When did u realize u weren't straight

[buttons]

obvs for non-straight people, am including asexual here but ye when did u kno??

in my secret valentines thread i wrote about giving a guy a valentines card WELL i didn't even fancy boys at that time n felt weird about it so just copied my friends. i used to get jelly when my close female friends liked boys but didn't kno at that time that it was prob cause i fancied them. i think i was about 14 when i realised i might be bisexual cause i started to like boys but still got stupidly jealous over my girl friends. i wasn't 100% sure of my sexuality until i was like 17, wasn't sure if it was a phase but ye 100% certain now.

used to be guys on here who i had an (apparently!) mutual crush n they all ended up gay!! so ye when did u know/have an inkling?

[Empired]

There was never any specific moment of realisation for me. It's not even like I can look back and think of a time when I thought I was straight.

I've always just gone with the attitude of like "oh so I wanna do this today ok let's do it" and if that's different the next day then I'll go with that instead. I know that people do experience like an "enlightenment" (for lack of a better word of suddenly understanding that your sexuality is different to what you assumed it was) of suddenly not being straight (even if it takes months/years) but I just don't understand it because nothing like that ever happened to me - I don't even know what I am, just what I'm not.

Maybe the reason I've never been able to identify as anything specific is because I'm not that bothered about labels at all. Idk, I know they are definitely helpful for a lot of people as it is clearly really good for some people to suddenly be able to put a name to what they've been feeling all their lives, but not for me... As I said, I've always just taken the attitude that I'll do whatever I like and if that changes on a day-to-day basis then cool, and if it stays the same for a year then that's fine too.

[Plebings]

don't really remember, maybe when i started touching myself over guys. can kind of remember a point thinking i was bi but eventually realised that i was simply thinking that because of it being expected to go after girls.

[thms]

i never really grew up knowing anybody who was gay, it was completely new to me until i had gotten to secondary school and people just assumed i was because i wasn't your 'average' lad, i had a girlfriend for a year in year 7 who I had grown up with and i just assumed that was normal for boys to date girls, as many others around me did too but after that ended i came to realize that i definitely didn't have any sort of physical, romantic or sexual attraction to girls, it seems like most people 'knew' about my sexuality before i did and that was a bit annoying especially when friends were speculating about it behind my back, i felt like people just expected me to realize oh i'm gay let's tell the world when it wasn't as simple as that or at least, it wasn't for me, even coming out to my family (which was only last year) my aunt has said she just always knew from when i was child and always wanted to do her hair lmao, i didn't come out to my friends until i was 18 though cause whilst i knew i was definitely gay, i hadn't really experienced anything with a guy so i wanted to wait i guess. but other than that the internet definitely helped me realize i've mentioned this to you before i think @buttons; but idk?? without it and not many gay or bi people around me, or at least when i was younger, i wouldn't have known it was an acceptable thing to be gay even tho it's still viewed by some as unacceptable whatevz haters

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don't really remember, maybe when i started touching myself over guys. can kind of remember a point thinking i was bi but eventually realised that i was simply thinking that because of it being expected to go after girls.

oh yeah i came out as bisexual at first too for that exact reason

[Inseriousity.]

A really young age but can't remember exactly when. I think I had a crush on both the White Power Ranger and the Pink one. lmaoooo. Obv I was too young to know what it was or that there was a name for it. That came later, probably late primary school

[Empired]

A really young age but can't remember exactly when. I think I had a crush on both the White Power Ranger and the Pink one. lmaoooo. Obv I was too young to know what it was or that there was a name for it. That came later, probably late primary school

oh yeah lol I had a crush on the girl in this when I was like 10 or 11
I obsessed over her for a month or something



still think she's pretty hot tbh

[Alysha]

Honestly, I don't actually know. I remember wanting to hang out with girls a lot more during my late teens, but it was never really overpowering. I even made out with a couple of my female friends, but didn't feel anything then even though I thought there may have been. It wasn't really until Lauren that I realised there was something towards the same sex properly. I actually remember the specific moment where I was like 'yep there's the gay inside' I just wanted to kiss her more than anything in that moment when we were sat in my car at 4am. We'd spent weeks just sitting in my car every night until sunrise, romance init

[Drew]

Aww Alysha!! #relationshipgoals ove:

I'm not sure either, I had a really confusing teenage phase of dating boys and doing things with girls - sometimes I'd think I was straight, other times I'd think I was gay. I'm still not 100% sure tbh, but I do think I'm attracted to women more because most guys I've met are complete asses... Maybe I'm gay? I saw "Burnt" a week ago and Bradley Cooper was gorgeous and charming and everything, but I was lusting over Alicia Vikander the whole time even though she only had maybe 10 minutes of screen time. Anyway, it's something I'm still figuring out. I haven't even come out to any of my friends or family yet and it upsets me at times, but I keep myself busy with work and uni so I don't have time to think about it all. I don't think I'll do it anytime soon though, unless I get into a serious relationship with a girl.


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[buttons]

I'm not sure either, I had a really confusing teenage phase of dating boys and doing things with girls - sometimes I'd think I was straight, other times I'd think I was gay.

yeah same. was never straight enough but also never gay enough so always felt out of place with my friends or felt like a ~fake~ bisexual. i would go through periods of fancying only males then only females but generally i tend to lean towards females sexually and males emotionally.

[Alkaz]

I can remember when I was younger thinking girls were really pretty. I don't know if I had crushes on girls or if I just appreciated their looks and that they took care over their appearance. Not too sure but I think the defining moment for me is when I was in year 8/9 we were in the locker room after P.E. and this lad pulled his boxers down and started giving a speech about his big piece, his tshirt was covering everything but that was the moment when he made my heart pound and I really wanted to see what he was talking about. I'm not "out" and people have asked me at work if I'm gay and I just find it awkward because I have family members at work and I feel I can't come out to them if I'm not out to my family so I just deny it all the time. If i had no family working at work i would just be like yah i am because im not outing myself as such. I wish someone would be like 'we all know your gay' and I can be like yah I am and get on with life. So paranoid though.