm gonna wash my clothes today although I'm sick cause I don't wanna burden my mum.

gave my friend some extra money to buy herself a drink cos she had none left idk if that counts but yeah lol

I'm always holding the door open for people at my school, I just find it rude not to! :P

Um, I gave someone their book back today (when I noticed they'd left it in class) which was probably for the best as they would have needed it for homework, ha.

i told my friend her choice in shoes is disgusting and that she should change it asap, giving suggestions

such a good friend! honesty is the best policy n all that