am I being unfair?

[Gina]

okay so last summer my stepdad began really hating my sisters boyfriend and so we werent allowed people over because of it especially not guys
a few weeks back i asked my mum if i could invite 3 friends over (1 other girl and 2 guys)
and my mum said yes except the rules are only downstairs, only when my mums in, only when my stepdads out, my mum has to be in the room next door and the door has to be wide open
which is fine and whatev
but when i invited them over she literally stood and just earwigged into any conversation we had because the door was wide open
i thought shed at least shut it lmfao
we obvs wouldnt do anything considering idk we wouldnt anyway n theres 4 of us?
anyway so since i havent asked to have friends over because like whats the point if my mums just going to listen to every single conversation
i want to have a guy friend over like not to do anything but i need help with biology revision (okay im actually being serious)
obviously if we're just revising it shouldnt be a problem being downstairs with my mum next door but having someone listen to every single conversation is awful
theres literally no privacy even if it is just revision

do you think its unfair if i spoke to my mum about it and said that if im just having people downstairs for you to listen in then i might as well not have people over
my friends were lit scared to speak last time lmao
or do you think am pushing my limits because am lucky enough to have friends allowed over again i guess but idk
i dont want my mum to go ape**** saying im pushing it for taking it up
but i dont see why i need to have her listen to every conversation
like i havent even done anything lmao
that wasm y first time everrrr having friends that arent female round my house
and my mum had to listen to every single conversation so they wouldnt even talk

this may seem like a really stupid thread but my mum can get really annoy if it seems like im pushing it
sorry thank you x

[Gina]

can Ij ust say theres absolutely no logic lmao
im allowed to stay at his and whatever and stay the night andi t doesnt matter
but round my house my parents need to hear the whole conversation
he hardly even talk with my mum around though because its just so awkward lmao
my mum stood in the door "tidying her office" and he was in the chair less than a metre away ;l

pls it makes no sense

[lemons]

i don't think it's worth the awkwardness him going round yours if you're trying to revise

just go to his or go to a library or another suitable place

[Phil]

That is so ridiculous


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[Kyle]

Tell your mum not to listen, it will make here feel awkward and not be so obvious in here spying next time.

[Empired]

If you're allowed to go to his just go there in stead and take all the revision stuff you need. No need to really go into details with your family but don't lie to them outright either as they'll eventually find out and then they'll have a REAL reason to ban you from doing stuff.

It's annoying as hell and my mum went through a phase of saying I wasn't allowed out to anywhere, but I was allowed people over. My dad still lived with us then and used to fall all the time and be really rude to my friends so I was too embarrassed to have them over, plus my mum would be in the room all the time asking them about me at school. So I just stopped inviting people over, stopped going out and really got into Habbox. What I'm saying is don't do that omg keep going to ur friends houses ok

[Gina]

I dont have a problem with going to his house and stuff but i muchhhhh prefer when people come round to my house because am a lot more comfortable obv
obv at my house i know where everything is and its a lot more relaxed and just a lot more comfortable which is why it bugs me to so much
and itd be lit perfect if my mum could at least shut the door lmao

If you're allowed to go to his just go there in stead and take all the revision stuff you need. No need to really go into details with your family but don't lie to them outright either as they'll eventually find out and then they'll have a REAL reason to ban you from doing stuff.

It's annoying as hell and my mum went through a phase of saying I wasn't allowed out to anywhere, but I was allowed people over. My dad still lived with us then and used to fall all the time and be really rude to my friends so I was too embarrassed to have them over, plus my mum would be in the room all the time asking them about me at school. So I just stopped inviting people over, stopped going out and really got into Habbox. What I'm saying is don't do that omg keep going to ur friends houses ok

[Empired]

I dont have a problem with going to his house and stuff but i muchhhhh prefer when people come round to my house because am a lot more comfortable obv
obv at my house i know where everything is and its a lot more relaxed and just a lot more comfortable which is why it bugs me to so much
and itd be lit perfect if my mum could at least shut the door lmao

Just don't think you can have it both ways which is annoying but inevitable You've gotta choose the discomfort of having your mum listening in to your conversations + freaking out your friends vs the discomfort of spending time in someone else's house.

[Sharon]

the bizzarest bit is u are ALLOWED TO SLEEP AT HIS HOUSE and he his not allowed alone with u downstairs at urs.... ugh dunno

like i said to u, there's literally no point raising the issue as ur mum is obv being told to do this and it'll cause an argument between u two as thts not what she even wants to do... and if she raises what you've said to ur step dad he'll either argue with her or shout at u. it's lose lose. charlotte n her bf was a good example. you may as well just get used to being round his and try n go as often as possible. eventually when u stay with him long term your stepdad may change his mind. only thing i can really see happening.

[Phil]

I honestly think your mam is the one being unfair here, not you