Problem..

[Earthquake]

Okay, I really want to spend less time of the computer and more time with my friends, but tbh, I have really bad confiedence, I can't even look at a teacher in the eyes when talking to them, I really need help ;l I'm on the computer like as soon as i get home until i go to bed, its ridiculous, And when I do go out, I only know where 2/3 friends live all the rest don't tell me, And when they don't wanna go out Instead of going home to make it look like i have no friends i go to the park and think about life and stuff, Its got so bad I haven't had a gf for the last year now... My confiedence is really bad, I wish I never even knew habbo, if Only my sister never showed me it, I would probally be not all unconfiedent, I can't even ring the job expierance company to get a interview booked because my confiedence sucks, I don't really judge myself, but people have told me im good looking and stuff so that isn't why my confiedence is bad, I seen really bad ugly people full of confiedence, I grew up in a bad area with my mum and her bf, he use to beat her up, I had to leave and live with my dad because he punched me in the back for knocking over he's coke can and then gave me a throw at the balcony, btw i was 8 at the time, I just dont want to spend so much time on computers, im probally one of the fastest computer typers in the school i go to, some times i wish i was dead, my dads getting sick of me on the computer all the time, And it isn't like i can't just turn the computer of, im bored without it. I went out the other day, and i had fun but then my terrible confiendence kiked of again so i never talked that much when i was out, they saw how miserable i was and thought it was because they was boring, so i just went home, Sometimes I wish I wasn't born, Like nearly everyone knows me in school, I have a great reputation with most people from the school, but the rest just always want to fight me because they think I am like really strong what really gets me down, And if I argue I am always the one getting into trouble...

[Shawnstra]

When I was younger, I was very shy. But thanks to my teacher, who was a great teacher, we go out frequently, with my other classmates of course. She kept teasing me , and I got out of my comfort zone. Just try to forget about embarrassment, and you can do it! Good luck

[Bouncing]

Mate, i completely understand youre situation. I used to be on the computer all the time too. but now im not on it at all. Ill give u some advice, ive became more confident with myself lately, i used to be totally uncofident, but now its changed to im very paraoind :S. You need to say to youre friends ur not very confident, thats why youre a bit weird sometimes, then if they are true friends they will understand, and try and give you some advice, or even making sure u are involved in alot of things, and will do things in order to make you confident. Just think why should i be uncofident to do this IE when your making an appoitment for A job interview, whats the worst that can happen? book it get there, answer the questions, dont think ahhh whats going to happen i may say something wrong, just answer the questions truthfully, dont be nervous, but just make sure you say nothing stupid. The worst he is going to say is no, but there must be good reasons which he will tell you in order for him to say no on which you can improve on.

[Nemo]

im kinda the same, i dont have much confidence thanks to the bullys at my school, aka my friends :rolleyes:

basically, try and limit urself, i know its not easy at all, i struggle with it and dont always succeed, but also ring ur mates, ask if they wanna go out or sumin, if they aint then go on it, watch TV, play games consoles, read w/e and then if they are gonna then get ur clothes on n jump out the house, u better not reply to this >

[Extor]

Okay, I really want to spend less time of the computer and more time with my friends, but tbh, I have really bad confiedence, I can't even look at a teacher in the eyes when talking to them, I really need help ;l I'm on the computer like as soon as i get home until i go to bed, its ridiculous, And when I do go out, I only know where 2/3 friends live all the rest don't tell me, And when they don't wanna go out Instead of going home to make it look like i have no friends i go to the park and think about life and stuff, Its got so bad I haven't had a gf for the last year now... My confiedence is really bad, I wish I never even knew habbo, if Only my sister never showed me it, I would probally be not all unconfiedent, I can't even ring the job expierance company to get a interview booked because my confiedence sucks, I don't really judge myself, but people have told me im good looking and stuff so that isn't why my confiedence is bad, I seen really bad ugly people full of confiedence, I grew up in a bad area with my mum and her bf, he use to beat her up, I had to leave and live with my dad because he punched me in the back for knocking over he's coke can and then gave me a throw at the balcony, btw i was 8 at the time, I just dont want to spend so much time on computers, im probally one of the fastest computer typers in the school i go to, some times i wish i was dead, my dads getting sick of me on the computer all the time, And it isn't like i can't just turn the computer of, im bored without it. I went out the other day, and i had fun but then my terrible confiendence kiked of again so i never talked that much when i was out, they saw how miserable i was and thought it was because they was boring, so i just went home, Sometimes I wish I wasn't born, Like nearly everyone knows me in school, I have a great reputation with most people from the school, but the rest just always want to fight me because they think I am like really strong what really gets me down, And if I argue I am always the one getting into trouble...

try finding a hobby that consists of socialising with people.. theres some proper nice people, you just havent found them yet. they probs have the same problem as you do and together you can build each others confidence up. summers coming up so you'll have plenty of time on your hands to find something like that to do x

[Toughened]

Write I'm going to try and help you again haha as I helped you in the last thread but here goes:

1. The problem with the PC is not much of a problem as you're making out. I'm on the PC from when I get in from school to bed. You just have to limit yourself if your getting stressed about the amount of time your on it and find other things to do.

2. You need to go out more say once a week and try going out on weekends too. If you do get offered or decide to go out with friends go for it and enjoy it and think of the great time your having and not the PC. I go out say once a week after school mainly but sometimes the weekend too. If your friends aren't the type to go out, organise it. Start by asking your close friends then when you start going out more and getting more confidence invite new people and maybe even make new friends. Or even if you just go out for half an hour after school which I do makes you feel like you're not stuck on the PC all the time and you're getting out a little bit and enjoying the world.

3. I think all teenagers who go on Habbo have experienced the addiction. I think once you realise how childish, silly and money making it is you will start disliking it and gradually spend less time on it. I used to be a Habbo freak but now I've found better things to do like IM and making websites and other things. Why not try a new hobby on the PC like website making or if you want to get off the PC altogether why not go to a Sports center/Youth Club just to socialize and help get rid of the nervousness and enjoy yourself too.

That's all I can answer for now based on what you've wrote if you have anymore problems feel free to pm me or post a reply. Just remember my little motto though:
You don't go out to go somewhere, you go out to go out. (Meaning you don't go out to go the cinema/park or wherever, and go home, you go out, enjoy it and go wherever the mood takes you). That's my motto anyway and good luck.

[timROGERS]

I go on the computer for a large amount of my time, but for me confidence isn't a problem. If you want to become more confident, begin to talk to more people in your form and year, and try joining a Drama school or something. Someone I know really came out of their shell when they tried acting.

[AndyDude312]

Ifyour good with computers and stuff and can do really great things on a computer, then use it as an advantage. Impress people with your computer skills. Or join some sort of club that gets you out. Something that yu know you're good at. That'll boost your confidence, being around people which you know you can do better than them at something