attention females get

[Sharon]

honestly it's getting to me now how disgusting the attention i am getting has changed within the last 6 months. my clothing sense hasn't changed in terms of getting any more or less revealing. personal choice i had never even wore shorts without tights out of the house until this year for the first ever year lol and that was less than 5 times. however within recent times i can't leave the house to the co-op which is a minute walk away without at least 3 ***** in cars waving/starin/shouting something/beeping/whistling something out their window. I JUST WANT TO SHOUT "I AM 16" at half of them. like right now that is harmless but the fact is that isn't all it's ever going to be, at some point it will get too far n turn into harm lol. this doesn't change depending on what i am wearing tbh, i can be in shorts which i never am anyway and receive less than if i am wearing a big massive hoodie and joggers. i don't take it as a compliment considering they're often way into 30s and older and it's quite obvious i'm NOT in my 30s and older.

it's turning into too much when people say **** and they're quite near me on a road, i find it very uncomfortable etc when they whistle/shout. today two creepy guys in manc easily in twenties near picadilly did this and started following me telling me to go with them somewhere lol... i was in a blazer, tshirt and high waisted trousers so hardly sexually promoting myself to be *+approached+*.

for that reason i don't think people 'ask for it' when they wear next to nothing. yes they may look ridiculous but no i think it just happens to so many girls whether ur looking for the attention or not. i saw this debate on a website n i found it v interesting.

however, i bought a top from UO yesterday and i'm already contemplating never wearing it lol... since the encounter today and considering what i was wearing at the time of that i now don't feel comfortable ever wanting to wear that top in case it does increase any sort of risk giving off the wrong message never bought a rly cropped top before and the intention is to wear it with anything high waisted mainly a skirt so still lit nothing showing i don't want that lol (anyone interested: http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/uk/ca...S-CROP-TOPS-EU) at this current time i will never wear it lol
it pisses me off how much worse this is getting. girls should not be treated with ANYTHING of this kind and some men should not feel like it is 'ok' and any form acceptable to speak to girls this way!!!

i don't know what the purpose of this thread is. i really don't, prob just wanna get it off my chest cos ive been thinking this topic through a lot lately.

either share opinions / anything / or answer the question: do you think girls increase the risk of sexual assault by dressing explicitly?

[Kardan]

I think women do increase their chances by dressing explicitly, but I suppose you could say that people can also increase their chances by being god awful drunk, high on drugs, hanging around with known criminals etc.

[scottish]

No, but i've never found a girl more attractive because they dress like a ****, I'd much prefer a girl properly dressed.

[wixard]

you get used to it, it doesn't bother me

don't rise to it

[buttons]

pretty much started happening to me aged 14 when i made more of an effort to be pretty and dress up, would be beeped at by men in white vans when walking home from school. would be told to come into pubs and clubs to dance. I used to like jogging as well but then male joggers would whistle or jeer at me going past and slow down to talk to me despite the fact i was obviously uncomfortable. i had to figure out when they wouldn't be out and change plans all because of men. i do find that harassment lessens now that i cover up my body when going for a walk.

most days i will walk down the street alone cause i know the people around me are ok but in strange places i worry about it. & it's especially hard on the weekend because drunk guys are the worst for these jeering. i can go out in the afternoon showing off skin and no one will say anything until the drunk guys are out. I personally find them quite intimidating for a number of reasons, not just cause they might be dangerous,

however they are a minority and i think the so called dangers of men are overdramatised on social media. it's not all with bad intentions and you can have a joke about it but it's a shame many of us hate to go out alone because we've gotten used to the harassment of a few people. it's hard to deny it doesn't happen because it happens to so much women once they've hit a certain age.

idk if less clothes increases the risk cause ive been hit on or harassed or ignored when wearing lots of makeup and little clothes vs no makeup and full clothing. but I'm just talking about harassment here.

