Polygamy - thoughts?

[Judas]

I was reading a discussion on another forum about polygamy and it surprised me how many people are fully against it. So I wanted to see if anyone here has any opinions about this.

Would you ever engage in a relationship where polygamy is involved? Do you think it's normal? Do you think it's acceptable?

I personally would never, but don't see anything wrong with it. Considering of course that everyone involved knows and it works for each person.

[Derrener]

just googled it bc i didnt know wot it was

and

no i wudnt

[Empired]

Ok for people who don't know: polygamy is basically where it is considered OK for someone (usually but not always a man) to be married to more than one person at the same time. I'm pretty sure it's only really legal in some countries in Africa these days (though I think there are some others). However I think only men are allowed to be married more than once; women are still only allowed one husband.

I don't think this is OK at all? I think you can love more than one person but not romantically, I think the whole point of love or whatever is that you want to be with them. How can you do that if you want to be with someone else as well?

[wixard]

I have no problems with other people doing it, I myself couldn't. I would get FAR TOO JEALOUS

[Jurv]

had to google but god i'm against it

marriage isn't really something i'm bothered with but i'd say it's wrong to marry more than one person. due to the commitments you have to make during marriage i just can't see it working with more than two people in the relationship and i think it'd always come down to you loving one more than the other. if i picture a guy having two wives i immediately just think that the only reason he married them was for his own use. probs wrong for me to think like that but i can imagine one being for his sexual desires and the other for domestic work or whatever lol. thinking about it, i honestly can't see why people would be for it

[wixard]

had to google but god i'm against it

marriage isn't really something i'm bothered with but i'd say it's wrong to marry more than one person. due to the commitments you have to make during marriage i just can't see it working with more than two people in the relationship and i think it'd always come down to you loving one more than the other. if i picture a guy having two wives i immediately just think that the only reason he married them was for his own use. probs wrong for me to think like that but i can imagine one being for his sexual desires and the other for domestic work or whatever lol. thinking about it, i honestly can't see why people would be for it

in a relationship this will always be a problem with just two people anyway, one is always going to love the other more. it's just one of those things you have to accept

but yeah still wouldn't do it and don't really see the point (i'm sure others who support it/are involved in polygamy have well supported reasoning behind it which they shouldn't have to explain to anyone other than those involved BUT YEAH)

[Jurv]

in a relationship this will always be a problem with just two people anyway, one is always going to love the other more. it's just one of those things you have to accept

but yeah still wouldn't do it and don't really see the point (i'm sure others who support it/are involved in polygamy have well supported reasoning behind it which they shouldn't have to explain to anyone other than those involved BUT YEAH)

true but i suppose being in a relationship with two people, you and the other person hasn't agreed to love someone else and it's just the two of you. there's isn't anyone in your face for you to get jealous over if you thought the other partner doesn't love you as much. if it's just the two of you in the relationship i guess it's easier to keep an eye out so you know they aren't being satisfied elsewhere (unless they're cheating or w.e)

[Judas]

Ok for people who don't know: polygamy is basically where it is considered OK for someone (usually but not always a man) to be married to more than one person at the same time. I'm pretty sure it's only really legal in some countries in Africa these days (though I think there are some others). However I think only men are allowed to be married more than once; women are still only allowed one husband.

I don't think this is OK at all? I think you can love more than one person but not romantically, I think the whole point of love or whatever is that you want to be with them. How can you do that if you want to be with someone else as well?

Just because you and I don't understand it, it doesn't mean it isn't okay. It's very important to establish the difference between cheating and polygamy. Some people are fine being with someone that is with a couple of other people too. I don't get that, but it's just how it is. And I don't think anyone has the right to say that is not okay. I reckon it should be legal tbh.

had to google but god i'm against it

marriage isn't really something i'm bothered with but i'd say it's wrong to marry more than one person. due to the commitments you have to make during marriage i just can't see it working with more than two people in the relationship and i think it'd always come down to you loving one more than the other. if i picture a guy having two wives i immediately just think that the only reason he married them was for his own use. probs wrong for me to think like that but i can imagine one being for his sexual desires and the other for domestic work or whatever lol. thinking about it, i honestly can't see why people would be for it

Yeah I agree with what you're saying, I couldn't do it either... But it does work for some people. And I'm not talking about marriages strictly here, just relationships generally. We shouldn't say something is wrong and shouldn't be allowed because we don't understand it - if that was the case for everything then wouldn't homosexuality still be illegal?

[MKR&*42]

dunno if I could ever do it but I'm not against it at all

[Judas]

just googled it bc i didnt know wot it was

and

no i wudnt

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