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How often do you argue with them, if you live together did you argue more before or after taking that step? Do you argue over meaningful/important things such as money etc. or can some of them be smaller things that might not have needed to result in an argument? How long into the relationship was it before your first argument?
Why samanfa do you need to get something off your chest
No I was just curious ;) - there's 2 couples at work (including my relationship), the other couple always argue and they bring it into work whereas my boyfriend and I have never had an argument, I was wondering which one's more common!Quote:
Originally Posted by Empired
I've been with my girlfriend 3 years in March and we've never actually argued believe it or not, we've never really had anything to argue about. It's nothing but happiness and laughter!
when we first moved in together we would always argue non-stop! it was so hard because neither of us had lived w/ someone before and we were both still kids tryna be big bad adults. nowadays we rarely argue with each other, as time has gone on we've improved whatever that used to annoy each other type of thing. we get annoyed with each other about stuff but just get over it like 5 mins later lol
not often and when we do it's over silly things and we're back to best friends in 30 mins
I don't really argue with her. She defacto wins every argument before it starts anyway.
My previous relationship literally all the time lol..
we can go a few weeks argument free then suddenly the heavens open and it's argument central
yes me 2Quote:
Originally Posted by wixard
usually we are fine soon after tho cos theyre normally not big or anything jus petty
Very rarely
me and @Elegance never argue!
i dont know youQuote:
Originally Posted by =Ariana
We never have personal arguments which is mad considering we are up in each other's shit 24/7 but we do occasionally have arguments in work
maybe not arguments but we bicker if i'm caught on my phone or if i'm doing something I shouldn't be doing. which is fair enough
shes only jokin we are marriedQuote:
Originally Posted by Elegance
Me and my gf dont argue tbh, depends really. We debate more than anything, but that's just my relationship lol
We don't really argue at all. Nothing to argue about. If we do, it doesn't last very long and no one hardly notices
I guess this is kind of directed towards those who are dating/partnered.
But I guess my question is about arguments. How many times would you say you argue with your partner? Do you think it is healthy for you when you are able to argue?
I guess I brought this up because I have been reflecting on my past arguments and have realized that without those arguments we wouldn't be where we are today, with the openness, and just honesty.
Tell me your views of arguments in the relationship. This thread is not for advice, but just for chatting. Lol.
Thread merged by !Landon (Forum Moderator) as these two threads work well together!
When we first started living together 6 years ago we argued an awful lot, proper screaming matches. I think though it was for us to get used to living with each other and at that point we had only been dating like 5 months I think and seeing each other for a few days every second week or less. I was also going through a really tough time and took it out on him when I really shouldn't have. Flash forward six years and we very rarely argue and if we do we easily resolve it. They aren't usually petty things, just stuff we've been struggling with and getting it out helps us move forward on the topic. We bicker from time to time but get over it like a minute later and will have a cuddle straight after.
Some times you just have to argue when things build up and they help fix things usually. Obviously, in an ideal world you wouldn't argue but instead talk about it civilly but I don't think that's possible every time :P
Yeah, it's definitely shows growth in a relationship when arguments and screaming matches become discussion and reasoning.
My partner and I just passed our year and a half and it's different than when we first started. We've been living together for just over a year so I totally understand the stretch from not seeing much of each other to always seeing each other. Lol
Rarely if ever argued. Broke up after a year and won't be going back.
I think arguing is normal in a relationship. I think if youre arguing too often or about the same things then it can break the relationship. I personally think some arguements can make the relationship stronger just not too often.
Argue very rarely, but whenever we do we always make up quickly.
Never argued and we've been together just over a year, I think it's because we have so much in common and we're so alike in some respects that we have no reason to argue. I think when we decide to live together they might happen, but I have no doubt we'll work through them!
It'll happen, definitely. At least arguing means that you are able to communicate to each other instead of keeping secrets! That would lead to insecurities.Quote:
Originally Posted by Samanfa
Well, we have no secrets at the moment either, it's going really well! I know what you mean though, my boyfriend was worried about telling me something before and vice versa and it was so much easier just to come out and say it, and now some of them are running jokes because we can actually talk about the stuff lmao.Quote:
Originally Posted by !Landon
Yeah, that's how mine ended. Couldn't communicate well enough and insecurities happened. SuckedQuote:
Originally Posted by Samanfa
One of my first proper relationships was like that. I don't think it helped that we were both in college and lived around 20 minutes apart either. He used to go to sleep fairly early because on some nights he didn't finish college until 10pm (he was a chef and the college had a restaurant so they opened one night a week) and it was horrible because we would never see each other. Not to mention that if anything was wrong instead of waiting to see him I'd have to text him, but then I would always think it was my fault and apologise when it wasn't, then he dumped me by text and had tried it on with my sister and best friend during the relationship, so you can see that was a great relationship!Quote:
Originally Posted by !Landon
This is one of the biggest obstacles that my partner and I faced. It was a big reality check when I realized that I didn't need to 'know' everything and everything.Quote:
Originally Posted by Samanfa
That his agenda could be hidden and that the level of trust for him had to improve. It was a two way street with this one as well.
Yeah I understand that too, we're not so caught up in each other and each other's business that we need to know everything. It's like the games we play too, yeah he knows what Habbo is (although he mocks it :P), but he's not exactly going to go play on it, likewise I wouldn't with the games he plays. It's like one of those relationships who need their partner's passwords and access to their phone stuff like that? I don't see the point in that, some things are private and that's how it should be!Quote:
Originally Posted by Brad
I don't think we've actually argued since we got together, but I imagine it'll happen one day. We work well together though, we've lived together basically the whole relationship so we were able to get comfortable with each other quickly, and we can talk openly about whatever so we can usually come to a compromise or work together on things.