Hmmm, anyone feel like this?

[Glen Coco]

Ok, so before anyone's like oooh you're only looking for attention and all that crap, just leave.


since around year 5 I've been pretty much obsessed with my weight and how I look, it was bad when I was in year 5 to year 7 then past year 7 it got abit better but now, going from year 9 into year 10 it's got a lot worse. I check my weight about 5 times a day, when I get up, before I'm about to go out, when I get back, afetr I eat then before I go to bed.
The only thing I really eat now is dinner because I'm scared of putting on weight.
The obsessive bit came about 2 weeks ago when my dad decided to buy some scales (my mum didn't want scales in the house becasue she knew I'd get obsessed with them). about two weeks ago i weighed about 8.6 (i'm 5'2 so it's not overly fat but not overly skinny). it doesn't seem too good / bad but i'm now 8.1. (My weight that i wanna be is around 7 stone).

Aswell as this, I just feel down all of the time.
I feel as though my friends hate me and the people I talk to just want to get away from me.
it's not by their actions it's just that I've talekd myself so much into the thought that the world wants me dead all the time it pops up.

I used to scratch the inside of my arm until it bled but people began to notice and ask questions so I started doing it on the top of my arm insted.
i don't even know why I do it, it's not with the intention that someone will see it, just a way to get the way I'm feeling out without involving anyone else.
everyone else has wayyy bigger problems then me and I just feel I don't deserve to complain.

So I just wanted to know, has anyone felt like this?
Is it just teenage hormones and will it get better over time?

My feelings have been like this for about a year now.

Thanks.

xox

[iDenning]

I guess its part of teenage hormones, i get this at time as i am quite slim. Just be glad of who you are, after all their is people out their who would love to live a lifestyle like yourself and i, so i guess you should just get along with it. Try praising yourself alot Boost your confidence up

Im crap with advice, so sorry.

[Glen Coco]

I guess its part of teenage hormones, i get this at time as i am quite slim. Just be glad of who you are, after all their is people out their who would love to live a lifestyle like yourself and i, so i guess you should just get along with it. Try praising yourself alot Boost your confidence up

Im crap with advice, so sorry.

aww you're not
it means alot that you replied to it.
it's just i honestly really can't see anything to praise myself on !
I look at my friends and they're all so nice and they're really pretty and slim then I look at me and it's like, why would they wanna hang around with me?

xox

[chantellehugs]

I used to look at my friends and wonder why we hung out, or how they even liked me, and soon I started to act like them, being all goody goody and stuff, this was when I started year 7, in year 6 I felt like I was myself. But recently, it kinda just hit me to stop being like them, because if they are friends, they would like you for who you are. So now I am more myself, and I feel better about it. Instead of thinking "How could they want to hang about with me?" think, "Why shouldn't they be hanging about with me?"

As for weight, I do tend to check my weight on my sister's scales whenever I go round to her place, and sometimes I worry about my weight, I'm 7 stone btw, but I find it helps if you go out lots, when I go out with my friends, we always end up running away from someone, or walking alot, and I usually don't have breakfast on holidays or weekends, so my usual meal while I'm out would be some chips or crisps, but I just seem to burn it all off when I'm running, but you shouldn't stop eating your normal meals.

I'm not too good at advice either, but I shared a few of my opinions, so I hoped I helped a lil bit!

[Glen Coco]

Yeh I think like you said but I just can;t see anyreason why they would like to hang around with me ! I could make a list about why they wouldn't !

xox

[cocaine]

yeah im the same. except for the self harming thing. im not really in a position to give advice, but i'd say thats its probably the pressure put on teenagers, especially girls, to fit into social groups. even if you're not concious of it, teenagers are always trying to find ways to fit in. it's probably just that to be honest.

[Black_Apalachi]

Tbf, just from this thread you seem like a nice person (you said you're not an attention seeker, others have worse problems etc etc), so I don't see why you wouldn't expect people to like you .

As for weight; I'm probably a tiny bit taller than you and I'm not sure of my weight either but I'd say it's only a little bit more than you as well. Basically - I'm mega skinny but I hate it! I always wish I could put on a bit of meat. I have no stamina when I'm doing anything, I'm obviously not strong and I get hurt hurt well easier than other people cos there's nothing to protect you . I hardly eat either though.. not intentionally - it's just a combination of laziness (cba cooking something) or I'm just generally not hungry. I love food though .

Seriously though, there's no point punishing yourself for nothing. If anything, should people start thinking you are attention-seeking they might dislike you, and as you're actually not attention-seeking, eating as healthily as possible won't draw any negative attention and your friends will like you anyway!

Maybe if there's one or two very best friends, it might be a good idea to let them know how you're feeling. The two outcomes from that are:
A) they dislike you - but if that's the case, it is better to have found that out as early as possible so you can concentrate on finding real friends.
B) they are in fact real friends who do like you for who you are and will understand, or at least accept how you feel.

I'm almost certain you'll experience outcome B. Hope I helped (at least a bit) .

[Glen Coco]

Tbf, just from this thread you seem like a nice person (you said you're not an attention seeker, others have worse problems etc etc), so I don't see why you wouldn't expect people to like you .

As for weight; I'm probably a tiny bit taller than you and I'm not sure of my weight either but I'd say it's only a little bit more than you as well. Basically - I'm mega skinny but I hate it! I always wish I could put on a bit of meat. I have no stamina when I'm doing anything, I'm obviously not strong and I get hurt hurt well easier than other people cos there's nothing to protect you . I hardly eat either though.. not intentionally - it's just a combination of laziness (cba cooking something) or I'm just generally not hungry. I love food though .

Seriously though, there's no point punishing yourself for nothing. If anything, should people start thinking you are attention-seeking they might dislike you, and as you're actually not attention-seeking, eating as healthily as possible won't draw any negative attention and your friends will like you anyway!

Maybe if there's one or two very best friends, it might be a good idea to let them know how you're feeling. The two outcomes from that are:
A) they dislike you - but if that's the case, it is better to have found that out as early as possible so you can concentrate on finding real friends.
B) they are in fact real friends who do like you for who you are and will understand, or at least accept how you feel.

I'm almost certain you'll experience outcome B. Hope I helped (at least a bit) .

Thanks
But I honestly don't know how i can just tell them I feel like this and I'm too scared incase A does happen.
I'm not confident and it's taken me a while to atleast get these friends !

xox

[e5]

How old are you again sorry?

5'2 and weight a little over 8 stone is far far far from being fat ?

[Glen Coco]

14.

im not fat fat just not skinny.

xox