Family members who left

[dbgtz]

Have any of you had family members who left or were simply never there? How did it affect you? How did it affect others?

[Martin]

My dad left when I was really young (so young I don't really remember him leaving which is good). He has always been an alcoholic and I remember being quite scared of him haha. He used to come visit on a Saturday as I was growing up but we never really got on that well, eventually he came over less and less and then it would be like every year or so I would see him and he wouldn't remember birthdays or bother at Christmas and stuff. I don't think I turned out to be the kind of son he wanted haha.

[Samantha]

No one really, I met my granddad when I was less than 1 year old, but like he had no impact whatsoever.

[Kyle]

thankfully my family is intact

[Cerys]

I basically don't have a dad. I dont regard him as one as I haven't really seen him in 4 years cos he's made absolutely no effort with me. He's too interested in meeting new women. He was a crap dad when he was around too. Better off without him ;D

[buttons]

lmfaooo get ready for some daddy issues.

Yeah my parents split when I was 11, I used to go to his every weekend. Then one day he stopped answering his phone and door. A couple years later I asked him if I could start seeing him again and that lasted like a month. It didnt effect me consciously at the time but when I do think of it, it does mess me up a bit!! Anyway he's since tried to get in contact with me and my brothers (through his gf lol!) but I'm not interested anymore. He won't do it himself lmao if he sees me in the street he ignores me. How would that not mess you up?? I think it was worse for me because he let me down twice by cutting contact whilst my brothers never kept in contact with him at all after they split.

His dad probably didnt know we existed tbh cause he left them as kids too soooo I don't see how someone who has experienced it can do it to their own kids but ye they are both alcoholics and druggies so that might explain it!

Other than that I get along with my mums side and rest of my dads side

[FlyingJesus]

My dad's in the UAE at the moment engineering the pilot trainers (for 787 I think but not totally sure) setting up the simulators and equipment for a classroom training deal having just done the same thing in China last month and having a few weeks back home before going off again, he flies around all over the place maybe he's Superman who knows but yeah he's often away for long long long stretches and this is something he's done a lot through my life and it's a thing that happens a lot so I take over his flat while he's away and all that it's great Habbo party and whatnot but I'm lucky I guess because there are all these sad stories of people buggering off and not coming back but I know my dad is always coming back so that's fab for me

MY SISTER HOWEVER bloody went out to New Zealand following her bf and then they were like oh this is good let's stay here and they got married and then they moved to Australia and had a baby and I'm like mate

[-=Tk=-]

Point of the story is, SCREW DADS!!1!!111! Moms FTW.

Btw @FlyingJesus; I'm watching NBC's "Why do planes crash" show... tell your dad I said stop screwing up.

[Kimmy]

I'm different, I suppose. My biological mum didn't want me because alcohol was bae, so I didn't have that influence growing up much.

Talk to my dad though.

[Hannah]

My dad wasn't really there. I used to see him once a year and it dropped. I feel like it would have been much better had he stayed out of my life entirely. He's not really a nice person so I'd prefer to not be associated with him.