Is this unreasonable? [+r3pz]

Aloha, Ladette to Gentlemen.

Okay, so in my spare time I do this personal trainer stuff and run bootcamps on the weekend. So one of my house mates (friend from high school and I consider us good friends), came to a few of the bootcamps where he met a girl by name and that's it. Then a few months later we all went to a gym function where we (her friends, me and the house mate) went to the city for dinner and to a club afterwards to celebrate her birthday where we (house mate and me) met up with our mates at this club too.
After this night house mate and client added each other on Facebook and talked a bit where he eventually got her number (some quick facts: She's is 6-7 years older than us; I get paid about $250 a month from her for training; She isn't my only client, I have many more). Anyway since then they have become good friends including seeing each other in their spare time (dinner, movies, drinks after they finish work etc) and texting every day. After their first night out together they ended up at her house where nothing happened apart from sleeping in the same bed, no spooning etc.
So move on a few weeks and the most they've done is spoon because he "doesn't want to have a sexual relationship with my client in respect to me".
Is it appropriate for me to tell them to back off from each other granted we are all over 21? He makes sexual gestures to her but he does that to everyone anyway but I am worried that it might have an affect on my business.

ThAnKs

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I don't see how it would affect your business? It's a 'relationship' between the girl and your mate, where do you come into this? I'd just let them get on with it and keep it purely professional between the girl and you.
Btw I get the feeling you're slightly jealous of your friend? Do you like this girl also?

Oh yes, just to add, I have a girlfriend too so I am not jealous that he is doing stuff with a girl while iI'm not.

They can do what they want.

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how does that even affect you at all

Well seeing as you've not mentioned anything about you or your business in the scenario that relates to them, then yes it is unreasonable to think about telling them to leave each other alone - it is doesn't affect you or your business. They can do what they want.

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Originally Posted by GommeInc

Well seeing as you've not mentioned anything about you or your business in the scenario that relates to them, then yes it is unreasonable to think about telling them to leave each other alone - it is doesn't affect you or your business. They can do what they want.

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Me? In the scenario above I'm the personal trainer, that's my business. The girl is my client. If **** goes down between those two it could relate back to me, even though he goes overseas soon.

If it goes sour I do not think it's unreasonable to tell your friend to stay away from the bootcamps to avoid that awkward atmosphere and prioritise the paying client. However, it would be unreasonable to try to get in between them both. They're both consenting adults and just because they met through your business doesn't mean you have any authority to stamp it out.

Okay that's awesome, everyone has said the friend is in the right.
To flip this story upside down, I am in actual fact the friend and my housemate is the PT. I was just trying to figure out if I reversed the roles if the results would be any different.
I got in trouble (and the ultimatum of whose friendship I want) and he told me not to talk to the clients anymore

Depends on whether it has actually stopped her going to him for training, resulting in loss of earnings

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She still goes to training but not bootcamp (I don't go either). She was never into bootcamp from what I saw and he hasn't lost money from her..

Never mix work with pleasure that's all I have to say

Oops sorry for the lateness with the reps but they've been dished out. You can't do it on mobile skins.

You sound jealous, got nothing to do with you really.

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