divorced parents

[Gina]

are your parents together or separated? how did it impact your life? do you still both parents? (im so sorry to anyone whos had parent(s) pass away )
so my parents separated when i was 7 and my mum married my stepdad when i was 8
i'd say it was both good&bad
I remember my parents arguing a lotttt and I remember one night my mum was so sad she locked herself in the bathroom (which is the day they chose to divorce)
and I remember my mum coming out and sitting in the dining room telling my dad she's had enough and "he's won"

I remember the day we moved out we went to my current stepdads house
but before we left my dad had all his family round and they threatened my mum and threw water over the computer
I remember my dad saying like girl wouldn't you rather stay, you don't want to move etc and it was really horrible having to "choose" between 2 parents

then when the divorce came a lot of trouble came from it and my dad made it so my mum got as LITTLE as possible (despite looking after his 2 kids lol) so we were really tight on money at first
he'd refuse to give money towards school uniform etc which was lit for me and charlotte not even my mum

I still see my dad though. I used to see him every 2 weeks but then he fell ill and now I see him every 3 months. However I haven't seen him for 5 months atm but am going on the 20th

It had both good/bad impacts on my life though. my dad used to come home at stupid times drunk and shout at my mum and she'd shout at him so obv would wake me and charlotte up on school nights etc
so it's good that it stopped
it was such a pain visiting my dad though and when we did go we'd never see him. we'd stay for the weekend but would see him twice at dinner on the friday and saturday
my mum was a lot happier when we left though so that was obvious a good thing but the lack of money and struggles made it so difficult so that was a big downside

and now i've got my stepdad hahaha but thats a whole diff story
#storytimewithginz

[buttons]

mine separated when i was 11 but never got divorced. they had problems for a long time tho n only stayed together for the kids but i remember being like 4 n my mum crying in bed (me offering her my chocolate buttons) and my gran calling him a horrible person. he always cheated on her n she stayed (noob). i used to go to my dads every night for a year then he stopped answering the door and calls so haven't spoke properly since although he sends me cards and money. ive seen him in the streets drugged up n it does mess with ur mind when u have a parent like that because u fear that because you're related, you're a bad person like they are. so i always had daddy issues and never trusted men but it's all good now and im over it cause i know that just cause he's my blood, doesn't mean im like him or a coward like him (he used to get his gf to talk to us for him??? ur an adult fgs). i kinda just feel soz for him that he's missed out on his children's lives because he was too scared to face his problems.

[scottish]

mine are still together

[Empired]

They're still married but dad lives in a care home on the other side of town.

Before he was diagnosed he went through all this personality change (that we later found out was part of his illness) but at the time it just seemed like he'd become a complete *** and mum was going to leave him but then obviously that all changed with the diagnosis.

[Meanies]

Mine divorced when I was 12 and the papers were due to come through on my birthday but my mum asked to delay it until the next day. I think the only reason they ever got married was because they had my brother but they stayed together for about 14 or 15 years I think though he was abusive but my mum was too scared to report him. She's since been with someone else for 9 years which ended early last year and is now engaged to her new man. I know my dad is with someone at the minute but not sure how long that will last.

[Martin]

My dad left when I was really young, wasn't very nice and was basically just drunk all the time, and was quite a bully! When I was young he would come visit every couple of weeks and it would be awkward as hell. He owned a pub and I had to go stay there sometimes and it was so horrible. Quite a few times he had to send me home in a taxi because I was hysterical. As I've grown up he didn't visit so often and these days I hear from him like once every few years. He's forgotten about Christmas and birthdays and stuff now!

[dbgtz]

God these all sound so grim.
My parents are together but things would probably be better in the grand scheme of things if they weren't, but I doubt it will happen.

[Cerys]

Mine separated when I was about 13-ish??


My dad immediately lost interest in me like my mum gave him all the opportunities to be close to us e.g didnt ask for monthly money from him so he could spend it on going out with us
but he spent it on his gfs lol
He rented a house eventually about 5 mins away with two bedrooms and let my brother decorate one bedroom, meaning it was his, so whenever i went over i had the sofa lol
On the rare occasion that I did go see him he used to buy me a 2litre bottle of strongbow and some chocolate and just sit me infront of the tv while he went out and did his own thing, it was depressing as hell
He moved 6 months ago to Whitby without telling me, and he also got engaged without telling me and I've only seen him once in the past year
As awful as it sounds i dont count him as my dad anymore

me and my mum are grand tho x x

[Nick]

mine separated for a while but they got back together and still are together

[Samantha]

Mine are still together. There have been times when they've been close to splitting up, but I don't really think they ever will, they've been married 26 years in April so they must have done something right .