Do you think men and women can just be 'friends'?

[Richie]

Can they? I have watched videos of people being asked the question in public and the majority reply with no. Normally it's the girls that agree they can. Personally, I believe a man and woman can be friends once the friendship isn't too close I.E ah come round my house after the club if you can't get home, you can stay at mine.

[buttons]

it's hard to say. i've had 3 best male friends in the past. all 3 friendships fell apart because i didn't like them anymore than that. i find that happens often and i can't just have a male friend to talk to, once you tell them everything and bond one of you will end up developing feelings in my experience, or thinking that you like them. i had that sorta experience just recently - he was an old childhood friend so we were pretty close meeting up, talking about life not love or sex etc. we'd talk about who we like and give each other relationship advice but then he told me he liked me and it all went downhill >.< i couldn't go to a guys house after a club unless i fancied them (doesn't mean i'm gonna do anything ;l) or they were gay lol i think there will always be that element of "what if" or one person will at least wonder what it'd be like to be more than friends. i don't necessarily mean they actually fancy the other person just that they wonder about it. most of my male friends i've either liked at some point but we get along better as friends or we've just been friends but ended up more. not sure about anyone else. you can definitely be friends until you start actually getting in deep. then again i fancy literally anyone that is hot/listens to me ;l but they dont usually last that long then we just become friends or nothing lol ;l

[Richie]

it's hard to say. i've had 3 best male friends in the past. all 3 friendships fell apart because i didn't like them anymore than that. i find that happens often and i can't just have a male friend to talk to, once you tell them everything and bond one of you will end up developing feelings in my experience, or thinking that you like them. i had that sorta experience just recently - he was an old childhood friend so we were pretty close meeting up, talking about life not love or sex etc. we'd talk about who we like and give each other relationship advice but then he told me he liked me and it all went downhill >.< i couldn't go to a guys house after a club unless i fancied them (doesn't mean i'm gonna do anything ;l) or they were gay lol i think there will always be that element of "what if" or one person will at least wonder what it'd be like to be more than friends. i don't necessarily mean they actually fancy the other person just that they wonder about it. most of my male friends i've either liked at some point but we get along better as friends or we've just been friends but ended up more. not sure about anyone else. you can definitely be friends until you start actually getting in deep.

haha my childish side has won yet again


I wonder if it would be awkward for a girl to invite their lesbian friend around to sleepover after a night out. That doesn't sound bad but if it's guys it sounds ten times worse in my opinion.

[Rozi]

haha my childish side has won yet again


I wonder if it would be awkward for a girl to invite their lesbian friend around to sleepover after a night out. That doesn't sound bad but if it's guys it sounds ten times worse in my opinion.

that's a completely different situation :S Asking if a men and woman can be "just friends" implies they're both straight so it's plausible for them to have a relationship, but the "lesbian friend" acknowledges that you're not attracted to women so there's very littlepossibilityof going further than friends (unless you're both very pissed).


Also erm not really sure. Don't think it's possible to be 'best friends' but yeah, ofc you can be just friends with a guy in a friendship group.

[Neversoft]

I must be missing something, because I think this question is absolutely stupid. Tell me, why on earth couldn't a man and a woman be friends with each other? Why does gender matter? People are people.

[wixard]

i don't think they can
one or the other will have feelings/sexual attraction for the other at SOME POINT

so wait, they can be friends but there will always be that element of attraction for one or the other, or in some cases both.

[-:Undertaker:-]

Yes they can, just as homosexual males can be friends with hetrosexual males.

Next question!

[MizzBex]

I think they can, I've got guy friends who are nothing more and we really don't see each other that way! There's no reason why it can't stay that way!

[luce]

I must be missing something, because I think this question is absolutely stupid. Tell me, why on earth couldn't a man and a woman be friends with each other? Why does gender matter? People are people.

that's what got me as well? I have had male friends all my life sometimes more than girls and it's literally been that, just friends. I don't get people, personally, who don't think they can be friends. Also im not getting involved in the whole what if they're gay debate becausepersonallyI don't think it makes any difference unless you let it make a difference.

However of course the friendships will be different because guys and girls are different but there can still be a friendship nonetheless.

[Neversoft]

that's what got me as well? I have had male friends all my life sometimes more than girls and it's literally been that, just friends. I don't get people, personally, who don't think they can be friends. Also im not getting involved in the whole what if they're gay debate becausepersonallyI don't think it makes any difference unless you let it make a difference.

However of course the friendships will be different because guys and girls are different but there can still be a friendship nonetheless.

Certainly, though I don't think I agree with your last bit. Stereotypically, males and females are different, but gender is just a social construct, nothing more, nothing less. And if you can look beyond that, there shouldn't be any reason for a friendship to be 'different' because of gender, as it's as you say; it doesn't make any difference unless you make it a difference. It's completely natural for a man and a woman to be friends, just as it is to be friends with your own gender.