Smoking Problems

[Paigeish]

The other week i was out with my mates and she offered me a *** and i took it. She asked me to sleep that night so i did and since then i cant stop smoking because she gave me loads. Im only 13.

I want to tell my mum so she can help me but i dont know how to without her killing me lol.

Can anyone help?

[Technologic]

Lolll. Tbh you're a prat for starting in the first place.

Ditch your mates, and slowly reduce the amount you smoke each day, then stop.

Also, go to the chemist and get some nicotine patches, if they ask say "They're for my mum" or summin

[Nightrose]

lol you can get the Gum in Poundland rofl

[CJW93]

Or just do the right thing and tell your mum

[[DC]eption]

Your own fault tbh, it aint hard to say no. I would try to slowly get off them by cutting down and get some patches.

[VPSwow]

How long have you been smoking.

I smoked for a year and found it quite easy to stop but it effects different people differently. Dont give in at the first hurdle and learn to say no.

Worked fine for me.

[seattlegrace]

Lolll. Tbh you're a prat for starting in the first place.

Ditch your mates, and slowly reduce the amount you smoke each day, then stop.

Also, go to the chemist and get some nicotine patches, if they ask say "They're for my mum" or summin

Your own fault tbh, it aint hard to say no. I would try to slowly get off them by cutting down and get some patches.

Oh please, give me a break. Have neither of you ever heard of peer pressure? She was offered a cigarette, she was intrigued yet vulnerable. She's only thirteen, most teenagers will experiment with some materials in their lives that they don't exactly want to, but it's not necessarily their fault? Some teenagers are reluctant to refuse that sort of offer, some teenagers aren't. Ever heard of "curiosity killed the cat"? Maybe she was curious, I'm sure both of you have done things you regret.

Anyway, I suggest you take a straight on approach and just lie. Next time she offers you one, say you're feeling chesty, dizzy or just plain unwell. Next time assure her that you "will in a minute", then wait a few minutes and change conversation - direct her interest elsewhere, I'm sure you get the point?

Now if it's to the extent that you actually want to smoke, then don't be worried as I'm sure you're clever enough to put yourself in a different state of mind to feel disgusted by the scent of cigarette smoke, or the taste, or the after-math of an addiction to smoking. Don't go for the patches, since you're so young; alot of people I know who have "equipped" themselves with them have been ill - choose the chewinggum, or even less of a risk, drink water, chew gum & other things so that you're too bloated to even consider smoking.

If all of that fails, go and see the school psychologist/nurse for some advice, and ask her to find you pictures of organs that are damaged by an extensive addiction to smoking, you'd probably vomit on the spot. Sorry if I didn't help.

[Janeisntpleased]

Oh please, give me a break. Have neither of you ever heard of peer pressure? She was offered a cigarette, she was intrigued yet vulnerable. She's only thirteen, most teenagers will experiment with some materials in their lives that they don't exactly want to, but it's not necessarily their fault? Some teenagers are reluctant to refuse that sort of offer, some teenagers aren't. Ever heard of "curiosity killed the cat"? Maybe she was curious, I'm sure both of you have done things you regret.

100% agreed. if you're just going to tell her she's stupid for starting then don't even bother posting. everyone makes stupid decisions especially if they're influenced by their friends.

i wouldn't tell your mum, i doubt she'd be understanding about the situation. just try and avoid situations where people might offer you cigs. if you're really addicted though, you could buy the patches or w/e from boots or somewhere similar.

[lAdmire]

well, you gotta learn from your mistakes.
you did something wrong so your mom has a right to be angry.
i don't exactly think there's a way to make it that she won't.
it's best you come out & tell the truth.
take the consequences that comes along with it.
i think that shows maturity when you can tell the truth & suffer the consequences that comes with it.
so... that's my advice.
maybe not what you want to hear, but i think it's good advice.

also, some people are saying don't tell your mom.
okay, that's wrong.
if you don't say anything & hide it your consience will bother you.
that's one reason i find it difficult to lie.
i never forget about it.
it bothers me so much.
just tell your mom.
it's what's best.
you never know, she might be happy you came & told her.
she may be understanding.

also, at the age of thirteen, you should know not to fall under peer pressure.
stand your ground.
it might be tough but if you know something is wrong, no matter what, you won't do it.
like say your friend's said just go kill that girl.
peer pressure right?
would you do it?
no.
why?
because it's wrong.
perfect example.

[seattlegrace]

well, you gotta learn from your mistakes.

you did something wrong so your mom has a right to be angry.
i don't exactly think there's a way to make it that she won't.
it's best you come out & tell the truth.
take the consequences that comes along with it.
i think that shows maturity when you can tell the truth & suffer the consequences that comes with it.
so... that's my advice.
maybe not what you want to hear, but i think it's good advice.

also, some people are saying don't tell your mom.
okay, that's wrong.
if you don't say anything & hide it your consience will bother you.
that's one reason i find it difficult to lie.
i never forget about it.
it bothers me so much.
just tell your mom.
it's what's best.
you never know, she might be happy you came & told her.
she may be understanding.

also, at the age of thirteen, you should know not to fall under peer pressure.
stand your ground.
it might be tough but if you know something is wrong, no matter what, you won't do it.
like say your friend's said just go kill that girl.
peer pressure right?
would you do it?
no.
why?
because it's wrong.

perfect example.

I don't see how that is good advice, as in "doing the right thing" as you put it, telling her mum wouldn't be a great idea. It's turning something constructive into another problem. If she told me mum, yes she'd be given punishment but is a punishment necessary for curiosity? Vulnerability? She's learned a lesson in her own way in experimenting with cigarette's, and now she's come for help. It isn't wrong to keep something like this away from your parents. For all you know, her parents could react unfairly and tell her that she can't see these friends of hers anymore. If that punishment was to go through, she'd be losing probably a whole friend group for one measly mistake, it's just ridiculous.

If there is a survey that says that thirteen year olds have an amazing amount of common sense, to stick up for themselves like that then please, show me. Don't say it's something anybody knows because it clearly isn't. So many teenagers around that age are giving away their virginity in an act of being "cool" and "in". Does that mean that all 12-16 year olds do? No, I think not. The determination of the person dishing the pressure again determines how the other person will react, if their determination in getting them to try it is strong, the "victim" will more than likely give in and give it a try - however if it's the opposite, they would more than likely cower after being told no. So yeah, sorry love.

Your example isn't perfect, either. Telling somebody to kill her is undeniably sick, that's not peer pressure at all. Killing people isn't exactly something you find out whether you like it or not, it's a serious matter. Experimenting with cigarette's isn't, so no - what you said is completely unfair; in that perspective anyway. Also, you're saying "peer pressure" is wrong - ofcourse, it doesn't stop people from listening to those easing and pushing them into doing something they really don't want to do, does it? No. Murder is so much more looked down upon, justice is served in the court, you're thrown in prison for an extensive serving, are you for trying some cigarettes? No, again you're not.