I feel suffocated!

[LucyFaye]

Hey,
I have been with my boyfriend for a long time now and I love the bones of him! We have been speaking about moving in together which I thought was a brilliant idea! So we've started saving up but since this conversation he seems to want me to spend so much more time at his house.
I loved it at first but all he ever wants to do is sit and watch TV or endless action movies... (whilst we're in that is) and he doesn't have the internet there so I like to watch drama/comedy movies, play my handheld games or even just kneel on the floor so I can draw on the table. But when I do that he whines that i'm not sitting with him, or if i'm playing my game that we're not doing something together.
I have managed to convince him to watch a couple of films that I like with me but you can tell he gets fed up and starts playing with his phone halfway through...
I tolerate his action films all the time but sometimes, I just feel like crying of boredom! I'm very big on 'me time' but I never get any whilst i'm there because he just wants me to sit next to him, doing nothing whilst he watches TV!
I love him so so much and I don't want us to argue about it because we've never really had a big argument... Does anybody have any ideas about how I could bring this up without upsetting or annoying him please? I would really appreciate it!

Thanks,

xX Lucy Xx

[lukeyo]

Just remember you don't have to necessarily get away from him.. to get away from him. Is there anyone you can call to just talk? Not about the problem, but about anything in general - a cool movie, new themepark.. these things take your mind off the problem as well as provide an alternative to boredom.

If you ever stumble upon someone you both like when your out at the shops or just when you meet people in general, ask them if they want to hang out - introduce more friends into your circle so you don't have to take relationships to distance seeing being in a relationship like this you must be prepared to settle down.

I know this doesn't really give a solution to the problem, but what your saying is you want to talk to him about it - all you can mention is that you want to go out to dinner one night and see what he does with it.. he could also be avoiding the problem by getting loud because there's a reason he doesn't want to go out, which could be something to worry about.

Hope this helps!

[Samantha]

Maybe he is showing you something, that if you move in together all you will do is watch tv eat sleep etc and have a boring lifestyle that doesn't differ in variety.

I suggest what Luke said, to offer a difference as something new could be the way forward.

Sometimes I stop over at my boyfriends house, and on the Saturday I find myself bored for a couple of hours, however, where your boyfriend watches tv mine cooks food for his whole family and asked me to help last time as he could tell I was bored, so maybe something that you can do together that might be out of your comfort zone. Maybe, even teach him how to draw, regardless of him maybe not liking it, you can always try !

[Narnat,]

Moving in with him is a big step and maybe this is just what it is going to be like, Maybe sit down and have a chat with him and see what he says and then take it from there, you can already see that you wouldn't be happy if this was the way that it would be if use moved in together. So yeh I would chat with him because us will get bored together if use are never apart.

[LucyFaye]

Helped quite abit thanks guys i'll take all your points into consideration!

He does take me out occasionally and it's lovely but I just feel guilty that he rarely lets me pay for anything because I don't earn as much money as he does.

He does do quite afew things that annoy me occasionally but then it seems all is forgiven at the end of the night when we just cuddle up and everything else just vanishes... So I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing? Not talking them out etc...