age gaps in relationships

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ok quick opinion plz


would you say a 17 (nearly 18...) year old girl & 26 year old guy is bad? personally i'm not really attracted to anyone under 22. i guess i just like the security of it all >.< anyway my brothers are not happy with this 26 yr old (we're not exclusive yet:@), even though they both date girls younger than them.


my eldest is 21 and his gf is 19, they have a baby together. she was 15 & he was 18 when they got together (he turns 22 before she turns 20)
my other is 19 and has a 15 year old gf, she was 14 n he was 18 when they got together

the fact the girls were both underage makes it wrong for me. but i'm legal so....

oh also

one of my friends is 18 and her boyfriend is 29, 17 & 28 when they got together and they're happy together + shes the happiest she's ever been so i don't see the problem

anyway what are your thoughts please

[Richie]

Its fine, once there's not an age difference of like decades lol.

Your brothers are doing the right thing ;l everyone knows underagers give people ragers

[Inseriousity.]

For me personally, I've always said it'd be awkward if the age gap was too much. I think 10 years maximum. Although I also think this is actually just a problem with young people. When you say one's 18 and the other's 14, you think 'eww how is that right' but I tend to just add 20 years on now and see if it's okay then and 38 and 34 doesn't make me think 'eww' so why is it making me think 'eww' just because they're younger. There are some very big age gaps like one's 70 and the other's 25. No matter how many years you add on, it's just too big (inb4 'that's what she said').

It's a tricky one really because I'm also of the opinion that age is just a number which kinda just makes my whole previous paragraph a waste of time

[Samantha]

I think it's fine to have an age gap of 9 years (approximately). However, I think your brothers are just looking out for you(her)(whoever) and just want to make sure she/you is safe.

Overall, if it's meant to be it's meant to be, we can't help who e fall in love with or who we have feelings for.
Also, you shouldn't let anyone tell you different, if you know you like this 26 year old and he likes you back then go for it, you shouldn't ask anyones thoughts tbh, it's what you feel. Just bare in mind, if you don't take the chance now, you may regret it in future.


(I didn't really understand if it was for a friend or you, so just replace you with her/she etc if it's a friend.)

[IceNineKills]

age gaps are nothing these days.

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depends if they look old

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For me personally, I've always said it'd be awkward if the age gap was too much. I think 10 years maximum. Although I also think this is actually just a problem with young people. When you say one's 18 and the other's 14, you think 'eww how is that right' but I tend to just add 20 years on now and see if it's okay then and 38 and 34 doesn't make me think 'eww' so why is it making me think 'eww' just because they're younger. There are some very big age gaps like one's 70 and the other's 25. No matter how many years you add on, it's just too big (inb4 'that's what she said').

It's a tricky one really because I'm also of the opinion that age is just a number which kinda just makes my whole previous paragraph a waste of time

lol he'd be 30 when i'm 21/22 >.> but 40 at 31/32 doesn't sound too bad. could be worse

I think it's fine to have an age gap of 9 years (approximately). However, I think your brothers are just looking out for you(her)(whoever) and just want to make sure she/you is safe.

Overall, if it's meant to be it's meant to be, we can't help who e fall in love with or who we have feelings for.
Also, you shouldn't let anyone tell you different, if you know you like this 26 year old and he likes you back then go for it, you shouldn't ask anyones thoughts tbh, it's what you feel. Just bare in mind, if you don't take the chance now, you may regret it in future.


(I didn't really understand if it was for a friend or you, so just replace you with her/she etc if it's a friend.)

yeh for me ^^ my friends parents & her bfs parents get on well...
my brothers hate anyone that does as much as look at me. normally i don't take other people's thoughts in to consideration () when it comes to this, my mum never wants me to get a bf ;l i'll probably persuade her, won't take much.

depends if they look old

lol he looks about early 20s maybe but i like that :S i don't really like anyone that looks younger than 20 idk plus i kinda look my age so doesn't look too bad

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The rule is:

( Older Person's Age X 0.5 ) + 7 = Min. Acceptable Age.

---------- Post added 19-10-2010 at 09:54 PM ----------

The rule is:

( Older Person's Age X 0.5 ) + 7 = Min. Acceptable Age.

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so a 60 yr old with a 37 yr old?
50 yr old with a 32 year old
40 yr old with a 27 year old?

nah i will stick to 10yrs maximum:@

[Apple]

If I'm honest I do think it sounds a little odd. The age gap you have is the same age gap I have with my english teacher, even though she's pretty fit it would feel crazy to have a relationship with her. But since you are getting on for 2 years older than me (I'm 16 in Jan) I guess it makes things a lot different, almost to the point that you could have a relationship with someone of any age within reason. I guess the bottom line is, if you are both happy together and find each other attractive then that's all that matters and why let numbers get in-between that?

And I just have to ask; is he Asian?