Coming out....

[sim]

About 3 months ago I came out to my first friend ( a girl)

about being bi and she was fine with it, I then a few weeks later told my first guy friend.
Then I started telling a few more people and its becoming a lot more easier BUT im having some problems:

1) Some guys gimme a lot less eye contact, and spend less time with me.

2) Ive been acused on many occations of being attension seeking but I just see it as telling the truth because generally Im presumed as straight.

3) Its against my religion to have sexual relationships with another guy,

4) Name calling, some funny, some not, some bullying


Can some of you please help me by giving me some advice with dealing with these people?


Thanks a lot


Simeon1011

[benjamin]

Um well, the religion bit.. I really don't know what to say to that.. As I'm not religious at all and it's never effected me. But with the whole attention seeker thing, well just tell them straight; they can say what they like, but then one day they'll see if they ever see you getting off with another boy ;_; there isn't much else you can do, other than show them you are - which you might not be comfortable with, which is totally understandable. The bullying bit, well as only 1 of my friends know, I havn't had that eitheer (yet..) but, I think you said you told your friends, right? If they were proper mates, they'd see you for who you are, but they may be joking - you don't know as some people can be a bit sensitive about it. But try talking to them? Or like ask someone else to like subtly tell them to back off. The bit about guys giving lesss eye contact, well I havn't experienced that eitheer yet ;_; but tbh, just tell them, "btw if you have a problem with me being bi, don't worry as I wouldn't go near anyone like you " Like as a joke or somthing, I don't know. ;p


Hope I helped. [:

[summer]

About the religion thing, first of all, what religion are you? And secondly, is anyone close to you [best friend, sibling, parene etc] of the same religion/belief?

[sim]

Thanks so much for the advice +rep to both. Yes my best friend is of the same religion, and weve chatted about it this morning. He said he doesn't think God would have created us if we were bad disfunctioning people (a Christian religion btw). Some say its unatural but he believes and now so do I, that God intended us to.....
If this is getting too religiony for you I will stop.


Ta Again
Simeon

[-Wolverine]

About 3 months ago I came out to my first friend ( a girl)

about being bi and she was fine with it, I then a few weeks later told my first guy friend.
Then I started telling a few more people and its becoming a lot more easier BUT im having some problems:

1) Some guys gimme a lot less eye contact, and spend less time with me.

2) Ive been acused on many occations of being attension seeking but I just see it as telling the truth because generally Im presumed as straight.

3) Its against my religion to have sexual relationships with another guy,

4) Name calling, some funny, some not, some bullying


Can some of you please help me by giving me some advice with dealing with these people?


Thanks a lot


Simeon1011

Ignore all the people who make fun of you or whatever, you are what you are. If guys spend less time or look less at you, they're just scared, try to be friendly with them, but not too friendly with them, if that doesn't work out, try spending time with girls. The religion part i'm not going to comment about since I'm a strong Catholic and I try to follow my religion as best as possible, but i'm sure God won't care what you are, but who you are inside.

[sim]

Thanks for all the help guys +rep

[Nether$]

Im sure you have said in another post, but im lazy, what religion are you?

anyway about how str8 boys look at you, they only do it when they are arround their friends right? i think that this is the case because... how can i explain?

they feel its somthing they have to do, im sure they are allright with it, just infront of their friends.

^ that doesnt make sence i bet but i hope you can get what i am saying

[Cheep]

Tell the guys that you would never go for someone of that type, then they'll talk to you again. My friend like didn't speak to me after i told him and like a few weeks later i asked him why, he said he though that if we stayed friends that i'd like him. I was like.. ew no soz.

[sim]

Thanks again to everyone for the advice. +rep to all that help.

[hit-by-a-car]

About 3 months ago I came out to my first friend ( a girl)

about being bi and she was fine with it, I then a few weeks later told my first guy friend.
Then I started telling a few more people and its becoming a lot more easier BUT im having some problems:

1) Some guys gimme a lot less eye contact, and spend less time with me.

2) Ive been acused on many occations of being attension seeking but I just see it as telling the truth because generally Im presumed as straight.

3) Its against my religion to have sexual relationships with another guy,

4) Name calling, some funny, some not, some bullying


Can some of you please help me by giving me some advice with dealing with these people?


Thanks a lot


Simeon1011

Is it a reliegon like you have to be locked up in a cage all day like how women get stopned to death if they dont wear there vale =0