Internet dating/Having a crush on people you talk to online

[PaulB]

Well I've only recently started coming back on here (now and then) and sent someone I used to talk to ages a go a message, asking how she's doing and that. Then got a message from someone else who I thought was joking at first asking what I'm doing talking to his woman. :S

This made me think.. Is it possible to fancy or have a relationship with people that you know online. I used to do it when I was like 13, on Habbo back in 2003 but thought it was boring. I wouldn't dream of doing it now I think it's sad lol. What's the point in looking to have a relationship with people who live milessss away from you when you could just turn the computer off, go outside and see lots of girls/boys who live closer to you.

Is anyone currently in one? Or have you ever found yourself having a crush on someone, from the internet?

[Deak]

I'm not in one and i very much doubt that i will ever get in a relationship with someone just because we talk lots and get on well via a computer.
I would rather get to know someone face-to-face who lives closer to me.

Just to say as well if people do have online relationships then its their decision really as everybody is different.

[chantellehugs]

I don't see the point in internet dating, it's so much more satisfying to do things like hold someone's hand, go out for a coffee, etc in real life. And seeing as you can't do anything physical, whether that be hugging, holding hands or whatever couples do, you may as well just be really good friends with the person for all it's worth.
For me a relationship would only work if I knew the person in real life, it's just not the same typing your feelings into MSN compared to saying it to their face

[FlyingJesus]

Ahaha just went on your profile to see who it was, Harry's just messing about and I am touched (in places ) that you were asking after me, yeah I'm still here forever and ever amen

To answer the question, I think you can grow to really care about someone and if they're fit probably have a little crush yeah, but wouldn't suggest that you can properly be in e-love as you do need some sort of physical aspect to make it real and there's not really a point to it as you say

[buttons]

Well I've only recently started coming back on here (now and then) and sent someone I used to talk to ages a go a message, asking how she's doing and that. Then got a message from someone else who I thought was joking at first asking what I'm doing talking to his woman. :S

aww you 2 fighting over me, WHAT'S A GIRL TO DO.



well idk if it's possible, it's up to whoever it is to decide. everyone goes on about how 'sad' it is when lots of adults go on websites and do it. my mum has and i don't think she's sad lol she dated someone with loads of money that she only had to see every few weeks. perfect! i don't believe in falling in love with someone, not even having a 'crush' on them if you haven't physically met them, even webcam doesn't count. i would do it though, idk how i'd decide if they were worth it but i would. i hate everyone irl anyway i'm gonna find my dream man on sugardaddy.com and live happily ever after trufax. dating websites are just another opportunity imo but you have to meet someone to 'love' them k

[Jacob]

Sounds like my cousin to be honest, though a bit different in some aspects. He spoke to this girl who went to his school when they we're like 5 and now he's 19 and speaking to her again. They then had an online relationship for about 2 years (because they were in different countries). He then went to meet her on 'holiday' and then when we got back they lasted another 5-6 months. I always thought it was really weird to have a relationship online but for them it seemed so natural.

I know it's not the same but still lasting for so long by talking through the internet for me is amazing! Overall I still don't see the point in online relationships as you can't interact with the person in real.

[Inseriousity.]

I think it's possible tbh. People who use dating websites are probably using them as a last resort. The world is so much bigger than their town/street etc and they might have better luck on the internet. Personally, I've always found everyone's obsession with finding someone wrong. It's not the end of the world if you remain single forever and you don't need a partner to have fun. I do think however that internet relationships can only be sustained for so long before a physical meeting is required. Internet-only relationships will never work if it's serious.

[Circadia]

I'm in one (call me sad or whatever) and I've known him for two years and planning on meeting him when I'm in college / year11. Some people think it's sad but i really don't give one. If you want it to work it will, if you don't well it could go either way...

[RedStratocas]

If you want it to work it will

yeah thats not really true. just cause you want something to happen doesnt mean it will. life has lots of unforeseen circumstances.

the problem is that online interactions are way way different than real life interactions, and when you meet someone in person they'll be way different than you think, because youve both built false personalities without realizing it. south park made a really good clip that summarizes this idea (fast forward to 19:35)

[Circadia]

yeah thats not really true. just cause you want something to happen doesnt mean it will. life has lots of unforeseen circumstances.

the problem is that online interactions are way way different than real life interactions, and when you meet someone in person they'll be way different than you think, because youve both built false personalities without realizing it. south park made a really good clip that summarizes this idea (fast forward to 19:35)

This is true but it is more likely to work if you want it to, and the video on that link doesn't work for people in the UK