How to deal with failure?

[Gibs960]

Basically we had this test a week or so ago and I did really bad on it even though I revised for hours. My teacher was saying that I should have revised more, even though all the highest marks in my class were attained by people that didn't revise. To make it even worse my friends aren't even being supportive, they just think it's a laugh and start making fun of me. So now, I'm dreading telling my dad and have made an excuse that we don't know our results. Don't know what I'm supposed to do.

[Matthew]

Was it an important test, like an A level or something?
If not, don't worry about it at all... I've done poorly in some of my mocks but came out with good results in the real thing (like 60% in my C2 mock which I managed to get up to ~90% in the real thing)

Just move on really, there's no point worrying about the result. Its done, you can't go back in time and do it again so its best to put it behind you (but learn from the mistakes).

[geo]

yeah, if it's just a practice or a mock that you've done bad in, don't worry about it and tell them. they could possibly help you revise next time around and if you've done bad now, you can see what areas you've not done so good in, and try revising more on your weak areas to do better next time.

[Inseriousity.]

By not seeing failure as the end of the world but accepting it as a part of life. When you're walking up the stairs and you trip, you don't think uhoh I'm going down, you think LOL silly me, correct yourself and keep walking up. That's how I deal with failure.

[Samantha]

For my GCSE Applied Science exam I spent approximately 35 hours revising apparently and got an E, I gained more with less revision and you just need to make sure you're not blagging your head too much with all the information that you might not need as well.

Don't be scared to tell your dad if it wasn't that important of a test, just say you're going to do better next time and when it comes to the proper ones you won't let him down; if they laugh don't let it get to you, perhaps you'll eventually get the last one anyway ?

[Gibs960]

For my GCSE Applied Science exam I spent approximately 35 hours revising apparently and got an E, I gained more with less revision and you just need to make sure you're not blagging your head too much with all the information that you might not need as well.

Don't be scared to tell your dad if it wasn't that important of a test, just say you're going to do better next time and when it comes to the proper ones you won't let him down; if they laugh don't let it get to you, perhaps you'll eventually get the last one anyway ?

I just know my dad will shout, whether it's an unimportant test or not. He'll say I haven't revised enough and that I'm a failure and all this. Last time I did badly in my maths test he said I was gonna go down into "the dummy set" and end up doing nothing with my life. Maths have never been my strong point, and I don't intend to carry on with it after GCSE but he seems to have a go at me however hard I try.

He gives me all this crap about trying my best but when I genuinely do do my best, it still isn't good enough. I thought "yeah, I'll probably scrape a B", instead I got a D, about 30% of the marks. I feel like I've let myself down but I genuinely didn't think I'd do this badly, especially after how much I revised, compared to other people who got A's through doing no revision.

[Cerys]

It wasn't even important if you're on about the set-changes one.

Seriously, who really cares haha. Aslong as you did the best you could, just tell them all to go away.

+ if your friends are laughing at you, they can't be that good friends.

[Rozi]

KEEP TRYING. JUST KEEP TRYING.


Although you put in the effort this time, and it didn't pay off, think about all the things you've learnt, and how, if you keep trying, it will ACCUMULATE.

I missed a lot of school, and so was behind in a lot of subjects, including maths. I started putting in the effort, and although it didn't nessecarily show at first, I ended up getting better and better, and got moved up a set!

So just keep trying, and imagine how haps your dad will be when you get home with that B you wanted.



also, if he doesn't believe you're working then do it right in front of him and tell him to shut up cause you're trying to work. That also worked for me.

[wiktoria]

try different revision methods from your current one

[e5]

I just know my dad will shout, whether it's an unimportant test or not. He'll say I haven't revised enough and that I'm a failure and all this. Last time I did badly in my maths test he said I was gonna go down into "the dummy set" and end up doing nothing with my life. Maths have never been my strong point, and I don't intend to carry on with it after GCSE but he seems to have a go at me however hard I try.

He gives me all this crap about trying my best but when I genuinely do do my best, it still isn't good enough. I thought "yeah, I'll probably scrape a B", instead I got a D, about 30% of the marks. I feel like I've let myself down but I genuinely didn't think I'd do this badly, especially after how much I revised, compared to other people who got A's through doing no revision.

The idea of mocks is to give you a chance to practice, and if you fail, you find your weak points and revise them harder. Failing tests does not mean you will fail in life. You need to watch this video.