[Gina]

i dnt like the attention females get sometimes lol like a lot of the time i dont understand because im nothing special or whatev but ill be walking home from tesco and people will beep at me and shout at me from their car windows cos its like by a main road lol?? i usually wear like my dads jumpers and theyre huuuuge and a pair of thick leggings lol at first i thought they beeped at me cos i was in the way then shouted at me bcos they were angry but surely i cant be in the way if im just standing on the side path and not even crossing the road?? obv its prob a joke like prob people with their mates of whatev i just struggle to understand why lol

then it was like wednesday i was walking home from my work experience and i was wearing a long sleeved top and thick leggings but the top was big so covered my bum anyway lol as well as a hoodie zippy thing ontop of that n some guy drove past giving me some weird smile like i didnt think anything of it until he parked next to me so i just walked fast n he started shouting up the road like hey princess hey hey turn around heyyy all that crap so i look back and he asked for my name or whatev??? i just carried on walking and ignored it so he changed tone of voice and started shouting like THANKS or thanks for that ;l he was about 40 ??? id prob half understand if he had a disability or something lol but he was working for a company and driving a van by himself so obv cant be that bad if he was trusted to go knocking at peoples doors delivering things

idk it all confuses me cos idg why any1 would beep at me or anything like that lol this year im not going trick or treating purely for reason of people being innapropriate lol im sure you remember last years stories @Sharon;
every year me andm y friends all dress up and we go trick or treating for the fun of it and its greatttt theres usually like 6 of us and we meet other friends lol not because we krave sweets or watev
mainly cos my mums too lazy to go out and buy sweets for trick or treaters so we go out and take it from other ppl to give as we get loooooaaaads of people haha

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okay so those were our costumes lol we're all diff n whatev but i wouldnt say any of us dressed revealing or anything like that lol we didnt walk round with our bums out and boobs flashing everywhere going as a "sexy black cat" lol
we had someone who looked about 50-60 follow us around calling us sexy for a good 10-20 mins until we finally lost them lol then we had some guy in a van parking in a driveway asking for us to go over there if we want free money???? couldve been a random act of kindness sure lol but i was with my friend at that point cos the group separated so two 14yrold girls at the time like would u rly??

i prob just used this to rant to cos i havent told anyone bout this stuff lmao so dont feel need 2 readi t

i would prob say wearing less clothing prob includes risks like what jen said but idk cos even being fully covered up obv can still happen

and 4 your top woo its fab lmao i dont know if id ever feel able to wear that tho
mainly from not feeling comfortable but just around people in general
if iwas to wear that in my area you prob would be given loads of glares from girls cos theyll think youre a '****' or a '****'
a lot of the time people wont care and will just shout it at you
tbh i prob wouldnt even be able to wear that in my house if my stepdad was in either though so might just be me being uncomfortable

ok im done
i didnt think id acc reply to this lol but heyho

[Kardan]

I know I'm male, but this is one of the reasons I don't go out drinking - having to put up with stupid males that literally want anything that moves. You spend the majority of your time looking out for the girls in the group.

[Aiden]

last year i was walking down the road with a female friend and pretty much all the old guys watched her because you could see her stomach lol. its pretty sick so i guess yes it does increase the chances

[buttons]

yea I don't wanna say too much with the risk of being called a feminist or man hater but it'd be nice if guys took into consideration what we experience. Like on the train a few months ago I was sat next to a guy and there was also a guy opposite us. The guy opposite was clearly drunk and touching my leg whilst the guy next to me could clearly see but turned a blind eye and as soon as a seat was free he moved into it just leaving me with this guy. Idk I was too scared to tell anyone :/ n he got off the same station as me and sat next to me n stared at me. It would be nice if the guys around me could have helped me feel safer.
n gina i so know what u mean. when they call u princess and **** then once u ignore them ur suddenly a *****, **** lmao!

[Kardan]

yea I don't wanna say too much with the risk of being called a feminist or man hater but it'd be nice if guys took into consideration what we experience. Like on the train a few months ago I was sat next to a guy and there was also a guy opposite us. The guy opposite was clearly drunk and touching my leg whilst the guy next to me could clearly see but turned a blind eye and as soon as a seat was free he moved into it just leaving me with this guy. Idk I was too scared to tell anyone :/ n he got off the same station as me and sat next to me n stared at me. It would be nice if the guys around me could have helped me feel safer.
n gina i so know what u mean. when they call u princess and **** then once u ignore them ur suddenly a *****, **** lmao!

Now, if I was the guy in that situation (The one turning a blind eye, not the perv), I probably wouldn't say anything directly to the pervy guy (Knowing my luck he'd probably stab me), but I'd say to you something like 'Our stop's next, let's go', just so you could get up and leave. I saw this happen on a bus I was on once, some weird guy (must have been high) was being really sketchy around some teenage girl, so a pair of girls just told her to hurry up or she'd miss the stop, and they all went to sit downstairs.

But then what if people suddenly start thinking I'm the perv for inviting you off the bus with me...