Weight/body image

[FlyingJesus]

Shut up about personality, aesthetics are important so we're gonna talk about that for a bit. Of course personal taste is going to come into this in a big way because not everyone likes the same looks, but whatever you yourself are into it's highly likely you've at some point thought "eurgh, she's far too big" or "rough that dude fat as init" and been reproached for such sentiments, with phrases like "BIG IS BEAUTIFUL" or "IT'S JUST CURVES" being brought into play. Fair enough, if you believe that then you believe it, but then an anorexic or someone just naturally thin goes by and it seems that they're open to fire for their appearance without any defence, which just seems wrong to me.

There's been an attempt to make plus-size models the new in thing for 2010 (which in my view is disgusting, I don't want to see that) and it gets media praise for showing "real" women despite the fact that these larger women are in some cases clearly unhealthy, often much more so than the skinny models we're more used to seeing on the catwalks. It seems irresponsible to show such people as being better/more real than the more conventional models considering their own ill health, and massively hypocritical of both the fashion industry and the mass media.

So.. my questions to you: what sort of size do you prefer in a partner, and if you have an opinion on it what do you think of the hypocrisy in bringing in plus size models to make a stand rather than simply using healthy people?

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[Bun]

i like small-medium height and slim-curvy shape, i'm actually turned off if a girl is too skinny bork

[Immenseman]

slim wins.

[Sammeth.]

I like a guy with a toned body. Slim, but with defined muscles. But with my face beggars can't be choosers innit tom. What I want is different to what I would settle for though cus Im quite desperate.

For example, Jesus has a pretty ideal body.

[Nixt]

I like SLIM with a bit of TONE. Can't stand fat people or even people with a bit of chub. Makes me feel sick.

[Black_Apalachi]

I agree with the thing about healthy models but I also agree that it's not a good idea to keep allowing the focus to being on size zero and being as thin as possible. I guess it's just because I hate how the media uses this to effect people and they become all self-concious which can lead to problems such as anorexia. Maybe that's just cos I'm skinny anyway so it annoys me when healthier people feel the need to become unnecessarily skinnier.

As for partners, I actually don't think I've ever thought 'oh she'd be great if she was skinner/fatter' or whatever. But thinking about them, I guess I subconsciously prefer sort of normal/healthy sized (not too skinny but not chubby).

[kk.]

i think the plus size models arent actually like, size 14 - 18 or something, probably more 8 or 10.

im probably with rob on this one, i dont think like, shed be well much better if she was skinnier, its just a natural thing that wouldnt make me look twice.

[Hecktix]

the thought of a fat girl naked makes me feel quite sick.

I like a slim girl

But not like rly rly skinny.

[FlyingJesus]

I guess I subconsciously prefer sort of normal/healthy sized (not too skinny but not chubby).

Then what constitutes too skinny/fat for you? It's a subjective ideal really as some people think anyone under a size 20 is too thin and some (ie: me) wouldn't go above a size 8 generally

i think the plus size models arent actually like, size 14 - 18 or something, probably more 8 or 10.

As far as I'm aware "plus size" has to be 12 and above but I may be wrong on that. The fact that the big models are photoshopped to hell (yes, even more than normal ones from what I've seen) to get rid of rolls and make them look somehow toned even at their sizes gives off the idea that they're healthier than they really are, which is wrong as it kinda promotes the idea that people can become overweight and not being adversely affected

[Black_Apalachi]

I dunno, I haven't thought about it very much before. In fact funny story, my friend (who happens to be the girl I like) was spoken to by some randomer when we were out the other night and he said, 'can I just say something as a friend, you need to eat somethin love'. She's not even badly skinny, she's just normal. She was fuming though lol .