What to do?!

[The Don]

I'm seriously fed up, Honestly, I don't know what to do. My mum has always been an angry character, she kicked my sister out the house (at the age of 18) she went crazy, my mum ripped the blinds off the wall and threw them at her (I wasn't at home). So over two years later my sister lives in a house with her boyfriend. My mum just doesn't realise what shes doing, it's like it's ok for her to shout at my step dad, me or my auntie for that matter, but as soon as someone says something back, she goes even more crazy.

Anyway, today, she came to pick me up from work (she was all happy before I left and it's her day off today) then when she came to pick me up she was bright red in the face and mega angry. I simply said "what's wrong?" and she spat out "all I do is waste my time picking you and you dad (my step dad) up" and then continued for the next 5 minutes while I sat in silence shouting at me when I hadn't even done anything. Then she tells me that she's had an argument with sister because my mum wanted to see her grandson (yeh my sister has a son now ((hes like 6 months old, yes i know shes young but ohwell))) today because she hadn't seen him for the past 3 weeks, my sister doesn't like bringing him over our house because we have a big dog which jumps up (non violent ) but where hes big hes clumsy. and my sister said that she couldn't see him today because he was with his other nan. (my mum gets jealous far too easily) and then starts shouting at her, my sister tries to calm the situation down (why should she have to? my mum shouldn't act like this in the first place) by offering to bring him around to see her tomorow, then my mum starts shouting even more, swearing and just going crazy, she said "why should I help you pay your car insurance when i don't even see my grandson) and just going mental. anyway, yeh, this situation ended by my mum hanging up.

She then has a huge go at my dad for not sticking up for her on the phone (it was in the car, on loud speaker over the stereo) and my dad said why should he when she's the one having the conversation. she starts calling my dad a (insert c word here) and loads of horrible names,like she always does (i don't know why hes still here, I wouldn't be) and then she starts crying and grabs her keys to go drive off. my dad was stood behind the car so she couldn't go as we didn't want her driving in this state and so she starts beeping for ages drawing loads of attention to the matter in the middle of the street. she then goes off for like 30 minutes, comes back now, has a huge go at my dad saying some things which made me angry) so he says he's going to go, then when he comes back to get his keys she apologises and acts like nothings happened. then she starts being nice to me and asks what I want for tea.

This isn't normal behaviour, she does it regularly as well, I feel like I have to tip toe on egg shells around her. I guess I'm quite lucky since I turn 18 in 6 months, then I can legally move out (i'm probably going to wait till I go to uni so that's another 2 years away yet) but it was like this when I was a child as well. I think she needs to see a therapist but how am I meant to suggest that without her going crazy.

Sorry about the spelling btw, this was rushed and i'm just really annoyed right now.

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[Nemo]

Sounds like she has bipolar. Has she been to the doctor?

[The Don]

Sounds like she has bipolar. Has she been to the doctor?

I was thinking this. no she hasn't been to the doctors, she seems to think she's the one who is right and everyone else is wrong. I don't know how I'd even suggest she go see one.

[Nemo]

I was thinking this. no she hasn't been to the doctors, she seems to think she's the one who is right and everyone else is wrong. I don't know how I'd even suggest she go see one.

Go on msn.

[kuzkasate]

My dad is exactly like this, I really want my dad to get himself checked out because the stuff he does, isn't normal. I think he might have some sort of mental problem, but if I say that to him, he won't even listen. But try get your step-dad/sister and everyone else to talk her round going to the doctors.

[buttons]

it's either suggest it now, hope for the best and let her go crazy or leave it and let her go crazy anyway. maybe she knows what she's doing but just needs someone else to realise it too and help her. surely you're step dad will want to help her, I would talk to him about it so you're not alone. if you're prepared to be thrown out like your sister and have a back up plan then go for it. tell her when she's in a good mood that she needs help. it might take a few times but providing she doesn't throw you out it will eventually get through to her. hopefully. can you not legally move out at 16 or does that have to be with an adult? :s not sure what to suggest as I've never been in the situation but maybe talk to your stepdad, relatives close to her or her friends etc, you def shouldnt have to put up with it especially if it's been happening for most your life. I'd just stick up for myself more if I were you.
btw are you the only child left in the house? why did your sister get thrown out? might be less likely to put you out too if you're the last one and more likely to try keep you/get help etc but I'm not sure. good luck anyway, sounds horrible