what the hell at this..

[StripedTiger]

in november my friend (ill call her friend D) lost her mother and a week ago i found out she had been talking to an x of mine (Friend P), who i still remain close friends with, and asking if he still had feelings for me, bringing up issues like how he gave me £40 for my birthday back in june.

This was making me uncomforable and making things awkward between me and friend p. So i texted friend D about this and telling her it was making things awkward. The reply i got was calling me ******ed and saying my head was up my own backside. So after a few texts back and forth (mine of which were all calm, not swearing once or speaking out of order, trying to explain i wasnt angry or upset just wanted to be honest and hers throwing every insult she could at me, and making out that if i hadnt finished the guy then things wouldnt be awkward? i dunno something like that..) i decided to leave her for a few days.

Today, another friend, friend A, decided to intervene and ask why i wasnt speaking to friend D and why i had ignored her at sixth form. This wasnt true as it was Friend D not speaking to me :/ as well as the fact i had hardly seen her around since she was off wednesday, and thursday + friday i had been busy with hardly any free periods. So i decided to speak to friend D and after a few words, she decided to bring up the fact her mum was dead, she was a mother to her 10 year old brother, a wife to her dad and i was causing unneccessary stress... this is the point where i told her to just learn to forget it and just move on. but she seems incapable of doing so and after i told her she either stays away from me, or talks to me, cos i am there for her when she needs to talk, she decided to say she didnt care if she lost me because im a fake person.

so bascially, i caused an arguement without meaning to, she refuses to let it drop or to even calm down, shes trying to turn people against me, laying it on thick with the mum thing, and using everything she can against me to make me look like the bad person. I do have sympathy for her and her situation, i have been there for her in the past but now shes just changed with a blink of an eye...

the guy im dating has had a load of arguements with her in the past, they are friends atm, but he says shes really shallow, ****** and attention seeking. I dont know if this is me being stupid or if everything has been blown out of proprotion like i think it has been?

Like wth is going on?

[Casual]

in november my friend (ill call her friend D) lost her mother and a week ago i found out she had been talking to an x of mine (Friend P), who i still remain close friends with, and asking if he still had feelings for me, bringing up issues like how he gave me £40 for my birthday back in june.

This was making me uncomforable and making things awkward between me and friend p. So i texted friend D about this and telling her it was making things awkward. The reply i got was calling me ******ed and saying my head was up my own backside. So after a few texts back and forth (mine of which were all calm, not swearing once or speaking out of order, trying to explain i wasnt angry or upset just wanted to be honest and hers throwing every insult she could at me, and making out that if i hadnt finished the guy then things wouldnt be awkward? i dunno something like that..) i decided to leave her for a few days.

Today, another friend, friend A, decided to intervene and ask why i wasnt speaking to friend D and why i had ignored her at sixth form. This wasnt true as it was Friend D not speaking to me :/ as well as the fact i had hardly seen her around since she was off wednesday, and thursday + friday i had been busy with hardly any free periods. So i decided to speak to friend D and after a few words, she decided to bring up the fact her mum was dead, she was a mother to her 10 year old brother, a wife to her dad and i was causing unneccessary stress... this is the point where i told her to just learn to forget it and just move on. but she seems incapable of doing so and after i told her she either stays away from me, or talks to me, cos i am there for her when she needs to talk, she decided to say she didnt care if she lost me because im a fake person.

so bascially, i caused an arguement without meaning to, she refuses to let it drop or to even calm down, shes trying to turn people against me, laying it on thick with the mum thing, and using everything she can against me to make me look like the bad person. I do have sympathy for her and her situation, i have been there for her in the past but now shes just changed with a blink of an eye...

the guy im dating has had a load of arguements with her in the past, they are friends atm, but he says shes really shallow, ****** and attention seeking. I dont know if this is me being stupid or if everything has been blown out of proprotion like i think it has been?

