Step parent.

[ToxicPaddy]

Hello all

My real dad lives in Ireland and I rarely keep in contact with him. Unfortunatly, I have a step dad who treats me and my family like crap. He works in Switzerland from Mon-Fri and is here in Saturday and Sunday. Now, he thinks he has the right to shout at me, tell me off etc when he isint even my dad. When he is here on Sunday night, he swears and argues with mum like massive and goes to work on monday. On friday night he is always like "aww sorry please let me back" and of course, he comes back. Then on sunday, he is always argueing and... you get the picture. It is a no win situation. He uses us for a place to stay and mum says all the time "oh this time its different he wont come back" or "this time is different he really is sorry". Of course, it happens time after time after time.

I live with 2 sisters who like him. One if my sisters, who is 4, is his real daughter. They both get on with him because he likes them. He shouts at me all the time and says stuff to me that he knows offends me like "Oh all the irish are hypocrits" or something like that. Mum cant see what he is doing that and it does my freakin head in. I will give you 3 guesses what is happening tonight.. oh you got it in one - he is coming here again and its all happy families!

For christmas I got a £700 macbook that he SUPPOUSEDLY paid for. Every time I argued with him mum was like "Sean he got you that laptop you be nice" and so I apologized. But guess what little secret I found out... MUM PAID EVERY PENNY FOR IT! That is when I completely lost it and hit the roof. I cant believe he lied about a thing like that and I actually was going to give him a chance because of that but no way, the damage is beyong repair.

But that isint it. Oh no. I also found out him and his little friends go to the pub every now and then and what do they do? Cocaine. Mum also went mad at him this time but do you think it made the slightest difference? Nope. He came back, again and again and again. There are plenty of guys out there who like my mum. Theres one who I like and he likes me and he runs a business and makes loads and loads money but mum wants to stay with a little short fat long distance lorry driver who goes round the house with no shirt sweating like a pig. He sits next to me, sweating and stinking and is like "what you doing for the day then" and im like "ugh, showering."

Anyway, I talked to childline and connexions etc but they say if he doesnt physically hurt me he will stay as long as mum wants him too. So they didnt help. It has got to an unbearable stage which I cannot deal with anymore I am on breaking point here! Please please please please help!

Sean
ToxicPaddy

[ToxicPaddy]

Please help, I know its long and you might not want to read it but try?

[Assassinator]

Ive read it all, tbh you could ring childline and ask for advice or tell another member of your family, such as auntie's,uncles etc.

Hope i helped

[Jordy]

I really wish I could help but I can't and I see your getting rather annoyed and desperate about the situation, I was wondering what you need help with or is it just tips or something? People might start replying if so.

Sorry I can't help, all the best though.

[WarezKid]

Dude.

How old are ya?

[Metric.]

My mom has a "male friend" named Jason (Jay). When my mom first introduced him to me I was like no, I hate him. Then I took the time to get to know him and he turned out to be a pretty good guy.

I thought he would waltz in and pretend to be my dad. That wasn't his intention at all. I think that the only reason that he doesen't live with us is because he doesen't want to feel like he's replacing my dad..

[ToxicPaddy]

He has been here for 7-8 years and I still cant get to like him. And im 13, im 14 on the 22nd jan

[Breakfloor]

PUNCH HIM WHERE HE KEEPS HIS TAD POLES

[ToxicPaddy]

That has crossed my mind.. but considering the fact he is strong enough to get my bed and throw it down the stairs (he was angry at me and finds that an acceptable reason to do that) i wouldnt like to try it.

[WarezKid]

Hmmm..

Well it your like me


I suggest you keep away from him, and give him space.