Physical Relationships

[Adzeh]

Does physical activity within a relationship ruin it altogether?

I have been with two girls in the last 6 months, it started to get physical in both relationships after around 2-3 weeks and then every time I went out, all I ever did was want more and more physical activity. I would count the night wasted if I hadn't got something off the girl.

Now, with a different girl who I've been trying to get with, I count every minute as heaven that I am with her. I am scared to try and touch her and even a kiss gets me excited.

Does this feeling depend on the girl you are going out with? And does physical activity become addictive and ruin a relationship? Anybody else had the same experience?

[Ostinato]

Does physical activity within a relationship ruin it altogether?

I have been with two girls in the last 6 months, it started to get physical in both relationships after around 2-3 weeks and then every time I went out, all I ever did was want more and more physical activity. I would count the night wasted if I hadn't got something off the girl.

Now, with a different girl who I've been trying to get with, I count every minute as heaven that I am with her. I am scared to try and touch her and even a kiss gets me excited.

Does this feeling depend on the girl you are going out with? And does physical activity become addictive and ruin a relationship? Anybody else had the same experience?

When you say you get 'ecited' every time you kiss her, do you mean physically or mentally? ;] - Cause that's a whole different kettle of fish!

Anyway, in some instances I'd say that yes, in some relationships I've been in that have became physical just simply ended in tears. Sometimes it just ends up that, that's the only reason you want to be with that person, and you forget the whole reason what the relationship is about, love.

I say, if your worried about ruining the relationship, you need to hold off for a bit. Speak to this girl and explain to her how you really like her and feel you're ready to do things (if you are), and if she feels the same then go for it. But don't just do it for the hell of it, if you don't really have strong feelings for her - otherwise it'll all end it tears!

Let me know how it goes mate! ;] :]

[FlyingJesus]

It does depend on the girl, because obviously you won't feel exactly the same about each girl, and sometimes you may find yourself being with someone simply for the physical side of the relationship. However, all is not lost. In my experience relationships do go through a stage where just about the only thing that happens is humpin' and bumpin', and after a while you might think to yourself that it's going nowhere, but you just have to ride it out (or if you prefer, let the girl ride it out ) and it will slow down after a while.

With this new girl of yours, don't be worried about the kisses exciting you, it's a good thing. If even small things like that get you going, then if you do decide to take things further you'll enjoy it all the more for savouring each moment. Physical activity doesn't ruin a relationship, and for long-term relationships it's essential, just try not to be too greedy with it ^_^

[Eoin]

I think getting physical helps a relationship. It brings you much closer to each other.

[Ostinato]

I think getting physical helps a relationship. It brings you much closer to each other.

As long as both parties feel they are ready to and realise the consequences.

[Adzeh]

Nobody answered on eof the questions.

Is it just m or do alot of people just go out and 'do things' for the sake of it?

[ASHFELT]

Nobody answered on eof the questions.

Is it just m or do alot of people just go out and 'do things' for the sake of it?

Some people might but it is not like that in most cases

[Ostinato]

Nobody answered on eof the questions.

Is it just m or do alot of people just go out and 'do things' for the sake of it?

Well, I'm sure you've heard of one night stands. Trust me, a hell of a lot of people do, do it! They go out purposely looking to find one person to have a physical relationship for that one night only, and in fact it's actually a huge problem in this country as it leads to alot of sexually transmitted deseases etc.

I'd say it's more common in 18+ year olds, who go out clubbing and meet folk. But I know a lot of people around 14 - 16 who do the same sort of thing, so yeh I'd say it was common - but remember that doesn't make it alright or a good thing to do! ;]

[GJay]

Physical activity can spoil or help depending on how far you are in the relationship. Try 6 months of doing nothing lol.

[FlyingJesus]

Physical activity can spoil or help depending on how far you are in the relationship. Try 6 months of doing nothing lol.

I can sympathise with that -_-' Edit: The subheading under your name is well good haha.

I read through the "successful marriage" counselling book that my mum got before getting married last summer, and part of it does mention the physical side, saying (and I quote ^_^):

"Sex is not just the icing on the cake, it's a vital ingredient"

Check that, what a fantastic analogy.