Like wth is going on?

if this guy still has feelings for you why the hell does she need to get involved? you should go to one of her exs n say do you still have feelings for her! she is just being nosey.

your mate seriously needs to ******* grow up n fast! yeah we all lose some body close to it but theres no need to try and ruin a friends life while trying to make yourself feel better, just ignore her and don't snap back, just nod and go yeah mm ok not really sarcastically but jsut a bit n she'll get really annoyed. she sounds like she is trying to get attention as maybe its on you? sit her down 1 to 1 n have a chat and if she really doesn't want to know then tell her to go get some sympathy from someone else.


hope it helped a bit

[scottish]

Just slap her or something, and ignore her and stay away from her, shes obviously not much of a friend if shes being a ***** like that.

[Ontario]

in november my friend (ill call her friend D) lost her mother and a week ago i found out she had been talking to an x of mine (Friend P), who i still remain close friends with, and asking if he still had feelings for me, bringing up issues like how he gave me £40 for my birthday back in june.

This was making me uncomforable and making things awkward between me and friend p. So i texted friend D about this and telling her it was making things awkward. The reply i got was calling me ******ed and saying my head was up my own backside. So after a few texts back and forth (mine of which were all calm, not swearing once or speaking out of order, trying to explain i wasnt angry or upset just wanted to be honest and hers throwing every insult she could at me, and making out that if i hadnt finished the guy then things wouldnt be awkward? i dunno something like that..) i decided to leave her for a few days.

Today, another friend, friend A, decided to intervene and ask why i wasnt speaking to friend D and why i had ignored her at sixth form. This wasnt true as it was Friend D not speaking to me :/ as well as the fact i had hardly seen her around since she was off wednesday, and thursday + friday i had been busy with hardly any free periods. So i decided to speak to friend D and after a few words, she decided to bring up the fact her mum was dead, she was a mother to her 10 year old brother, a wife to her dad and i was causing unneccessary stress... this is the point where i told her to just learn to forget it and just move on. but she seems incapable of doing so and after i told her she either stays away from me, or talks to me, cos i am there for her when she needs to talk, she decided to say she didnt care if she lost me because im a fake person.

so bascially, i caused an arguement without meaning to, she refuses to let it drop or to even calm down, shes trying to turn people against me, laying it on thick with the mum thing, and using everything she can against me to make me look like the bad person. I do have sympathy for her and her situation, i have been there for her in the past but now shes just changed with a blink of an eye...

the guy im dating has had a load of arguements with her in the past, they are friends atm, but he says shes really shallow, ****** and attention seeking. I dont know if this is me being stupid or if everything has been blown out of proprotion like i think it has been?

Like wth is going on?

It sounds like she is messed up with her mom dying and maybe being jealous of you. You can either do two thing wait for it to blow over or keep trying with you relationship with her. I if were you though i would keep trying and then if after so long she keeps being rude to you then at least you can walk away from your friendship and say to yourself you did everything to keep being friends.
Hope this helps

[BobX]

just get with friend Z and make a d and p jealous

[J0SH]

What Tony said, get with Friends A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K, L, M, N, O, P, Q, R, S, T, U, V, W, X, Y & Z and then it'll be a calm situation.

On a more serious note, just end the friendship with her, unless she's acting really stroppy because her mum died, I'd be a state if mine died God forbid but yeah, there's a reason why she's acting like that.

[Calon]

Define the following friends:
M, N, O, P, Q, R, S

I am now confused.

On a more serious note, just end the friendship with her, unless she's acting really stroppy because her mum died, I'd be a state if mine died God forbid but yeah, there's a reason why she's acting like that.

Agreed.

[Cyndia]

I mean.. it's rough losing a mom, and so I feel really bad for her, but she is definitely not dealing with it well. She's being completely unfair to you which is unexcusable, even though I feel bad for her. Its true.. Lots of people lose people that mean a lot, but it doesn't mean they can go around harrassing and alienating friends while throwing their loss in your face. Especially if she lost her mother a while back.. Idk. I'd say just try to stay away from her until she calms down, or try to talk to her in a calm situation. I'd also seriously suggest she try going through some grief counseling which might help her tone down on the playing the "my mom is dead" pity card, and which might help her realize how awful she's behaving as well as help her cope with it.

[Glen Coco]

maybe leave her to cool off for a while? let her know your there for her then just leave her to make the decision. i think ending the friendship or trying to keep talk to her will just make it tough for her.

[leah]

I tried to keep up with the friend letters haha
Just leave her to come to you, shes in the wrong.