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I saw a question on a site earlier which I've been asked many a time - "Family or friends? Which is more important". Took me a great deal of consideration and I placed both on the same level due to... reasons :P
Anyway, decided to twist this. Family or romance? Which do you consider more important. Go go go. (Will post my view later).
Very difficult to come up with a single answer, really. For me, romance is much better if it's true and there's trust, whereas family can become boring or repetitive (if you've had your mum telling you to fold your clothes neater for 22 years). Romance is more exciting and brings new things into life, while a family will always offer you somewhere to retreat to if all else fails.
However, if family really did have such strong connections, why would a woman choose temporary drugs or alcohol over her baby daughter? For this reason, I must choose romance because you probably will not have known your partner for the whole of your life so, although you will feel betrayal, it's easier to get over. You can't just cut blood ties.
Romance because with romance you can start your own family and continue the human race etc etc. Family's important as well obviously but out of the two, I'd say romance. If it was the friends vs family question though I'd choose family every time lol.
depends the context.. family are the ones who bring you up (whether blood related or not). they're the ones who 'teach' you about life and if you're brought up with no love or an abusive household then your perceptions of love and romance are based on that. not always but often. romance/romantic love to me is just chemicals and **** that doesn't last (not talking about 'true love' where you form a bond with someone) while upbringing often has a huge hold over you all your life.
however id probably choose romance/love over my family cause you're an individual who will make your own family one day and shouldn't be based on how your own family are.
ok mike steal my answer x
Of course, in the earlier stages of life, family is a lot more important and crucial to societal function.
But when a person is old enough to legitimately reason one side or the other, it can be their decision entirely.
Romance provides a gateway to starting your own family, and living life independently, rather than reliant on family.
But family (usually) are always there to fall back on when life gets too tough.
Personally, family, as romance isn't one of my priorities.
You have no control who's part of your family. I hate some of my cousins, they're nasty, useless idiots (I'm not just being mean, they're awful) Friends/partners are the family you choose for yourself.
Family is always more important, in the case of a couple having troubles but whom also have children - the welfare of the children (to keep the marriage together) is much more important than finding new romantic partners.
Both is equally important in my opinion as romance leads to family and family leads to good attitude etc. Feel free to correct me if you think I'm wrong. It's been a long time since I involve myself in a decent debate.
Friends backstab in the end... lol end of
There's no right or wrong answer, it's different for each individual. I'm a family person and find them more reliable than friends etc so I'd say family.
Everybody has different opinions and, as Shar rightly pointed out, there's no real right or wrong answer. Some people may have been brought up by family who have arguments, siblings who are incredibly annoying and pretty much just have to find their own way and teach themselves things which a father or a mother should teach you. If this has happened to you, you'd want to find a partner to love and be with all the time as they are your family and will be for the future (hopefully).
However, if you're brought up in a family who care for you and teach you everything you need to know and are there for you when you need them; not putting you into the back of the pile you're going to want them more because they're the ones who have brought you up right and cared for you and actually taught you how to love someone the right way -- so you're always going to look to them for guidance and not yourself.
In my case, I'd say romance is more important.
Honestly, I'm more of the family person than the romance person...
Why? Because in my perspective, they are there for you through-out your ups and downs (based on personal experiences) and your relationship with partners can always fizzle out quickly before you know it (I experienced it twice so... yeah) and I love my family alot. Without your parents you wouldnt have yourself in the world, so you'd better thank them.
End of.
I came into a situation when it became family or my girlfriend, guess i did choose my girlfriend at the time but easily regretted it since.
family foreva
the only person i love on earth is my mother.
i personally think family's important. maybe because i'm so close to them and have been in a relationship only once..i don't really have good friends. the ones i do, don't really talk to me anymore as i changed schools. whenever i was stressed my family was there. they have almost always supported me
My family, my life is Habbo.. my girlfriend is from Habbo so how does that work out? does that mean its incest ?
Romance, if it goes well, results in family, so honestly in many ways they are the same thing "/