Confidence boost and boy troubles.

[vicious]

oh, i feel so stupid making a thread about this but..
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i'm really shy, i'm in year 8, going to year 9
i've liked quite a few boys in my year recently, but none enough to like, that i could ever possibily go out with. and ones that i do like enough, i know wouldn't like me back. either that or they don't know who i am.

i currently like a boy in a different house, but he's in the same year.
he probably doesn't know my name. but i know his & stuff.
i have him on messenger, i spoke to him the other say & said hey,
he replied with "hi" and that was it, end of conversation.

so, the problem is. i need an approach for boys better.
i need something to boost my confidence, but not too high, just high enough to get me more sociable around people, especially boys.
i'm really shy, like i said before so it might take alot of advice.

and i've never had a boyfriend... it really knocks my confidence.
^ thats the point i really didnt want to tell you.
it's so embarrassing. i had a like, "boyfriend" in year 1, 2. THAT IS IT.
i feel so stupid. is it right that ive not had a boyfriend yet?
i feel embarrassed.


thanks so much, please help.

+reps will be provided

[Yoshimitsui]

Don't be embarrased, just be normal and let things go with the flow.

The best thing to do is to just make friends and start chatting about whatever, and then build it up to meeting up and then build the relationships that way. Once you get used to it it's easy.

[beth]

you're only 13/4!! you don't need to have a boyfriend yet. i doubt many people in your year have.

actually, i've found that if you join perhaps myspace or bebo you can add the boys you like & then talk to them via comments or whatever. you can build your confidence up to a stage when you can go talk to them at school face to face c:

[Rizter]

if your stuck for something to talk about maybe ask them what theyve done over the past few days, or find something you have in common with one

[Throne Sofa]

Don't be embarrased eh!!

I don't think it's not normal. Usually people have girlfriends and boyfriends but if somebody doesn't for a few years then it's hardly a problem or something not normal IMO. Try to get to the know boy gradually first, maybe try speak to some of his friends aswell, either over MSN or in person whatever you feel more comfortable with, maybe they might make something slip out about what the boy thinks of you. Not slip out there
---) of course lol If you have a fear of being rejected after that, then get your friends to speak to him n stuff, or tell him you really like him over msn or in person.
gd luck!!¬

[VPSwow]

Well im embarrased so i know how you feel.

I got to know the lass i like by getting a few of my friends and getting a few of her friends to hang out then that way i have some1 to talk to at the same time and i found it a lot easier to get to know her

[vicious]

what gets to me the most about it, is the pressure of it all.
like, when your growing up. my mum had her friend round a few weeks ago when my dad went away to spain for the weekend with his friends, and we were just having girly chats, and my mums friend always asks (and other relatives, e.g my aunty), they ask, "so, do you have a boyfriend at the moment" and because i'll always be saying no, (thats what it seems like..) they'll always be like, really surprised. like i should do. i mean, my mums friend was talking to me about her daughter in like, year 3/4 having a boyfriend and kissing him. i mean what the? i havent kissed a boy! and i'm like, lots of years older than her. it makes me think something is wrong with me. it makes me feel like i should change myself and make myself like everyone else that actually get into relationships. but i know deep down i shouldn't. it's just the pressure. aswell as all my friends having boyfriends/girlfriends. its horrible.


anyway, speech over, keep the advice coming please, guys.

+rep for you all, if i cant give it to most of you tonight, you'll recieve it tomorrow or the day after,


x

[Callum.]

Do not worry about it.

I'm 14, in a few months 15 and i've just got my first girlfriend. I've always found people attractive, but sorta had the same problem as you.. being shy. But not wasting your time with fakes and people who don't really love you is good. Because when you find someone who does, you can enjoy their company and it be a new experiance that you will enjoy, rather than it being the same old thing every time you find someone new.

Don't worry about it, you'll find someone soon, probably without knowing.

[Eamonn]

you're only 13/4!! you don't need to have a boyfriend yet. i doubt many people in your year have.

actually, i've found that if you join perhaps myspace or bebo you can add the boys you like & then talk to them via comments or whatever. you can build your confidence up to a stage when you can go talk to them at school face to face c:

Bethie are you serious?
When I was in year eight, it was the year of two fingers, as in everyone was getting fingered and everyone was making out with everyone haha.

[BlueLord]

You are who you are, I wouldn't change for anyone. Be yourself, that's all you can do