Kids growing up too fast?

hey guys, ive noticed something odd recently, which is really getting on my nerves now
Im not sure where all you guys come from, or how old you are,
but in my school (secondary) all these kids in year 7 now have a new atitude.
I understand that kids always wanna be older than they actually are
but theres this new kinda fashion.
Neat, combed hair.
Tucked in shirts and ironed clothes most every day
If you wear anything other than school uniform, it has to be superdry or top man or ralph
and this thing, with smoking? I mean, im only 14, but this kinda thing really gets on my nerves.
I've always loved being unique, like listening to music no one likes, and wearing stupid things
but now im getting isolated because of it. I tried to get round this, buy some holliser and superdry
and a few topman shirts, but that kinds thing is *REMOVED* expensive.
lemme tell you some more :)
They have to have the latest smart phone, all the most recent games and go out in the weekends. My little brother, whos 11 has friends who smoke!! Its stupid!
Do you think kids are becoming too demanding and too grown up for their own age?
all this clothing, and others?
post what you think below ;)

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and this is to do with education and employment because?

i think it's a natural thing as the world's changing really, kids are wanting these things nowadays and it's probably influenced by their friends, media, celebrities etc.

goldenmerc moved it, i dunno why its here :/
i guess you say a good point...

Ya know, I think they're being pushed into it. As Sharon said the media has a lot to do with it, and just how easily and readily available everything is, many parents are beginning to think the best way to deal with kids is to appease them and let them have the latest gizmos. Just like 10 years ago when I was 10 I wanted a gameboy, but nothing else. I was happy to be outside playing in the mud and reading.

Give it another 10 years and it'll be worse.

doesn't everyone comb their hair....

cba to read all that, but yes i do think kids are growing up far too fast & dressing extremely provocatively for their ages. the distinction between who is a early teen/late teen/(young) adult is being blurred so much that it is getting to the point where those from both extremes are dressing exactly the same (including girls with them batty riders and see-through tops).

Yeahhh i do think they are. Change can be expected, but the media and other people around (especially the family) have an absolutely massive influence upon them and as long as parents give in to their child's demands for electronics they don't need, more and more clothes they don't need etc. then it's going to get progressively worse.

I think stores are also to blame. I'm sure there was some scandal a few months back about high street clothing stores selling bras for young kids, high heels for young kids (think it was like..6 year olds) and and 1 shop, basically a "half-see through" form (translucent) form of underwear for kids.

Don't think anything will be change majorly.

As said above, media is down to most of it. Kids want to dress up to look like their idol or whatever and some'll go to extreme measure to do this! Nothing we can really do though, I guess it's just humanity "evolving" even more (couldn't think of a better world for evolve :L). In Shakespearean times it was deemed normal for a girl of 12 to marry.. it was actually weird to be unmarried at 20 if you were female!! Maybe we're going to start going back to this?

OH for the days when girls only fought over getting in to Guide camp :(

Aha, I agree, kids really are growing up too fast. I mean, I'm 14 - and up until the age of 11 maybe, I was always outside, messing about with friend ect - had nothing to do with technology - though that would later change as I hit high school, of course. I have a younger brother, who at the age of 6 got a PS3, now to me that seems ridiculous, but I know that some kids even younger than that possess Iphone4's and Ipod touches ect, spending all their time indoors on whatever new techy thing they've received. Heck, in the last year, my brother's been invited to friends birthday parties, and even admitted himself he'd rather stay indoors on his PS3. Now that make be going totally off topic as to what your saying - however I certainly believe all these gadgets are taking away childrens childhoods - giving them addictive personalities and certainly changing their behaviors. As for the new 'fashion' you mentioned. I guess of a sort you have that where I am, the girls with tucked in blouses and their tube skirts on, perhaps a pair of smart high waisted shorts, hair perfect, and make up on, though a kind of professional air about it - a touch of mascara or eyeliner perhaps - going for a natural tone. The smart phones spread over my high school like a disease, pretty sure everyone has one now, and yet still theirs a pressure to have the 'most expensive' or the 'newest' version out.

I think its better this styles coming back, I hated the tracksuits they use to all wear. plus im a fan of the fashion out nowadays.

This isn't some sort of new phenomenon though. It's just a cyclical pattern throughout history; young adults behaving in what they see an an adult way. It's just far more publicised nowadays with the easiness of getting information, increasing idea of putting the self first leading to a reduction in extreme views (religion, sexual freedom etc).

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I think its better this styles coming back, I hated the tracksuits they use to all wear. plus im a fan of the fashion out nowadays.

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This, the 1990s regarding fashion were dreadful.... especially in Liverpool.

This isn't anything new lol :S society is always changing, you can't expect it to stay the same... Obviously norms and values change over time which has a big part in what you're saying. I don't see anything wrong with kids wanting to have the latest stuff? It's just fashion trends and most probably grow out of it.

kinda goes with this article i read about increasing crime resulting from the freedom and individualism that came after ww2 like @Rozi; said about it leading to reduction in religion and morals. basically says the sixties are to blame for crime as it was the beginning of lax attitudes toward sex and 'licentiousness'. (lacking moral discipline, rebelling against norms - big part of the sixties) thus the whole attitude of the sixties has led to the change in teenage behaviour
might seem bit over exaggerated to some but there are good points to it, talks about how kids grow up too quickly and don't communicate but instead use phones
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk...e-1584969.html




anyway, if i look at my cousins now who are 13/14 i think the **** they get up to is unreal. my 14 year old cousin smokes, hangs out with older boys, has lost her virginity, gets drunk, wears short skirts etc and i think it's ridiculous. then i look back at myself and see i acted the exact same way too (except the short skirts and all this fake tan fake eyelashes, i was taught do your eye makeup or do lipstick, show off your boobs or show off your legs, NEVER both and i still stick to that). i smoked. i tried drugs. i got drunk. i dated older boys. I WORE ******* BLUE EYESHADOW AND EYELINER GOD WHY DIDN'T MY MUM STOP ME! it's really all part of growing up. we had our own fashions but like everyone else points out people now wear really short, provocative clothing like.. my younger cousins wear less to school than i do out clubbing but at school of any decade, you'll always try to fit in. at mine everyone wanted a Nokia 3310 or something but my mum wouldn't let me get one so i wasn't cool enough :( i wasn't allowed a pair of shoes that everyone else had either (my mum was strict about me getting everything handed to me on a plate) while now i have more freedom so will buy things ive seen others have (a)




also when i hear about the shennanigans my mum got up to when she was that age in the 80s it's the exact same as i and many others did its just more publicised and accepted now so maybe there's truth to the whole sixties thing. once you leave school and grow up there's less (from what ive seen) pressure and competition with others and most people get along regardless of how nerdy or w/e you were at school. not to mention i remember a few people who were nerdy in our early years but once we got older they got hot and suddenly got in with the crew cause kids are shallow like that.

Is there a problem with kids wanting to wear good clothes. I always liked good clothes and to be fashionable even as a kid. I remember when the spiked hair and baggy jeans were fashionable- and I did it in year 6.

I think it's quite a generalization saying all this- you've just generalized a whole group in society. It really depends on upbringing and that's related to parents and home life. Although the whole world has lost some class (as a general thing).