Nan with cancer.

[=Lizzy]

Hi, I wouldn't normally do this but I really am heartbroken.
A year old My nan was dignosed with cancer in her throat. They kinda fixed it, But it was still there. I waemnt tos tay with her and she was fine. Last month we arranged with each other that I would go again. A day before I was meant to go I got a phone call, My nan was in pain and couldn't move. My mum went to get her to bring her to the house.

We went to hospital to find out what it was. Its another cancer, In her liver.

I really just don't know what to do anymore. I'm so scared and do not want to lsoe my grandma. I know that some people will reply saying 'everyone dies' but I can't live thinking that. I just want it to be back how it was me and her getting on well but everytime I see her shes in pain and is crying.

I just need people who can help me and give me advice on how I can feel better necause at the moment I just can't stop crying.

I visit her nearly everyday, and everyday I see her getting weaker

[Kellie]

Awww Lizzy I really don't know what to say I know how it feels, it's horrible, like I said if you ever need me even if it's really late I am always a phone call away I know it's hard and I really do not know what to say chin up babe I LOVE YOU. I will try to make you laugh on skype like I did just a minute ago I am here for you just remember that just try not to think about it too much because I really don't like seeing you sad love ya millions Lizzy xoxoxo

---------- Post added 14-08-2011 at 07:41 PM ----------

Just made you laugh again -win-

[Lamz]

My nan died of cancer when I was 8 years old... I was so close to suicide no lie. (Yes i knew about suicide at the age of 8) I usto go to her house every single day after school & every weekend. I even stayed at her house in the holidays etc etc...

This is how i tryed to "get over it"

My school gave me 4weeks off school & in those 4 weeks i had 2 weeks catch-up sheets & all that & 2 weeks to like cry & what not. I just looked at all the pictures of good times we had. I always sat in her bedroom & looked at all her stuff so i felt like she was still with me. I know it may sound sad but it does help, you will cry for hours each day but as you get older you kinda let it go & just see it as she has gone of to a better place away from all the terrorism/rioting/"gobal warming"/etc.. etc...

[chantellehugs]

I am really sorry to hear about your Grandma.
Try not to think of the worst possible outcome, and speak to someone. The worst possible thing to do when you're feeling helpless and upset is to keep it to yourself. I know everyone gives this advice but it really will help. You can't keep all of these feelings bottled up inside because in the end it will just get worse and worse. Having someone else who knows how you're feeling and understands will give you the strength to be stronger.

[Jordan:A]

So sorry to hear about your nan
Like people have said, the best thing to do is to talk about it and your feelings, don't bottle them all up, there are plenty of people who will listen and give you support on here and I'm sure your friends and family will too.

I remember a few weeks ago, a member of the forum posted a thread about a website which they had made which has a page for help and advice
Here is a link to the thread:
http://www.habboxforum.com/showthread.php?t=713535

[buttons]

you can really look at it in two ways;
1) she's beat it before and can beat it again
2) it keeps coming back so will eventually take her life
both are unhealthy ways of thinking. i say you hope for the best but prepare for the worst. don't spend it being sad because that's a waste of any precious time you may have left. enjoy every day you see her because that's really the best thing you could do for both of you. i mean it's not going to be easy and you will cry a lot so don't expect to suddenly be happy, that's the best advice i can give. it's okay to be upset but talk to your family as they're going through the same. when my gran died i was upset for a whole month and i know that sounds like nothing maybe in comparison to some people but eventually you will realize it's better that they're suffering no longer and if you've done and said as much as you wanted to your gran then it'll be easier to let go imo. still, i hope she does get better as she has before and talk to someone about it xx

[Eric]

Sorry to hear about your grandma.

The most important thing you can do is to be supportive of her. All you can do is what you are doing...be there. Hug when there are no words. Just love your grandma like how you love your mom.

When she dies , remember her in this way. Remember her smile, her laughter, the times she played with you, had you over her house, baked together, do things together.. All those things that bring a smile on your face. Forget the bad cancer.

Hopefully this helps xxx

[-:Undertaker:-]

Well you don't know how serious it is i'm guessing so far, but by the sounds of it (with her previous cancer) its just started and they've caught it early which is really good news. I really do wish this is the case and I wish you both well, these things are never easy but you have to stay positive as does your nan herself as hard as it may be for you both.

I know its not exactly the same but my Grandad had a stroke a few months ago and my Mum etc were really down about it, I weighed it up and it turns out I was right - he is getting better and will continue to get better and provided you try and look at the upsides then it'll take the edge off it.

[GirlNextDoor15]

Sorry about that. Try not to think of negative things. Think of your happy moments with your grandma.
Although my grandma did not die due to cancer, I still been through what you are going through now. Trust me. It could be very sad if you don't understand that sometimes, you have to let go of something. Anyhow, let's hope for the best

[ToxicPoison]

Hi Lizzy I'm sorry the news but dont worry Im sure your grandma's strong just make sure she knows your buy her side Be her superhero 33 Much Love.