Family members who left

Have any of you had family members who left or were simply never there? How did it affect you? How did it affect others?

My dad left when I was really young (so young I don't really remember him leaving which is good). He has always been an alcoholic and I remember being quite scared of him haha. He used to come visit on a Saturday as I was growing up but we never really got on that well, eventually he came over less and less and then it would be like every year or so I would see him and he wouldn't remember birthdays or bother at Christmas and stuff. I don't think I turned out to be the kind of son he wanted haha.

No one really, I met my granddad when I was less than 1 year old, but like he had no impact whatsoever.

thankfully my family is intact

I basically don't have a dad. I dont regard him as one as I haven't really seen him in 4 years cos he's made absolutely no effort with me. He's too interested in meeting new women. He was a crap dad when he was around too. Better off without him ;D

lmfaooo get ready for some daddy issues.

Yeah my parents split when I was 11, I used to go to his every weekend. Then one day he stopped answering his phone and door. A couple years later I asked him if I could start seeing him again and that lasted like a month. It didnt effect me consciously at the time but when I do think of it, it does mess me up a bit!! Anyway he's since tried to get in contact with me and my brothers (through his gf lol!) but I'm not interested anymore. He won't do it himself lmao if he sees me in the street he ignores me. How would that not mess you up?? I think it was worse for me because he let me down twice by cutting contact whilst my brothers never kept in contact with him at all after they split.

His dad probably didnt know we existed tbh cause he left them as kids too soooo I don't see how someone who has experienced it can do it to their own kids but ye they are both alcoholics and druggies so that might explain it!

Other than that I get along with my mums side and rest of my dads side :)

My dad's in the UAE at the moment engineering the pilot trainers (for 787 I think but not totally sure) setting up the simulators and equipment for a classroom training deal having just done the same thing in China last month and having a few weeks back home before going off again, he flies around all over the place maybe he's Superman who knows but yeah he's often away for long long long stretches and this is something he's done a lot through my life and it's a thing that happens a lot so I take over his flat while he's away and all that it's great Habbo party and whatnot but I'm lucky I guess because there are all these sad stories of people buggering off and not coming back but I know my dad is always coming back so that's fab for me

MY SISTER HOWEVER bloody went out to New Zealand following her bf and then they were like oh this is good let's stay here and they got married and then they moved to Australia and had a baby and I'm like mate

Point of the story is, SCREW DADS!!1!!111! Moms FTW.

Btw @FlyingJesus; I'm watching NBC's "Why do planes crash" show... tell your dad I said stop screwing up.

I'm different, I suppose. My biological mum didn't want me because alcohol was bae, so I didn't have that influence growing up much.

Talk to my dad though.

My dad wasn't really there. I used to see him once a year and it dropped. I feel like it would have been much better had he stayed out of my life entirely. He's not really a nice person so I'd prefer to not be associated with him.

My mum had an affair and left my dad with 5 kids when I was 16 which was like ages ago now. Anyway apart from that I knew 3/4 of my grand parents, one of which passed away when my dad was 9 so even he didn't even really know him. They've since passed and I've lost two uncles to cancer but I was never really close to them so apart from my mum, nothing has really effected me any more than it would any other person.

My mum left to live in Coventry when I was 15 and I see her every couple of months usually, my parents broke up when I was 14 and my mum is still around. My dad can't communicate so when we got asked to leave our family home of 20 years, he kicked me onto the street and doesn't seem to want a relationship with me anymore

None of my actual aunties and uncles give a ****, but I never cared. My mum and dads best friends are my auntie and uncle instead, they're cool.

My dad left when i was v young i guess it affected me a lot cause then my stepdad was an *** and i never had any brothers, so i never really grew up with a massive male role model in my life (my grandad was closest thing to it) and consequently always struggled with befriending men as i got older until a certain point

well my biological father( I can not call him a "dad" and usually refer to him as David) used to physically abuse me as a child he would hit me and so on, child neglect was a basic issue for him. When I got to 8 I had to go to court and make sure he could never see me again unless I decide too. Since I was 8 he always sends cards and presents on birthdays and Christmas' I'll throw the card away and if the present is "good" I'll use it cause waste not want not. My sisters still to this day will not believe me but we choose to not talk about it now as I prefer to keep a bond with them than loose them for some low-life.

My mum has always been dependent on others to look after me an as much as I do love her she is not the realistic mum, more a rebel friend. 2013 it became aware she had a mental illness and I became the "mother" to her looking after myself and my mum. Due to unforeseen circumstances I moved out to live with my boyfriend in 2014 and a few months later my mum was admitted to hospital and diagnosed she remained there for 2 months until being released on recovery. She has been great for the pass 9/10 months now it seems she has had a relapse and even though I don't live with her I am again taking care of her and worrying out of my mind for her care. She won't be admitted to hospital again until her illness is at breaking point so it's like a sitting duck.

My step-dad who I did see as my dad and longed to actually be his daughter. He was a amazing man but he unfortunately died in 2012, he didn't leave me exactly. The only problem was being young I didn't really understand what moderate drinking was and it turned out my dad and mum were not moderate drinkers. My dad died from pulmary odema (sorry for the spelling, not A* yet)

I think in life family might leave but it's there lost not yours. A lot has happened in my life and I have pulled through. I still love my mum and will always love my dad. I read all the story's above and my heart breaks to see what I didn't know about some of you but I smile at the courageous effort you all made to pull through these sticky situations. Soo well done, Carry on being strong.


P.s there will be many spelling mistakes as I am knackered xD


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lol my dad left when i was around 4/5 and i don't know/remember anything about him or that side of the family apart from his name and i'm glad

my mum doesn't speak to her parents and just her brother sometimes so i don't have a very large family but all is well

my dad was never really there for me, left when i was 8, he was a alcoholic thats mostly all the memories I have of him, but since my mom passed away, hes trying to be a part of my life, which is alittle late, he should of been there long ago, but i guess its a good thing hes trying, better late then never.