if your bf/gf was unable to have children, is it ok to end the relationship?

[wixard]

im at work on my phone but this is being discussed on the radio that a man broke up with a woman after finding out she was unable to conceive because of A medical condition, and people are saying that it's wrong of him!! WHAT.

what do you guys think?

---------- Post added 19-03-2013 at 10:52 PM ----------

just to clarify he was with her 4 months

[Samantha]

It could be seen as wrong by some but I don't think it's that wrong, of course if that happened to me I would feel it was wrong as I get attached to people and develop feelings easily but if you want children and know for definite you did then you could look at other means whether it be adoption, IVF or finding another partner. I know some people, well I've read about it that some women tell the partner to find someone else to give them children and I find that brave but if that's the choice what feelings do they have for the person?

For the record I'm just saying it's up to the person but it depends on how you and your partner feel about it all.

[scottish]

Not gonna write an essay but yes, it's not wrong of him to end a relationship if he wishes to start a family and the person hes with cannot provide that

obviously they could look at other methods but thats down to their opinions on such stuff.

[FlyingJesus]

If you don't want to be in a relationship with someone then no reason is "wrong". The breakup can be poorly executed and obv it often is but to suggest that there are genuinely wrong reasons for breaking up with someone means that you think the person is somehow obliged to stay in a relationship they're not happy with

[Shar]

I don't actually know. I do know that I want children but..I know a couple who were married for 20 years before they conceived and now have a little on. You just don't know what could happen.

[Kardan]

Each to their own, but I wouldn't do that.

[AlexJRiley]

As a person whos main ambition in life is to get married and start a family of his own, I can see where the person is coming from but at the same time the moral implications sort of yeah... its a hard thing to gauge its dependent on the entire relationship

[MKR&*42]

Personal standpoint; I don't want kids so I wouldn't be too disappointed . As for others, entirely their decision - some breakups aren't exactly based on the grounds of a "nice decision" but he's allowed to do that as he so pleases^.

[Metric1]

yep. fine with me.

[buttons]

i don't think its wrong to, i would be gutted if my other half couldn't have children and know it would put strain on the relationship and result in ending. i don't believe there's one person in the world for everyone so you could easily fall for someone else and have kids with them. 4 months is NOTHING in a relationship, it's good he got out now rather than wait years to admit he wants kids and now she can find someone who doesn't mind the situation i guess