Half brothers/sisters +18 rep

[Immenseman]

Well basically, probably around a year ago this month or so my Mum told me she had had a previous marriage and had given birth to three children. She was a victim of domestic violence and went to the police and what not but anyways. Yeah, when she told us my Dad wasn't very happy because he didn't think it was the right time and it shoulda been done face to face and what not. He told her this my mum flipped and said my Dad had things to tell us too... so yeah he was sat us down and told us he had a son from another relationship. I was like !!!!!!! omg. Only told like 1/2 peeps from online but yeah.

That's just the intro to my issue. Basically, what should I do with my half brothers and sisters? I've met one of them and she's nice and she has a child (yay i'm uncle immenseman) so tonight I found one of my half brothers on facebook and looked through all his photos, he has a child too which is like my half-nephew and he's my half brother... they're family yet I don't know them. I didn't add him because that'd be awkward.

Do you think I should get to know them or just realise they probably don't want to because if they did they'd get around and try and meet me? urgh just tell me what you'd do. +18 rep for any good help. i know this thread isn't coherent at all but yeah i just dno what to do

[syko2006]

Speak to them face to face, you have to meet them. If they came from your Mum Jake, they're part of you. The best thing to do is to meet them properly!
Hope all goes well!

[Black_Apalachi]

I also have a half-brother, my dad's son from before he met my mum, but it was never a secret or anything. I've only met him twice, once when he came over from Ireland to visit when I was about 9 and then again last year when he came over for my dad's funeral. So basically I understand the awkwardness of not really knowing them but wanting to get to know them.

As it's the time of year, a simple Christmas card could be the perfect way to get in touch with them sort of casually. Assuming you can get their addresses from your parents? You could just say hello and offer your details so they can respond if they wish and possibly arrange to meet .

Now that you mention it though, I should probably make an effort to get in touch with mine a bit more. I never think about it really because I rarely see any of my family anyway; I have two aunties in England (one sort of near me) and the rest of my family is in Ireland.

[Nixt]

Well all but one of my siblings is classed as a "half" brother / sister but I don't look at them like that. I think you should go for it and try and get to know them and not let the fact you don't know them yet get in the way. You only live once and I think you will regret it if you never try to get into contact with them so just go for it.

[kk.]

Tricky one. I'd say arange something like bowling or a trip to a zoo or something and invite everyone of them. Great fun and you'll get to know each other and see your nephews etc. I wouldn't worry about them not wanting to meet you, they might not even know about you yet, or are in the same situation

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[Immenseman]

they do know about me and they're like 25+ and im 17 which is kinda why it's a bit like ;l

[Japan]

Do you want to meet them?
I personally dislike around 97% of my relatives but I'm a teenager and currently going through that "I hate the entire world" phase.
If you are prepared to meet them all then write them a letter or e-mail. Phone calls can sometimes get a little awkward since you don't quite know how much they know about your relationship- for all you know, they might know nothing about you (I've just realised I've used the word 'Know' four times in one sentence but i cba to change it).

Good luck Jake, hope they don't turn out be serial killers or something xoxo

[kk.]

LOL did someone report me? Was a joke haha

in that case I'd do what rob said and send em a card which should spark something in them saying you wanna get in touch

[Immenseman]

LMAO I TOLD ROB TO REPORT YOU.

anyway, i'll read and reply to them when forum is back properly.

[Black_Apalachi]

what no you never and as if i'd do what you say anyway nobody likes you ;l