omgthisgirl

[Ollie12]

yep, its another one of those helpless teenagers who really fancies a girl but does not know what to do to get her. its an extremely long story but ill try and include everything. ive tried everything, books, google (lol) and now i seak other teenagers who may have been in the same situation.

i have fancied this girl ever since last year, about november time. i never thought she'd be interested in me so i tried to put it to the back of my mind. recently ive been sorta really wanting a girl friend so i thought i mite as well ask her on msn if she would ever give me a chance (just as a random thing she didnt know i fancied her at this point). and she turned round and said yeh defo but but not atm. we got talking and things and she said i dnt wanna go out with you now and i asked her why. she said she was upset about tom she didnt exactly fancy me atm.

tom was my best mate before all this happened. i dnt really like him now coz of what he did to this girl i fancy. tbh, he only went out with her for her body which i think (you may think differently) is out of order. shes only ever been out with users and her relationships with these users have lasted only a week. so going back to mine and this girls convo on msn... i asked her what tom has to do with me and you going out in the future. she basically said that after going out with users havin a boyfriend was far too much of an effort. i said what you going on about and she said coz with havin a b/f you have to try and be perfect and i cba anymore. i was reli puzzled by this. anywayz, she says bye and goes offline.

next day, i talk to her again and i set look, ive hid this for ages but ive fancied you for ages and ages. she was okay with it and i felt quite comfortable. then i tried to go back to the 'havin to be perfect' thing. i tried to explain to her that if i went out with her i would want her to be normal not perfect. i said that i fancied her for her normal self (her personality etc) not for her body. she was okay with that and i said soo... the main problem now is you dnt fancy me? lol and she said yeh i suppose.

so guys this is where i reli reli neeed ur help. i need to get her to fancy me. im willing to try anything. if any of you have got some flirting tips or adivce pls help!?!?!? im mad about this girl especially afta she said i had a chance. i cant explain how in love i am with her. you've gotta help me. +rep to anyone who says something that helps me. i have a chance with this girl and i dont want it to go to waste!?!?!?

[velocity]

you cant force her into something, love just..happens?

[Ollie12]

its not forcing. they say you have to send the hints. like flirting and stuff. i think if i do that more it will happen. so any suggestions?

[DiscoPat]

You've explaned it nicely, I think that you need to play little games on her now, let me explane..

Act all friendly, nice and flirty with her and when you talk to her in Msn, what you need to do is for example, once the convo has started and your having fun talking, and you know you have her 100% attenchion and she is enjoying talking with you, you need to say somthing like, "oh I need to go now chat to you later bye", this will result in her thinking, uh - I really wanted to continue talking to him.. If you continue this for like a week, and then suddenly in the middle of the convo ask her out, ..

[Ollie12]

so what your saying is to try and play her at her own game? coz she tried to do that very often. i do not know if she means to or whether she does really have to go but it makes me feel like i want to carry on talking to her. i will try this so +rep discopat. i was doing some thinking of my own and what i was thinking if ive got to try and riase my standards a little so she wants me. atm i think she thinks she has me wrapped around her little finger. she thinks the relationship i want with her is all under her control. so im gunna try and play it 'cool' over the next few weeks and see what happens. the last thing i want to end up doing is begging her to go out with me. this relationship wouldnt work if she didnt 'really' fancy me. btw, thanks for ur comment about my explanation. i want her so badly that i would write a book about her if she wanted me to... has anyone else got any other suggestions on how to handle this situation?

[Cwmbran]

For starters it's a good job you told her not one of your friends, I believe that shows your serious about someone.

If she is going through hard times as it looked like, be there for her, comfort her and ocasionally put in a joke to cheer her up. (No personal jokes.)

To me it looks like shes not ready for another relationship at the moment, she would be thinking that your just like all the others, the users. Maybe when you go out with your friends invite her out tell her she can bring some of her friends so she feels comfortable and if you do this make sure what ever you and your friends are doing you take time out from that to go speak with her.

You must make her feel comfortable around you and show her that your not just using her for her looks. You said in your last post you would write a book about her, when you two are closer write her a poem or something or a little note saying how much you feel about her and why.
Goodluck.

[Ollie12]

ty so i just got to be there for her and wait for when shes ready?

+rep erm any other suggestions?

[Cwmbran]

ty so i just got to be there for her and wait for when shes ready?

Exactly.

[Shinigami]

I'm no expert on this but I think you should try and just be friends for a while, sometimes being friends leads out to other things later on. If she just isn't really interested or if she's not ready there's no point forcing her. I think you should do what Cwmbran said aswell. Also writing poetry and stuff like that does help to express how you feel, even if it's just for yourself just to let it all out; talking through experience

[hobo]

I'm no expert on this but I think you should try and just be friends for a while, sometimes being friends leads out to other things later on. If she just isn't really interested or if she's not ready there's no point forcing her. I think you should do what Cwmbran said aswell. Also writing poetry and stuff like that does help to express how you feel, even if it's just for yourself just to let it all out; talking through experience

lol@writing poetry.

you have 2 options

1. flirt with her, try make her laugh etc, and hope it works.
2. get her drunk.