So confused?!

Me and this girl that I met at are really close, yesterday we all went clubing, I was with my friends and she was with hers. She was completely out of her head, so I went to look after her, her friends wanted me to look after her so I did, I went and got her some water, and as I came back she was sat with a guy and kissing him, although were not together, it really got to me, we're both really flirty together, sleep in the same bed (but don't have sex). Should I be angry at her? Shall I let it go?

No you shouldn't be angry at her since you're not together and she hasn't given any indication that you are by the sounds of it. Flirting happens between a lot of friends and if you wanted something more you should have discussed it with her by now. You of course are allowed to feel upset that she isn't with you but you can't act on that or expect/demand that she feels the same

Fair enough be upset as you have feelings for her but you can't exactly be angry, just cause you look after her when she's drunk or you flirt a lot doesn't mean you own her or that she's entitled to give you anything at all. maybe she likes you but you've never made a move so should be more angry at yourself or maybe she just likes you as a friend... but no i'd drop it cause if she doesn't like you then she's gonna think you're creepy IMO

if you're not together then you can't really be mad she got with someone else

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Originally Posted by laura

if you're not together then you can't really be mad she got with someone else

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you can in a way :P
I think if you didnt do anything, no chemestry its sort of first come first serve.

Meh I have different views to everyone else. I don't know the full story but it seems like she definitely led you on from reading the above. She flirted with you, let you take care of her when she's drunk & heck you too even slept together. All is well if she wasn't actually flirting with you and you got the wrong end of the stick but when all of those things are added together it seems like you were just used. I'm not saying its right to be mad and I wouldn't say confront her about it but I'd be mad too. I think its different for different people, if you're out every other night going in for the **** it isn't going to really affect you but if you get close to someone and they flirt back with you, let you in their bed and expect you to run around after them then that isn't cool. I don't understand why people would flirt with someone if they don't like a person. If you don't like someone don't flirt with them simple as, it's just far to misleading and confusing for the squishy stuff between my ears.


But hey what do I know about relationships :P

Well you can be but it's not really justified if you're nit even 'hooking up' together or you've never told her how you feel :/

Yea that's exactly what it is. But I'm justifying my anger for her, if she texts me things like "baby I miss you" of course I would get angry if she's just got with a guy! She loves attention so that's her flaw. Meh, thanks anyway :)

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Yea that's exactly what it is. But I'm justifying my anger for her, if she texts me things like "baby I miss you" of course I would get angry if she's just got with a guy! She loves attention so that's her flaw. Meh, thanks anyway :)

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Think you've hit the nail on the head there; it seems like she does like the attention you give her because it's solely on her but gives her freedom to go and get with other guys right under your nose. If she does care about you then she wouldn't even try to do that, unless she's trying to make you jealous and say something to her? Might be a long shot but if you like her it might be worth it...

My opinion. If you like someone, let them know straight away. You never know who the next person can be walking along.
Fair enough they might not like you back, but atleast you let them know where you stand in that relationship.
If they where a good friend, they wouldn't let it affect that.
Don't be angry she kissed somebody else - You never told her how you felt.

should just let it go.
was only a drunken kiss so it doesn't really count.

&it might help if you told her? but depends how you think she'll react.
Goodluck compadre.

You could've made the move but you didn't so I don't know why you're surprised some guy noticed a seriously drunk girl and took advantage, when you didn't.

I wouldn't be angry with her, the fact you're not together doesn't even come into it. If she's drunk, hot and (I assume) by herself, somebody will take that opportunity.

Yeah, kissing someone when you're drunk in a club is not a rare thing. A kiss is a kiss, especially as it was just a stranger.

Why don't you use this as an opportunity to tell her how you feel i.e. "i saw you kissing that guy and it made me realise how much i like you and want to be with you"

I've told her previously I've liked her, she said I was just a close friend. But we continued to sleep together we were always more than a friendship, less than a relationship. I have also asked her again, and she says she still doesn't want anything. I've decided to call off what we have and just remain friends. I've already got feelings for her, so if she gets into a relationship later, it will hurt me a lot more, so it's better to not make it worse. I did tell her that she had led me on, by saying she misses me, calling me baby, asking for massages with no clothes on and what not. Hopefully it gets better :)

you sleep in same bed with no sex?

http://www.dumpaday.com/wp-content/u...iendzone-6.jpg

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Originally Posted by BeanEgg

I've told her previously I've liked her, she said I was just a close friend. But we continued to sleep together we were always more than a friendship, less than a relationship. I have also asked her again, and she says she still doesn't want anything. I've decided to call off what we have and just remain friends. I've already got feelings for her, so if she gets into a relationship later, it will hurt me a lot more, so it's better to not make it worse. I did tell her that she had led me on, by saying she misses me, calling me baby, asking for massages with no clothes on and what not. Hopefully it gets better :)

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sounds like she's completely taking advantage of you. She wants a relationship without the commitment; make it clear to her that you either want a proper relationship or for her to 'back off' of all the relationshippy stuff because it's not fair to you!

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Originally Posted by BeanEgg

Me and this girl that I met at are really close, yesterday we all went clubing, I was with my friends and she was with hers. She was completely out of her head, so I went to look after her, her friends wanted me to look after her so I did, I went and got her some water, and as I came back she was sat with a guy and kissing him, although were not together, it really got to me, we're both really flirty together, sleep in the same bed (but don't have sex). Should I be angry at her? Shall I let it go?

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lol OP is in the friend zone.

Just an update. We're friends and I've moved on, can't be wasting time on girls that thrive on attention.

Um, I don't think you should be angry at her since your not together but, I know it will hurt her alot, and flirting goes on in every friendship. I o think though you should tell her how you feel as she should understand and see how it goes from there?